Do you know my friend Tom? He’s gay. Tom the baker. You guys all know eachother right?
Fun thread. Thanks Antinor01!
Do I remember what I was getting at, is the question? 
Let me think on exactly what I was trying to ask…I’ll get back to you!
Tom yes, great guy, lotta laughs. hehe.
Actually it’s funny when someone honestly believes that I personally know every gay guy in the world. Though, some people here in LA think I know everyone east of the mississippi just because I grew up in ohio so that just goes to show that people are nuts.
Honey, please: I’m a straight girl, and I know more about being gay than some of the gay people I’ve met. Seriously!
Being upfront about your ignorance is admirable, but don’t blame your orientation.
I’m a public school teacher, not the most gay-tolerant of professions. This fall, should I:
(a) Get involved with canvassing for the bill which will outlaw employment and housing discrimination for GBLTs, but don’t come out at work, and hope that I don’t knock on the door of any of my own students
(b) Get involved with canvassing, but come out at school before I get outed
© Skip canvassing because I fear for my job, but come out at school if the bill passes
(d) Never, ever, ever come out at work
(e) other
Thanks for answering…now I have another!
Do you think gays have a lesser chance at finding a successful, long-lasting roantic relationship than heteros? With the stigma of being gay in some circles, so many people being ‘in the closet’ or many just experimenting, it seems like you have it much harder to find a working, healthy relationship.
Also, what’s the longest gay relationship you’ve seen? Are the number of long-term relationships comparable to hetero ones you’ve seen?
A couple of guys moved into the rental house across from me. They are mid-twenties to early thirties, waiters, very well dressed/groomed, both drive Mustang hardtops, and raise teacup chihuahuas. Are they gay?
Hmm, I can’t think of anyone offhand that would fit that catergory. In my case, a better question would be ‘who would I hide being gay in exchange for a better relationship with.’ If anyone it would be my mother, but even at that I doubt it.
And now the last 5…
- yes, sometimes. I’m not big into porn, I figure why watch when I can do?
- no, not at all.
- Yes. Beauty is beauty and to me is not the same as sexual attraction.
- Hmm, if by attracted you mean, would I want to have sex with her, then no.
- As to my close friends, yes. I don’t keep a wide social circle, but the people that are my dearest friends (aside from my SO) are female.
Supposing you had to, which of the gay subcultures would you place yourself in and do you have a particular aversion to any?
What do you think of a LGBT community?
Is there such a thing as a “gay guy’s car?” That is, if you were buying a new car next week, would your sexuality affect the choice of brand?
Condoms: plain or ribbed?
OH the ironies of the messaging world. I’ll elaborate further when I get more time, FisherQueen, but you might be interested in getting involved with GLSEN Cincinnati. GLSEN stands for the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network. I admit I am biased because I’m currently employed by them, but we honestly are a good group of people with experience in issues of coming out in the field (both as GLBT or as an ally). I’ll dredge up some more stuff, but I also wanted to toss in that Citizens to Restore Fairness rock and it’s well worth the effort to get involved with them.
Priam is right, that is a good group to work with. (I couldn’t think of the name!) So I’ll just add some general advice.
The if, when and how of coming out is going to vary by person. If you’re unsure of how it would affect your job, I would start by feeling out your co-workers feelings about gay people (What did you think of that Will and Grace episode? Did you hear that news item about the gay man who was attacked? etc). That can help give you a gauge to see what it would be like.
If you do decide to come out at work, I would take it slow. Is there someone at work you can confide in? If so, start with that person. Take small steps, if you’re in a relationship, perhaps you can put that persons picture on your desk. Find small ways to let it be known, but I wouldn’t make a huge production out of it.
A plus of coming out is going to be, students who are gay or questioning will have a person they can see in their own life who is gay, they have someone to talk to. (disclaimer-IANAL or education expert, you know better than I what is acceptable in a school and what isn’t)
I wouldn’t say that per se. I’d be tempted to say that there are more gay guys that don’t want an LTR, but I have nothing really to back that up.
Longest relationship I’ve seen…one of the guys that rides my bus to work has been with his partner 40 some years, I’ve known others that were together over 50 years. I think a lot of why we don’t see a lot of these 40+ year relationships is they’ve had to hide them.
It wasn’t that long ago that coming out as gay would likely get you attacked, abused, arrested, fired, kicked out of your home etc. These still happen to some degree, but not nearly what it was like in the 50’s and 60’s. The gentleman from my bus grew up having to hide his relationship, they introduced each other as their brother, and even still carries some of that sense now. The older generation that has had time to be in an LTR for 40+ years spent a lot of that having to hide it in fear of their life. I believe over the next 10-20 years it will become a lot more common, or at least more obvious, that there are gay couples who have been together for a lifetime.
Heh, a trick question! You almost had me until you mentioned the mustangs. Everyone knows that a true gay guy would be driving a Miata or a BMW Z4.
Hmm, probably the mid 30’s casual crowd. The ones that go out sometimes, but also get together for dinners or movies. Not sure exactly what you’d call that.
Can’t think of any particular aversions, though I’d say I probably have the least in common with the late teen-early 20’s club kids.
Is it true that gay people do not enjoy “manly” activities as much as other men. Do you think that the western world is increasingly imitating gay people? If so does this annoy you?
A year ago, I would have said no. However, some of the larger religious right ‘family’ groups have been boycotting Ford. Ford’s crimes…advertising in gay publications, donating part of their charitable money to gay advocacy groups, extending benefits to their employees with same-sex partners. Basically being a tolerant environment. So I would be more inclined to purchase from Ford to support their standing up to the right wing and refusing to give in to their demands for discrimination.
To your other question…the last several years, neither. When we were using them, plain.
I wouldn’t say that. I would say that in general there are more gay guys that don’t care about so-called manly activities. (again, nothing to back this up, just my own observation) Though, what’s more manly than two guys getting it on?? 
I think in ways it is, but honestly it makes me feel sorry for straight guys. I mean, you guys have it rough. Women want you to be tender and caring, but rough and tumble. They want you to groom and dress well, but not take a lot of time about it or look better than they do. Be sensitive but be ‘a man’. How’s a straight guy supposed to know what to do? This is one of those things that makes me glad to be gay, no need to figure out what women want!
Love ya girls, really I do. But ya’ll are crazy!
He move to Maryland to be with his husband-type person, Q. Who is as cute as a damn bug, but don’t tell him I said that.