I’ve posted a number of threads (too many) about my racist MIL. Last weekend, though, I got an earful from other in-laws, all sitting around using racial epithets and commenting that it was a good thing I couldn’t hear them because I get on my MIL for it.
So, basically, all of the in-laws I thought were okay people have turned out to be racists. Yeah, I should have guessed from the way my MIL acts, as if I’m the only person in history ever to have complained about her racism, but it seems she’s just the only one who’s willing to get criticized for it.
I didn’t say anything to anyone about overhearing their conversation. My FIL had just died, and I definitely didn’t want to start some whole huge confrontation.
So, I didn’t speak up. Now, I’m back in Ohio. They live in Kentucky and Missouri. My husband doesn’t like his mother, so my interactions with her have been limited, to my huge relief. But this is his brother, his SIL, his uncle, people he loves and respects.
I thought they were okay. Now I dislike them. My reaction might be too extreme, I’ll admit that, but the thought of seeing any of them makes my lip curl.
But for better or worse, they’re my relatives.
Has anyone else dealt with a similar situation? What did you do?
Advice welcome, up to and including telling me to get over it.