Starting in 2011 I had a huge limiting belief about being Indian and scoring with attractive women outside of my own race. Went on a personal journey.
For a long time I worked out, ate right, dressed right, and read books on doing well with women. Despite being decent looking and doing all things right I did have my struggles.
Went on internet forums and asked people repeatedly if they have seen Indian men date interracial before since I find my ethnicity was limiting me.
In mid to late 2012 I started to see more and more success with women but I still had my insecurity/limiting belief.
For the past month, it has pretty much been dead and I just feel like a whole new person.
Did you think you could score with attractive women within your race?
Why was it important for you to date women outside your race?
Why was it important for you to “score” with “attractive” women? Have you gone on a personal journey to figure out how to have a long and stable relationship with a woman? If not, why was it more important for you to figure out how to score with attractive women rather than to figure out how to have a happy relationship?
I doubt it was your ethnicity; there are plenty of handsome, in-shape, well dressed guys who don’t regularly score with women of any kind, attractive or not. Sometimes it’s confidence or some other internal thing, but a lot of the time, it’s just not being in the right place with the right people.
I never had much luck “scoring” at all, even back when I was actually judged handsome, in-shape and well dressed (ca. 2001 or so), mostly because the crowd of people I hung around with wasn’t into “hooking up” or anything like that.
One more thing, if you’re an Indian guy, lose the 1970s porn star mustache. Do they issue those to you guys when you hit puberty or something?
Thinly veiled bragging that you’re shagging a white chick, makes you seem even smarmier than your previous threads did. Quite an accomplishment. Job Well done.
If by focused you mean a 68-post singular and enthusiastically fetishy focus on pursuit of the elusive pale-skin golden hair female to exclusion of all else, then yes, I agree with your definition
Curious Guy, I assume by now you’ve found that her nether regions don’t spray lotus-scented rainbows and that your peers are probably more puzzled by your single-minded focus than enchanted by your newly elevated status as the Indian Who Bagged Him a White Girl.
Buy yourself a BMW and a rocking pair of aviators. Or hell, you’re Indian. Get your PhD in rocket science AND microbiotics by the time you’re 25. The ladies will swoooooon, I tells ya.
Go for Indian-origin (i.e., genetically South Asian) women who were not raised in India, nor were their parents. Malaysian Indians could work out well for you, as could Trinidad or Guyana Indians. I’m guessing South African ones as well. Also Mauritius (or is it Reunion? Probably both.)
(Also, Curious Man is about the least curious Doper I’ve come across. Hope that’s okay to say outside of the Pit.)