Or you could just buy her a puppy of her own…
This is evil. I approve!
I found out where my husband got his habit of following me around. Because his dad has the same habit. He was just here for a week, and he followed me from room to room, chatting. When I was in the kitchen, he parked himself on a chair and commented on what I was cooking. When I was cleaning, he asked lots of questions. When I got up at 5 a.m. for some quiet, he came to “keep me company.” Then he came with me to my son’s batting cages. Then to my daughter’s softball practice. Then to the grocery store, and to Target and on all of my errands. Then he asked me to drive him a few places. Since he was coming and since I have become the hunted (even my kids follow me around), the whole damn family decided to come to everything. All five of us, squished into my Prius. Driving everywhere. Talking. All. The fucking. Time.
I hate talking to people right now. I kind of want everyone to fuck off because my people meter has been filled to overflowing. However, my husband has decided to come home for lunch (I’m working from home today to get some quiet) to “spend some time with me after dad is gone.” What. The. Fuck. People. Leave me alone. It’s all I can do not to respond with, “Oh, well, that’s fucking fabulous.”
I need to stop getting mad at people for wanting to hang out, but I thrive when I have an opportunity to recharge in quiet. Not having an opportunity to recharge is making me stabby.
Sounds like it’s time for the conversation that starts out, “I love you, but I need some me time.”
Honestly, I think some people are like the dogs that are heartbroken when their person leaves the house are ecstatic when they get back home. They just can’t handle alone or comprehend that someone else can handle it or even needs it.
But this is your mental health. Have the talk. Everyone will be happier in the end.
Last week, I saw my GP and mentioned that I have some hemorrhoids that have been bothering me. He didn’t even look at them - just referred me to a colorectal guy. So that appointment was today. TMI below - discussion of bowels and the like.
During the consultation phase, I emphasized that they had been around for while, seemed to be getting bigger, and were causing issues - pain, discomfort, bleeding, etc. - and expressed interest in having them removed. After my stint on the world’s strangest inversion table, the doc tells me I have a fissure that’s causing my issues and that since I mentioned rectal bleeding FROM MY IRRITATED HEMORRHOIDS that “due to my age” (almost 38), he feels obligated to order a colonoscopy to make sure nothing else is going on. THEN he’ll take off the booty danglers. WTF dude? I’m in veterinary medicine (which I know is NOT the same) but how about we address the chief complaint first, and see if THAT resolves my issues. If not, then you can break out the fancy tools. That just makes sense to me - less invasive, less prep, less recovery for me, etc. I mean I know he’ll make more money scoping out my butt, but how about taking the desires of the patient into consideration when putting together a treatment plan?
I have a follow up with my GP on a new med he prescribed for me and I’m going to mention it to him.
When in doubt, follow the money. I’m sure there is more profit in a scope and dangler removal than there is in a simple dangler removal.
One can only hope that medical school at some point, makes all the budding quacks go through a colonoscopy prep. It should be a learning experience.
Get a referral to a different surgeon. Make sure this one is clear on your willingness to consult with a third.
Part of it might be that you’re close to 40 when you need to start the ‘every 10 years’ colonoscopy party.
Keep one thing in mind: Your doctor works for you. He isn’t your boss, he isn’t your keeper or your mother. He doesn’t get to tell you what to do. He’s there to make recommendations, not issue commands.
Tell him NO, we’re taking care of the hemorrhoids first. Period.
If he disagrees, fire his ass.
Nowadays, it’s 50, unless you have a family history or other risk factors that will move it up.
One benefit of a colonoscopy is that it allows them to get a look at the hemorrhoids from the other side, as it were. Sounds like the butt doc thinks there’s something going on besides hemorrhoids/fissures. Blood in the stool is one of those risk factors that move up your colonoscopic incept date.
Well Avarie537, you’ll find about 8 bazillion colonoscopy threads on this board if you do a search.
I need to schedule my next one here too. Every 5 years for me now because they found a polyp last time. :o
Just saw a job posting. The title? “Articulate Writer.”
The ideal candidate blah blah and “write content that clearly articulates the benefits of our products.”
I dunno, it’s funny sounding to me! Like a job req for “really good doctor” or “a smart I.T. tech” LOL.
… sad thing is, I still applied. I really need a fucking job, and just got turned down for one I really wanted AND seemed perfectly well qualified for, so I’m a bit snarky and bitter.
I’m articulate, guddammit!
Now that’s articulate.
I would’ve been so tempted to reply to that ad with a (very articulate) rant, just like you did on this very subject. If I were reading it, the “really good” doctor and all that stuff would come across to me as just the type of writer I’d want to work with.
We (ad agency I worked at) once had a writer apply, even though we didn’t have an opening. His unremarkable resume had a line near the bottom: “Due to my inability to drive past a post-modern antique store, my apartment is starting to look like Pee Wee’s Playhouse”.
We immediately called him in for an interview. We told him we didn’t have an opening, but we just wanted to meet the guy who’d put something like that on his CV. He was fun, we took him out to lunch and had a nice chat, and… we made a position for him. He later became our head writer.
I saw a ad once:
Maid service, “I will really clean house”
IDK, sounded kinda aggressive to me.
My guess is they’ve gotten a lot of inarticulate writers and are pretty sick of reading their work. Good luck!!
I had a woman with OCD clean my house once a month for a while. She put in at least an 8 hour day, cleaning hard. I’d come home at night and she’d be finishing up, looking like an athlete who had just completed a marathon.
She’d also do wacky stuff; like emptying my refrigerator, cleaning everything (removing caps from salad dressing bottles and wiping down the threads) then refilling the fridge the way it was supposed to be filled.
The way *she *thought it should be filled or the way *you *thought it should be filled?
I once saw a job advert, for a company that did logo embroidery, that specified that they wanted a ‘computer illiterate’ applicant. The ad had just been put up minutes earlier, so as I was feeling nice, I sent them a message pointing out that they probably didn’t mean that. Got a reply saying oops, thanks for catching the typo, was I interested in the post? I was kinda looking for something new, so I sent in my CV. Got a reply saying that they couldn’t open the .doc file, could I send it as a .jpg?
Guess the initial advert was right after all 
Totally she. The first time she cleaned/rearranged my refrigerator she mentioned it to me. Certain things were grouped, things on the shelf were moved to the door “where they belonged”.
She was a nice woman and did a beautiful job. The last few times she cleaned my home I wasn’t living there much, having pretty much moved in with my gf. One of those times she found my extension ladder and cleaned the outsides of windows on the second floor. :eek:
That is wonderful.
I once filled out an application for a job at a shoe store that included the question, “Why do you want to work here?” I responded, “Al Bundy is my idol”, but they never called me.
That’s very good advice. I did get some “me” time yesterday, which helped immensely.
Today’s rant is as follows:
My department announced that I’m moving into a new position outside of the department as of next Monday. The idea is that all my responsibilities should be fully transitioned or as transitioned as possible to those on my team. The announcement was made two weeks ago, but senior leadership have known for more than three weeks, the day I accepted the new role. I have two and a half days to go, have been meeting with my team daily and suddenly senior leadership is freaking the fuck out and I have triple and quadruple booked “urgent” and “required” meetings on my calendar. Seriously, you people didn’t think of this before? I told you guys first when I took the new position. You’ve known for THREE WEEKS. Why the fuck are you only sending me all this shit now? Yes, you’re busy. I get that. But I’ve got two meetings scheduled on top of each other to get funding for something my team will be taking and another at the same time to talk to the federal government and the ONLY people who couldn’t see my calendar were the feds. What the hell are you people thinking?