In this thread, I mentioned that doing fatherly-type things apparently had an aphrodisiac effect on my wife. The purpose of the OP, as you can see, was to indicate that competence in men was also something of a chick-magnet.
So now, as a public service to all the Doper Guys out there, I invite the DoperWimminz to give their opinions of what non-physical qualities in a man turn them on.
Non-physical qualities only, please. No comments about his eyes or jokes about the size of his package or the dimples in his butt.
Do you find it attractive that a guy can make you laugh, or that he knows stuff, or can talk about literature or film, or do you melt when he whips up a meal all on his own?
Come on, ladies. DoperWimminz are the best, and your opinion counts.
When I started dating my beau last year, I mentioned in passing that I hate touching the anti-smell flap on the front of most public garbage cans. (You know, the thing that says “Thank You” and get completely covered with garbage and crap?).
Anyhow, since I told him that, I’ve never had to touch another one - he throws his stuff out first, and then holds it open for me.
I love a man who can use his hands—carpentry, mechanics, roofers–doesn’t matter what. If he’s got a job that gets him dirty and sweaty while he’s being all competent-like, I’m in heaven.
I like a man who is very secure with who he is, one that doesn’t mind doing housework or helping to take care of the kids, also a man that is sensitive.
I dig a man who makes me laugh (how can you not dig a man who makes you laugh?)… but I prefer the ones who are not doing so unintentionally
Being the Daddy’s Princess[sup]TM[/sup] that I am, I do tend to like the dragon-slayers (no offense, dragongirl). I mean, I don’t want a fella who kicks some other guy’s ass in a bar for complimenting my toes… but, like alice, I like a fella who’s got my back.
My husband knows to take out my merino wool sweaters from the laundry bag when I accidentally throw them in there and knows not to put them in the washer. Then, he hand washes and flat dries them for me.
He designs and builds water features for a living and something about seeing him in construction boots and a hardhat driving a backhoe just says “beefy, hunka man meat” to me.
He’s very artistic and is designing a “hey diddle diddle” cow jumping over the moon mural for our friend’s nursery. I think that’s sweet.
He is extremely patient and puts up with my mood swings, pissy moods, anger fits and basically just puts up with my sorry ass.
Kindness. A good heart. Good with children and animals. Smarts and wit are good, too, but there are a lot more smart people and funny people than there are truly kind people.
Have to agree with those who like a man who can do things with his hands. It doesn’t have to be traditional manly-man things either. I love watching my SO cook and putter around in the garden.
A guy who can cook at least as well as I can (and I’m a pretty darn good cook, if I may say so) always makes me melt. Musical ability is a big plus.
I agree with everyone else’s comments about sensitivity, sense of humor, kindness, and compassion, big time. A guy who isn’t afraid to look like a sensitive marshmallow really turns me on! And if my cat likes him, he’s pretty much in like Flynn.
Kindness, gentleness, and good manners – I LOVE having doors opened for me, that sort of thing. Not because I can’t, but because it’s nice.
Has to like my cat, because where I go, he goes.
Patience. I am a pain in the ass sometimes.
Musical ability is a BIG plus, but then, I’m a music student. Maybe that should go under “common ground.”
All of this, and more if I felt like babbling on, describes my SO. I couldn’t have designed a better guy for me. We are ridiculously crazy about each other. If I wasn’t one of the parties involved, we’d make me sick. floats out of thread about six inches above the ground
My ideal guy is a bit of a nerd (glasses are a plus!) and a goofball. He has a sense of humor, which includes the ability to laugh at himself. He owns or has owned a cat, which he spoils rotten. And his sense of himself as a man is not implied/altered/threatened by who I am as a woman.
is witty, but doesn’t consider himself a comedian.
listens to me, and remembers what I said an hour later.
knows when/how to say “I’m sorry”.
can laugh at himself when he does something stupid.
can fix things around the house without it involving a trip to the E.R., or a trip to Lowes, to get the stuff, to fix the thing, that got broke, while he was trying to fix that other thing.
I like men that are funny and can be playful, that are sweet at times, but not ALL the time. I also like men that enjoy drinking and letting me go crazy on them when I’ve been drinking!
Gunslinger knows stuff. When he takes an interest in something, he sets out to become an expert in it. Old cars, cameras, airplanes. I like this. He tries to impart his knowledge to me, which I also like (although if I have trouble wrapping my mind around it I get annoyed, but that’s not his fault).
He’s also all handy and useful. He can fix things, and build things, and make things from scratch. I like this, too.
