Not in any particular order…
Knows how to make me laugh.
Can engage in intellectually stimulating conversation.
Knows how to keep his cool in an emergency.
Plays with children on their level.
Is more interested in spending time with me than in front of the TV.
Can wash his own laundry.
Will take in the occasional stray dog or cat.
Offers encouragement and moral support in my endeavors.
Is true to himself.
1.Makes me laugh.
2.Has little to no temper. He can calmly react to any situation despite the goings-on around him. Think Cool Hand Luke. He cannot, under any circumstance, make an ass of himself at a Little League game.
3.Plays with children even when no one’s looking.
4.Cleans up after himself even when no one’s looking.
5.Has a hobby (carpentry, soccer, whatever)
6.Remembers the little things about me. I have a really sweet student who remembers every detail I’ve ever revealed about my life. He’ll make a great boyfriend/husband for some girl one day.
7.Will change the radio station in the car if he knows I don’t like the channel or the song.
8.Wants to be with me over doing anything else, and thinks I’m the greatest thing since sliced bread, but recognizes our need for space.
9.Mops. Vaccuums. Cleans toilets. See #4.
10. Hugs. A lot.
Non-physical qualities that turn me on - well, one is when Jim picks up his bratty cat and carries her around like a baby. She just adores him (and rightly so) - sometimes she reaches her little paw up to stroke his face. It’s just so sweet.
Oh - I forgot a good one. It’s kinda physical; Jim always touches me whenever we’re together; leg stroking, hand-holding, just sort of leaning towards each other on the couch. He’s also always open to me hugging or touching him; he always acts like my touching him is the best thing in the world, and that is a great feeling to get from somebody.
My husband and I are in a band together and when he does a guitar solo and he’s really into it and lost in the music, I love to watch him. It makes me proud to be his wife, proud to be in a band with the man I love, and proud of the fact that he’s such a talented musician and able to let go and let his feelings speak through music.
I also like it when I come home from work and he stops whatever he’s doing and gives me a hug and a kiss. He’s a great handyman and will fix anything I ask him too, he’s also a self-taught tailor and makes costumes for the Renaissance Faire for him and myself and has offered to make me clothes if there was ever anything I wanted.
He’s a smart man and knows about things that blow me away sometimes. He’s always reading something and telling me about it, or he cuts out articles he thinks I might like and brings them home. He’s lived all over the world and he’s very close to his family, which I’m glad to be a part of.
~sigh~ I had forgotten how blessed I really am to have him as my husband…I think I’ll go tell him that now 
[li] Brainy. Nothing to discuss = no relationship.
[li] Not a drama queen, and not spineless.
[li] But. Can compromise.
[li] Is passionate about something.
[li] Puts me first on his list of priorities. (Not his mom, and not his golden retreiver.)
[li] Takes care of cooking, household chores and kids. Major turn-on.
[li] Ambitious.
Not afraid to try something he doesn’t know how to do, like fix the sink or bake bread.
But what really make my knees go weak is when, in a difficult or semi-dangerous situation, he doesn’t say or do anything but just ‘be’s’ there, so I can feel him right behind my right shoulder; but he doesn’t try to take over the scene. To everyone else he looks 5’6" and mildly interested, but I know he’s remembering everything he learned about un-armed combat.
And in a truly dangerous situation, he’s on the cell calling 911.
Just yesterday, J spoke to my mom for one hour trying to explain how to work email to her over the phone.
She got an email machine for Mother’s Day and he so patiently guided her through how to use it.
When he does things like that, I remember what a quality human being he is, and why I love him so.
I also appreciate the following non-physical attributes, most of which my husband possesses.
I found my guy. He makes me happy and fluffy and bouncy.
Thats all I need.
I am in the same camp as Synnic. Everything in my SO’s head is what I like in men.
So close to perfect… sigh.
I’m an echo, I think. But I’ll add on anyway.
The ability to get lost in something they are doing.
Know-how, especially with physical tasks, but also mental ones.
Passion for something.
Comfort with their full range of expression (sensitive is great, as long as it isn’t the ONLY side they’ve got).
Kind, kind, kind.
Respectful and unbiased - I fell for epeepunk in part because he respected me absolutely. He learned about things I liked simply because they were important to me. He doesn’t double-check my research because he trusts me to do it well. No having to overcome assumptions about lesser brain power because of gender (no comment on other reasons for any differences, but at least not gender-based!).
Good with kids is definitely up there. More so with our own kids. Major melt when I look into his studio to see him and our older son together, working on the computer or drawing side-by-side.
Willing and able to communicate - good at talking about us is very nice.
Talent as well as skill. Music goes under this, so does dancing, or cooking, or sewing, or building things. Having actually done something with the talent is better. This is why even less-than-normally-attractive musicians get the babes.
Patient. Very important.