Men and women tend to have different senses of humor. A lot of women I know seem to play it too safely when it comes to humor.
The only possible reason I can think of for a guy not appreciating a good sense of humor on his female companion is if said companion is so funny that she’s constantly drawing attention to herself in social settings. If the gentlemen in question has low self-esteem or (relatedly) jealousy issues, I can see why he might have a problem with that. But as you’ve already said, you wouldn’t change for someone like that, nor should you.
I am blessed to have married a woman who is not only gorgeous, smarter and wiser than me, but she’s also got a deadly wit about her that is hilarious, even when you’re the victim of it.
Come to think of it, I’m wondering why she married me… 
I’ll jump on her to save you.
Humor is my defense against the universe. If a woman is to steal my heart, funny is not merely a desirable attribute. It is the sine quod non. I can neither relate to nor communicate with people who do not have a healthy sense of humor. But give me the choice between the knockout and her plain but wisecracking girlfriend and you’ll find the knockout available for a date Friday night.
Of course, “her” sense of humour should be compatible with mine. I have a taste for witty banter, wordplay, and a generous dose of absurdity. On the other hand, I’ve little appreciation for humor that is mean-spirited, or bitter. I thought Janeane Garafalo was smoking hot in The Truth About Cats and Dogs, but subsequent exposure to the corrosive cynicism of her humor killed the attraction. I likewise find humor based on pain, humiliation, obnoxiousness or stupidity to be utterly unappealing. An expressed fondness for Beavis & Butthead, Will Ferrell movies or Jackass marathons on her part would be a dealbreaker.
:smack:
Yes, we’ve had that discussion. She blames it on falling victim to the Stockholm syndrome.
LMAO!
Everybody has a sense of humor - sometimes the senses of humor of two people match, sometimes they don’t.
I still have to meet one person who dislikes being with people whose sense of humor meshes with his. The only times someone can be “too funny” is if they work too hard at it (in which case they’re not funny anymore), if they use it to be the center of attention everywhere, or if you’ve just had surgery and still have the stitches.
I can’t speak for the average guy, but I think the woman I love is funnier than I am. She cracks me up constantly – sometimes with just an expression. Her humour is biting and sarcastic, and it slays me. She seems to think that I’m funnier than her, though. No idea where the objective truth lies.
I think a sense of humour (and a quick wit, especially) is just about the most attractive thing going. Hell, I think Margaret Cho is smokin’ hot, no mattter what phase she’s in – from gym body to butterball – because she’s as funny as hell. And don’t get me started on Sarah Silverman.
The sense of humor of SOME women emits a vibe of masking a lack of self-esteeem. Moreso than funny men – but I get that vibe from some funny men, too.
I require a sense of humor from a woman (as well as smarts and independence), but being outwardly funny doesn’t really make a woman more attractive to me.
But, some comediennes tend to be kind of “desexed” to me. I’m not sure why. The girls on saturday night live, or big time comediennes (Ellen, Lily Tomlin, Rhett Butler, Wanda Sykes) are never really sexy to me.
I think I’d have to anser ‘no’ to this one. Perhaps I think of “funny” as more of a male trait.
This question has sort of stumped me.
If a woman smells funny? Sorry, not particularly attractive.
If a woman can make me laugh? Big plus.
If a woman thinks she’s funny, but my sense of humor doesn’t mesh with hers? It’s a sign that we might possibly not be a good match.
This tends to be me (although my looks would send your hard-on packing) but my downfall is that I will joke when it’s not appropriate, like when there is the potential for a Serious Conversation. I have to really work on putting aside my fear of emotional intimacy and being prepared to really talk. While I work on it, I feel a lot of unspoken jokes bubbling up that I just have to repress!
So that could be a turn-off.
My hard-on is bulletproof, honey. If I find your personality engaging, it almost doesn’t matter how you look. You could be the Walking Viagra Antidote[sup]TM[/sup] and I’d still hit it.
All I truly require, physically, is that you be clean and well groomed, and wear clothes that are reasonably flattering to whatever body type you many have.
Let me know if things don’t work out with that hottie you’re dating. 
Hmmm. How do I go about changing my user name?
I think what’s more important is that each person appreciates the other’s sense of humor, like DianaG said. It’s such a life-extender that committing to serious relationships without its benefit seems almost self-destructive.
I love that kind of humor. Just goes to show. And you really need to learn how to code.
That said, don’t do Klonopin, kids. Do I have stories or do I have stories…
I’ve done both in my time (heck, I’ve done both in class) and I would love to have a “switch” relationship in this category–like yours, but where the roles change every once in a while.
Woah! I had no idea she had ditched the butterball body. Google confirms this, of course.
(I still don’t think she’s all that visually attractive, but MMV and apparently often does.)
This has been extremely enlightening for this smart, funny woman. I’m so glad I didn’t decide to try to hide either my humour or my brains to try to get a man (I was smart enough to figure out how bad an idea that would have been). Besides, being smart and funny really isn’t a choice - either you are, or you aren’t, in my opinion.
(My husband and I make each other laugh all the time, sometimes until we can’t catch our breath. You can’t buy that kind of luck.)
Damn. Chubby Asian women can be quite appealing.
Smart. Funny.
Married.
Dammit.
And a good distance from your location, I might add. (Though not as far as from mine.)
I’m a good cook, too.
Well then, I just might. Hell, I’m from the D.C. area and have been meaning to get back for a visit. And besides, you aren’t saltpeter. I seem to recall complimenting your eyes in the now-defunct picture thread.