Actually, no. I’ve seen girls sit for 4 or 5 songs with one guy and never do a dance, then eventually walk up to me and ask if I want a dance and if I say no they walk away. If it isn’t busy why not sit and chat for a spell?
Yes, for a lot of us it is excellent money (but I’m not going to say exactly how much I make). For some it is not so good. It all depends on how hard you are willing to work, and if you are willing to put the effort into being the fantasy girl. It’s not always an easy thing to pull off, but there are things you can do to help your cause…shave legs, moisturize, tan or self-tan, mani/pedi, awesome makeup, and awesome hair.
Ah, smart girls. They don’t sit and chat because their time is not free. If she walks away from you and yet sat and sat with that other guy, it means he is probably paying her to sit there.
Do you feel that youexploit men? Your job is seperation of men from their money. You are selling a product/service; the customers buy it. Yet, you are exploiting vulnerable human beings-does this make you feel, guilty/
Oh, I see. I never thought of offering money just to sit and talk. Do you make deals like like sitting and talking for less than the price of a dance?
Also, does the IRS hassle you, thinking you’re understating income?
I don’t tell most people. I use the “work at home” thing. My husband has a really good job, so most people probably think he makes all the money, har har. It is tempting to tell though, every once in a while.
Yes, this has happened to me several times because I don’t work too far from where I grew up. I try to lie my way out of it, tell them they’ve got the wrong girl, etc. Never admit to anything! I wasn’t terribly popular in school and people love to go tell about how I’m a stripper now, blah blah. It came up at my 10-year reunion, and I decided I still hate those people. But, I digress… 
What are your expenses like? What’s the going rate for a pair of 6" Lucite heels (and does getting a live fish in the heel cost extra?)? How many spangly tops do you go through in a year? Where do you shop for new costume ideas?
No, I don’t feel guilty at all. I don’t make them promises, and I don’t lie to make a sale. I am providing a service, they are buying that service. I’m not exploiting people any more than any other performer who people pay to see. They are grown men, IMO they aren’t any more vulnerable than anyone else.
Once in a blue moon I’ll get the sense that the guy is spending more than he can afford. I don’t press him to go to the ATM or get cash from his credit card, some girls will do that. My sales technique is what I call the “big boobs and a smile” hustle. It doesn’t involve any deception or pressure.
Maybe another year or two, it’s hard to say. I’m currently looking into going back to school to be a radiologist, so I would dance until I got that taken care of. As long as I look good enough, dancing will always be a viable option. Older dancers outearn the young ones by a landslide.
I’ll never go back to a cubicle. I’m like that guy from Office Space. 
We don’t have poles at my club, but at other clubs I’d say they do sometimes, but it’s usually up to the dancer to demand it.
Thanks for the thread, Indygrrl!
Do you find that working as a stripper has coloured your opinion of men? If so, how?
I have only been at a strip club once, and I found it one of the most profoundly lonely places I have ever been. Here were all these men watching the women on stage, and it seemed to me that they were trying to attain physical intimacy and sex, but were only getting the shell. It was actually rather frustrating, getting close and not being able to get any closer.
Maybe that was just my own response at the time. It was a long tome ago and I was a lot younger. And still a virgin.
Are you allowed to choose which customers you approach (if you are off the stage)? Can you ‘reject’ a customer who approaches you? (Am I misunderstanding how that woprks: you either dance on stage, or you are among the customers?)
Do you find that men are generally attracted to women with the stereotypical form (tall, slender, leggy, etc) or that they are attractred to a wide variety of women?
(I think some ‘feminists’ forget that the true purpose of feminism was to give women a choice, so that they could choose to go in any direction. Even if that direction included displaying themselves to strangers.)
How many nights/hours a week do you work?
How important is talking? Do customers ever pay you just to talk/listen to them?
I bought two pair of lucite heels last week and it added up to be about $44 (the goldfish thing is an urban legend, I think). They are cheap these days. And a little outfit can be anywhere from $30-$100. It just depends on who you buy from. We have a costume lady here in town and she has a store and also comes to the clubs to sell to us. She designs and sews everything herself and is singlehandedly responsible for all of the dancer trends in Indianapolis. I order a lot of stuff online, but I buy from her for something special.
It surely has colored my opinion, but I still like most men. They are more puppy dog-ish to me than they might be to the average gal, but then I’ve seen all their tricks and heard all of their stories. I’m onto them. 
My best friend was also a dancer and her husband said to her one day, “The problem with being with a dancer is that you women already know everything about men,” evidently this is a source of frustration to him.
I can pick and choose. If someone approaches me that I don’t like I will make an excuse to go to the dressing room or tell him I am busy and will come back. We dance onstage and then mingle in the crowd to drum up private dances.
The one “type” that most men like is big boobs, small waist, round butt, and nice legs. And, of course, a pretty face. Those girls will always get the most attention on stage. But the other women, and there is a huge variety, make their money and do well in other ways. Guys have their specific types, but that first one is a crowd pleaser.
I work three eight-hour shifts a week. And sometimes I go in for six hours on an extra day.
It is important to have a good personality and the ability to talk is not going to hurt. I’ve made a lot of money by being interesting and funny. Some customers will tip you to sit and talk, but I don’t take that angle. I would always prefer to dance.
Please explain to my wife why it is safe to let me go to SCs. When we were younger she went with me frequently, but nowadays she is becomming a bit disaproving. Her resoning is she can no longer “compete” with the dancers. I go to one for special occasions, bachelor parties and such, maybe twice a year.
That’s a tough one. I don’t know where you live, so I don’t know how “safe” it is for you to go to the club. The worst thing that would happen in the clubs around here is you get the extras girl who grinds dick and lets you touch her boobies. A lot of wives are not comfortable with that.
I would suggest to her a “don’t ask, don’t tell” type of policy. The agreement would be that you only go twice a year, but you don’t tell her when and you don’t tell her the details of it. She can go merrily along and not worry that you are out in the clubs every weekend.
Q: Have you ever seen the ‘WTF am I doing here?’ look pass across some average guys face followed shortly by his bee-line towards the exit? What was your reaction?
How much did your work factor in to your decision to get a boob job?
I’m a poker dealer, and for some reason, people seem to think our professions have a lot in common.
I was at a table one day, waiting for the tournament to start, some young jerk says “They would get here sooner if you took your top off.” I explained to him one of the differences between a poker dealer and a stripper is when we leave, we have all our clothes on. Of course, the end of the sentence, with your money you fucktard.
You certainly don’t sound like the typical stripper people hear about. How much truth is in the stripper stereotype?
When you eye the crowd, what sets off your radar as someone to avoid?
I understand that is a job.
Obviously, you have a brain and aren’t stripping because you have no other options. Does being a smart cookie help you? Do you find that some guys like you better because of it? Or do you play up the dumb card?
No, not really. Most of them get that wide-eyed wonder look on their faces as they begin to look around the room. I see lots of cheesy grins.