I first saw it back several years ago, about six months after NY legalized same-sex marriages. I was at a conference, meeting a group of people from local colleges. One guy introduced another guy as “my husband.”
It was like a record scratch in my head. Then I thought, “Oh, right, you can do that now” and went on. It didn’t bother me, but it did cause a moment of confusion.
I was saying even back before same-sex marriage was legally recognized that gay people should call their partners “husband” or “wife”, as well as going through whatever ceremonies they deemed appropriate. Governments don’t marry people; people marry each other.
It does make me do a mental adjustment whenever I hear it, but only in the sense that I’m adding “so-and-so is gay” and “so-and-so is married” to my mental list of information known about so-and-so. And I’ve had to make similar mental adjustments on learning that straight people who I thought were single were actually married.
Fine with me. People can call themselves and their loved ones anything they want, as long as it’s consensual.
I chose “okay with it” because I’m not “squicked” at all, but yeah, I sort of do a surprised eyebrow twitch for a second still.
That’ll go away in time. I don’t notice Ms-ssss anymore at all.
This is as natural to me as referring to my own parents as “mother” and “father.” There is nothing unusual about the relationship or the labels. If it’s someone I don’t know and they didn’t ping my gaydar, I might have a quarter second or so when I am processing two new pieces of information about them rather than just one at a time.
I have no problem with it.
I work with a married gay man, I know them both well and yet he will still refer to “his husband” rather than by name. They both know my wife and I so when I am talking about my wife, I will refer to her by her name. I asked why he seems to insist on saying “my husband” when we all know each other. He said that he still likes the “ring of it” as well as watching other people’s often humorous reactions. As a side note, they are still in their newlywed stage, whereas my wife and I have been married for several years. I still find it humorous to hear about things they do, even if they don’t like it. For instance, they are pretty down to earth people, but they will dress up, go to a fancy dinner and then complain about the cost, having to dress up, etc. I ask them why they do it and they always say “that is what married people do, we’re married, so we have to do it too.” Explaining to them that not all married couples go out to “fancy dinners”, etc doesn’t help.
And yes, they are young and still believe that sitcoms and other television shows are actually documentaries.
I like it much better than “partner.”
I was in a bar talking to a guy I hadn’t met before. Another guy comes in and sits down next to us and the first guy introduces him as his partner Bob. Ok, a couple gay guys, no problem with that.
The talking turns to the subject of home remodeling, which I am doing a little while on vacation. Turns out the first guy I was talking to is a general building contractor doing some work in the area. Bob is his business partner.
Ok, a couple of non-gay guys.
I have to confess to being one of the less-than-10% to choose “squicks me out a little,” though that’s probably overstating it. It’s probably more like how Shodan puts it, where there’s a moment of “ohhhhh” and then being totally OK with it. I think I’m more confused when someone uses the word “partner” when referring to a heterosexual relationship.
I believe “spouse” is a perfectly fine word. Granted, while its gender-neutrality may avoid the flash of cognitive dissonance that “husband” or “wife” may cause, it would probably make me wonder why they didn’t say “husband” or “wife”.
Unless there’s more information than you’ve shared, there’s no reason to assume that. 
I’ve got several gay friends who are married (some are divorced already!) so it’s not an issue for me. It comes up on TV shows and in movies a lot too so, it’s “normalized” in my world already.
Even the question seems weird to me. I can’t even imagine the mentality of someone who is bothered by this.
No problem in person or in writing. And when I hear it on Wheel of Fortune, I’m a bit happy since when it is accepted on this mainstream “America’s Game” TV show, SSM has won.
it is accurate certainly, but I can’t think of a situation where I’d ever introduce my wife as my “spouse”. It seems awfully legalistic and formal.
Gay folks have been husbanding and wifing here in Vermont for a decade now. I would be surprised if they called them anything else.
I voted “I’m okay with it” because there was no “How does it possibly make any difference to anybody how I possibly feel about it?”
I don’t know if “my husband” or “my wife” should realty be used. I think “My legally wedded husband/wife in the eyes of God” is much better.
Sorry; please scratch my accidental ‘squicks me out a bit’ vote. I didn’t read the question/OP properly and missed the same-sex angle. The possessive sound of ‘my’ husband/wife very slightly rankles me, so I prefer to use my wife’s name, where it’s understood.
Yeah - I really couldn’t care less whatever anyone wants to call anyone else. But I do find it mildly novel as opposed to the familiar “partner”. Am encountering it more and more, and sense the novelty is wearing off.
I conduct hearings, and when someone has a witness, I wish to know their relation - friend, neighbor, whatever. A year ago, my hearing same sex wife/husband was rare (Chicago area). Now, it is not at all uncommon.
I’m pretty frickin far beyond OK with it. What other term would one use?
I’ve been noticing some of my Lesbian friends taking their wives’ names. THAT unsettles me a bit for some odd reason (like, why?), but it’s none of my business.
Reading this – I wonder whether her thoughts might have been along the lines of “dot kon nor a goy” – “nothing these demented Gentiles get up to, can surprise me” : and reacted accordingly 
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For myself – same, essentially, as BrotherCadfael and Shodan and others – I’m old, and unused-to: a momentary double-take, then, “OK”. I have no intellectual or moral objections; and people’s usage in this area, does me no harm of any kind.