So, last week I flew back to Oregon to visit with my family, my dad included. My relationship with my father has always been kind of tenuous, but recently I find him more and more difficult to talk to and be around. In the past, I used to just let his off-the-wall remarks kind of roll off of me, or bounce off of me, or something like that… but now it’s getting really offensive and I don’t know how to address it.
I feel like I should say or try to do something, but I don’t know exactly what to do or say. This last time I was back visiting, I had to put up with tons of his bizarre beliefs like, “Hispanics are taking over the world,” and tons of crap about how the end of the world is coming soon, and the world is a sad place that deserves to be done away with, and tons of just awful stuff. I remember when we were driving, we saw a latino family crossing the street and he said something like, “Hurry and cross the street before another baby falls out of your vagina!”
Evidently he is also going to a church where they preach literal creationism, as in, the earth is only a few thousand years old (and I think he’s starting to believe it, or accept it as a possibility), and evidently they also have preached about knowing the precise day that the rapture is going to occur. It really saddens me that he’s surrounding himself with such nonsense.
I’m just getting really tired of this shit, and I don’t know how much longer I can put up with it before I ragequit my relationship with him completely. Is there anything I can do to help him, or to help me, or anything at all you can think of?
I am thinking about writing and sending him a letter via post, just telling him that bigoted things upset me and I don’t want to hear them when I’m around him. I don’t want to hear his religious and political rants either. I don’t know if such a letter would do more harm than good, but that’s my only idea so far.
Do any of you have any suggestions? Any and all advice is appreciated.