Okay, I’ll give my example. I think it is just so CUTE and sexy when a big strong (preferably one who is a bit “cuddly”) man has, and obviously loves, a darling little dog. To me, it just says something nice about his personality. Over my dating career, I’ve found that, in general, men that have pets, tend to have affectionate personalities, which to me, is a huge (what’s the opposite of dealbreaker?)…incentive for me to want to get to know them, and definitely an attractive quality.
What about you? What somewhat unusual (and this is off the beaten path of “nice eyes, butt, good job, nice sense of humor etc”), trait makes you say “I’ve GOT to get to know this guy”?
I like good daddies. A man who is proud of and likes spending time with his children. A man who can separate his relationship with his ex from the one he has with his kids. I’ve always found this a desirable trait in a man. I’d rather a man offered to buy me ice cream than to buy me a drink.
I’m a big fan of playfulness/silliness/goofiness. I find it very attractive when a man is mature and self-reliant and dependable (good job, does what he has to do, all that stuff), but also enjoys collecting silly things or watching silly movies or things like that.
I’m kind of old fashioned. The kind of a guy who would bring flowers and candy would get a gold star in my book.
And a nice smile. I’ve seen guys who aren’t conventionally handsome who, for whatever reason, break out in a big toothy grin, and I’ve thought “He’s so cool!”
I am all about men who can laugh at themselves. If something happens that most people would think was embarrassing and he can laugh about it that is a big plus to me.
Love self-conscious geeks, nerds, dorks, whathaveyou. They’ve only got to conquer their shyness long enough to talk to me (and, obviously, we’ve got to click and they’ve got to speak to me like a human being)– beyond that I don’t really care.
Funny, I think of “good with pets/children” as one category, they’re allowed to be not so good with either but not both. Not all guys have been around kids to know how to interact with them, anyone might have weird allergies that keep them away from pets, but they’ve got to be good with one or the other. I suppose it’s arbitrary and unfair to the allergic guy with no kids in his family to develop his skills, but life is unfair.
I love when perfectly adult men dance and/or air guitar to their favorite old record on a sleepy Saturday morning.
To really get into minutiae, I like to see suitcoat off, dress shirt sleeves half-rolled up, with a loosened tie. Hummahumma, baby…
I like guys who can do spontaneous, silly things–like we’re walking and he buys me a balloon or a single flower (NOT a rose, please). I’ve actually never dated a guy who does this, but I still love it. Or a guy who wouldn’t feel emasculated if I did this to him.
Someone who’s not afraid to learn how to dance (hey, I suck at it too–I want to learn how to do regular ballroom dance, NOT the freakshow that’s on TV) or just take me out onto the dance floor and fake it somehow or sing aloud to a good song on the radio.
I like guys who think holding hands is great or will offer their arm and I’ll put my hand in the crook of their elbow and we’ll walk…
Having a nerdy hobby he’s truly passionate about. My husband is a 26 year old Ph.D student and the prime example of a responsible, efficient, and conscientious adult. He * loves* the X-Men. 9-to-1 if you catch him surfing the web, he’s reading something X-Men related. We were watching a movie, or TV or something, I don’t remember which, and the main character announced, ‘‘It’s in Issue 45 of the original X-men series!’’ My husband was vexed. ‘‘He’s wrong! It was in issue 42 that happened!’’ He couldn’t focus on the program because he knew he was right. When we were done watching it, he busted out his boxes full of old comic books and produced the evidence. ‘‘See?’’ he prodded. ‘‘See?’’ ‘‘Yes dear, you’re right.’’ Issue 42. So adorable.
See, *that’s *what I mean! My guy got all worked up the other day about something, and he was ranting and raving and omygodhot!!! I swear it was all I could do not to jump him right in the restaurant.
I mean, not that I enjoy ranting and raving on their own merits usually, just that it was seriously attractive for him to be that worked up over it.
My guy won my heart when 3 weeks into our relationship my 18 month old hurled copious amounts of vomit on him… He’d come to the house in his work clothes, picked up the little guy and sat down with him on his lap. He was soaked through to the skin with puke and he just calmly got up, took the baby to the bathroom, got him into a tub and didn’t worry about his own clothes until he knew my son was ok.
I agree that guys who love animals are generally very affectionate. This same man has a dog who he will just sit with for hours and stroke the his belly while he watches TV, lets the dog lick his face which is ooky to me but it does touch me.
Funny guys turn me on as do sexy hands and forearms. I also go gah gah for big thighs (proportionate, obviously, not 25 inch thighs on a 140 lb guy).
A lot of normal things turn me on about men, like a sense of humor, happy attitude, intelligence, honesty, etc., but the ability to entertain themselves in their spare time with learning and doing things that absorb all of their attention, even to the point of forgetting I’m there, is a big attraction to me. Someone that uses their intelligence to do practical things is more appealing to me than intelligence used to accumulate facts and I know that they’ll never end up whining that they’re bored.
Reacting to little crisis with a calm demeanor and the perfect tool at hand makes me want to drag my partner off to bed when he’s done. I don’t know if it’s because I’m useless at that stuff or what, but I love it.
Since these are supposed to be silly things: wearing the baseball hat of the team I root for, catching them singing to a song or listening to something that guys wouldn’t normally own up to.
The other day I stopped at the grocery store. While I was putting my groceries into my vehicle a car pulled up with the music pretty loud. I noticed it was a Brittney Spears song. Bounding out of the car was a guy with an “oops” look on his face. I thought he was adorable.
I’ve always been charmed by guys who do voices, or good impressions. Kermit the Frog is my favorite, and if a guy can do the Kermit voice, I’m smitten. My husband can do the best Mafioso voices ever, and he just cracks me up at the oddest moments.
I suppose I could round that up to a weird sense of humor.
