You seem to have skipped a few intermediate steps; we’re supposed to date first, and just when I’m falling for you big-time, then you’re supposed to find happiness elsewhere.
Or is this your roundabout way of asking me out? 
In reference to my EMT past the term coined for me by a friend was “Paramedic of Broken Hearts”
Hey, it happens on both sides. I talked about dating/flirted with (even unconsciously once) 3 women in an 18 month period. One is now married, 2 engaged. None had even met the guy before. Me? Going on a year without a date. (Not their fault)
The Reader has personals too? Heck, the next board they add here might as well be personals. Some threads get close to it.
Maybe you can commiserate with Elmwood.
Actually, if you look at the thread, I did commiserate with Elmwood. Maybe he’ll read this one and feel better.
For the lazy, you’ll find a link to the Reader Matches at www.chreader.com.
That’s www.chireader.com. Maybe my problem is that I can’t type.
So you did. I was lazy, just remembered the thread and linked. Sorry.
I’m not in Chicago, so the personals wouldn’t help me (Hell, nothing will), just this was the first mention I saw of them. Most of us aren’t in the area, so we’ve never seen it. Heck, I don’t even see the column any more, the local dropped it. I could look around to see if another paper picked it up, but I can just see it online anyway.
Take it in what sense thou wilt.
I definitely could use a date. And I’ve been known to send women off into marriage before. Although more often I send them off to other women.
OMG, Eva Luna, I thought I was the only one this happened to! I used to call myself “Miss Second-to-Last” because every man I had ever been serious about in my life would marry the next woman he dated after I was out of the picture. I made the decision to not be friends with the majority of them after the break up, usually because the breakups were bitter. But I would still hear about the “new girlfriend/Mrs.” from someone. In all honesty, nearly every time this happened, it turned out to be a Godsend that I WASN’T the one he ended up with! WHEW!
Now I have found Mr. Right. Wanna hear something weird? Within two weeks of him and me setting up housekeeping together (yes, we’re living in sin), three old boyfriends contacted me! I hadn’t heard from one of them for about 4 years, and here he was calling me out of the blue! The ironic thing is that, because he is a professional jewelry artisan, we will be having him make my rings! It was still sweet to hear the disappointment in his voice when I told him I was engaged to be married. Did my heart good! :wally
To the best of my knowledge, 5 of my 6 exes are now happily engaged in serious relationships, although only one of them is married. And in 3 of those cases, I am “Mr. Second-to-last”.
On the plus side, I’m closing in on 500 posts on the SDMB, which should draw women like flies…
right?
Eva Luna how cruel of you to mention “blood” in front of the wounded (old Spanish saying).
Write me down as the eternal Al Gore of love. Very good candidate but didn’t make it. It sucks. I tellsya. And of course every time I break up with an SO they contact me as soon as I recover to hint that live sucks without me. No kidding?! Why do they have to find out by themselves and not just take my word for it.
When the “Rules Girl” meets the regular guy:
err Just finally saw this… I am in Huntsville.
So’s my friend! Shall I e-mail you, or him, to see if he knows anyone? What are your criteria?
Heh… EvaLuna, if you’re prepared to accept a little fellow-feeling from a “misogynist” (Homebrew’s assessment, not mine), add me to the BTDT list!
Kudos to you for not buying that Rules manipulative bullshit.
(No! No! That’s not “intentionally derogatory to the biologically-normal functions of male bovines”. Mercy!)
I’m confused; what is BDTD?
:scratches head: Buggered if I know. “BTDT” however means “Been There Done That”
Sorry, it’s been a long day, and an even longer week. My brain is apparently fried to the point where I should really go home before I really screw up someone’s immigration case.
Heck your always more than welcome to E-mail me… or AIM message me or ICq message me or whatever.
I spy a sig in this. 
An odd way to think abot all of this but…
apparently these men were ready to “get serious” date/and even marry.
Just be grateful that they didn’t turn to you just because you were there and available.
Ya know? You want to be someone’s love. Not someone’s convenience.