oops I think I should clarify that the end of my post was supposed to mean “other sorts of risk may produce mind-blowing orgasms” as opposed to the first part of my post where in my experience (apparently in the minority) where the act in question did not produce a particularly mind-blowing orgasm for either of us (not to say it wasn’t great sex though)
The risk was a big part of it for me. When I didn’t get caught at first I upped the game. When the boyfriend got back in town I would mention that I was going to the movies with a male friend. I did a lot of stupid stuff that had I not done, I would have gotten away with it. Risk was definitely an issue with me.
Yes; a large percentage of sperm don’t swim straight, and end up tangling up with each other; this used to be thought a defect, but is now believed to be the point. Also, I’ve read that quite a few are hunter-killers; they don’t seek the egg, but seek out and destroy foreign sperm.
Well, I’ve never cheated, but I had sex in a shrubbery once (at Prince’s Island Park, for you local folks - yes, that was my bare ass you saw as you drove along Memorial Drive). While I did have an orgasm it wasnt’ a very good one, specifically because I was concerned about us getting busted.
So, I have a feeling that YMMV in these situations.
I did say that “boring” didn’t apply unless one or both partners lose interest. I also said YMMV. I had most of my affairs in a very casual way; a few relatively long term; a lot of one night stands, one that lasted five years and one that lasted, off and on, for nearly thirty years. Obviously, the last two weren’t boring at all.
Did you meet the guy who used to hide in the bushes and cough as you went by so you’d look over and see him beating off?
Cheating risk is not the same as sex in public risk. If you get caught having sex in public, maybe you and the mrs suffer a little embarassment. Cheating risk carries with it guilt, which isn’t exactly a turn on for me.
Actually that’s who I was having sex with.*
*Joke, for the humour impaired.
Yes, but for some, whose guilt-o-meter is not as sensitive, it is a turn-on, if we are to believe the statistics.
One for the poll: Mind-blowing, no. Pretty damn good, oh yes.
Am I the only one who caught this?
The one and only time I cheated on a boyfriend, it was a mixed bag. The sex was rather ho-hum, although I think that was due to his ineptness, not because of the fact I was cheating (and we were at his place- no chance of getting caught). The making out was incredible (in public, where any number of my friends may have seen us), and then that one time he spent the night at me and my bf’s apartment (not unusual, he used to do it all the time- he was our “Guy on the Couch”) and we stayed up watching movies (read: performing oral sex on each other) after the bf went to bed was incredibly hot, because the bf was in the next room and was very likely to catch us (and almost did).
That said, when The Guy on the Couch would spend the night I often initiated sex with the bf, because I thought it was hot that this other guy was out on the couch and could possibly hear us on his way to the bathroom or something.
You might say I’m a bit of an exhibitionist, and I’d agree. I’ve had sex in friend’s backyards on their patio furniture, on the side of a busy road when we got locked out of my bf’s apartment, all over the place. The risk of getting caught (whether by a SO or just random stranger) makes things much hotter for me. Of course, I’d probably just blush and be overcome by a case of the giggles if a stranger found me having sex on their front lawn, others would probably be horrified. YMMV.
Do you happen to know a person named Harbir Gil?
Wow! killer tadpoles :eek:
If one of these sperm were to make it to the egg, is it safe to assume that the child would grow up to be one of those Minuteman Project vigilante border guard guys?