I don’t think something like this is necessarily insecure. Maybe she was simply concerned she wasn’t dressed appropriately.
I also noticed that some people tend to be ‘one-uppers’. Whatever you yourself take pride in, they have to shoehorn some accomplishment/thing that is ‘equivalent’ or even better. A lot of times it ends up being a real stretch.
My aunt is notorious for this. For the longest time I didn’t realize what was going on; it seemed like her two daughters were the most perfect, hyper successful little angels to walk the earth. Then when I got older I started really noticing that any accomplishment I ever had that I talked about to her would end up being second banana to what her daughters had recently done. It got kind of sad when one daughter dropped out of college and was living with a real deadbeat for a boyfriend at the time and Mom was still trying to spin gold from straw about her daughters. I get that you don’t want to rag on your own kids and all, but at the same time you can hope the best for them while still being realistic about whats going on.
This particular aunt drives my wife nuts. At a wedding shower, my aunt asked my wife how she was doing in school, and my wife was talking about how she was working on her Master’s Thesis, and how it was stressful and challenging. My aunt mentions that her daughter is doing the ‘exact same thing’ in her teaching program (my cousin was working on her Teacher’s Credential at the time). My wife politely corrected her, saying that the work leading to a Teacher’s Credential is not the same as a Master’s Degree, and my cousin’s “final project” for school wasn’t the same as my wife’s Thesis. My aunt seemed to disagree and my wife got annoyed that she had to try to go out of her way to find some ‘equivalent’ thing to brag about. Its not like my wife goes out of her way to talk about school and how hard it was and how good she did- she brought it up in response to a question.
My stebrother’s girlfriend has this funny habit of obsessing over “that one B” she got in undergrad. Apparently she got near straight A’s in college with the exception of one class (that she got a B in obviously). When she asks my wife how she is doing in school (back when she was still in Grad School), my wife will answer candidly how challenging and time consuming it was, and how she can’t wait to get done. Stepbrother’s girlfriend will always lament how when she was in school she got “that one B” and seems to blame it for not being able to get a full-time job after college/being unwilling to go to Grad School herself/not knowing what to do with her life :rolleyes:
If it helps, one of the greatest romantic heroes of all time had a very similar aunt. In Pride and Prejudice, Mr. Darcy’s aunt Lady Catherine says “I must have my share in the conversation, if you are speaking of music. There are few people in England, I suppose, who have more true enjoyment of music than myself, or a better natural taste. If I had ever learnt, I should have been a great proficient. And so would [my daughter] Anne, if her health had allowed her to apply. I am confident that she would have performed delightfully.”
I find that people will hate you no matter what you do or don’t do…
People don’t like to be wrong when they assume whatever they want about someone else that they don’t know.
Even after you prove them totally wrong in their assumptions, they will just wait until you do something, no matter how benign or innocuous, to prove that they were right all along, no matter how much they have to stretch the truth or take things out of context, or just right out LIE about you.
I just don’t fucking talk to people anymore unless I have to…
It wasn’t that. I would have simply assured her that she was just fine.It was definitely " Everybody might be looking at ME rather than paying attention to the deceased person and his which is the real reason that we are here."
She really had a number of issues and it became just too draining to continue to date her.
I used to work with a pharmacist who mostly associates with ex-convicts. And no, she was not raised in that kind of environment. I never quite figured it out either.
