Ask the Stripper!

[Omniscient]

@Thudlow Boink

Does your club have a buffet?

You here 4 hour…you go NOW!

[Larry_Borgia]

In general what do you think of your customers? Does it ever get weird performing such an intimate act with people you don’t really know and–at least sometimes–don’t even really like?

[Hometownboy]

I’m most curious about how you approach the dancing. Do you have full-fledged routine that you practice to specific music (I’m thinking Olympic ice dancing here), or do you have a general plan of action with room for improvisation (as in a jazz combo) or do you just move as you feel?

Also, how often do you vary your music?

Thanks

[Omi_no_Kami]

When it comes to normal streetclothes I always found artfully concealing outfits to be a lot more alluring than the really revealing clothing. In your experience, is the same true for dancing? Or does it just depend on how the dancer sells the routine regardless of their costume?

[BobLibDem]

1. Do detectives ever frequent your club to get clues to solve a murder?

2. Do you smoke? Personally, I never met a stripper that didn’t.

3. What do you let the guys get away with touching? What’s off limits?

4. Why is it that some strippers will sit in groups with other strippers and ignore the men who might pay them for a dance?

5. Why do some strippers sit with a guy and chat for 2 or 3 songs without asking for a lap dance, then with other guys they won’t sit down without asking for a lap dance?

6. Do you ever get aroused while dancing either on stage or on a lap?

[Dunderman]

Two related questions.

@Indygrrl

Think of it this way, the strip club is considered the last bastion of male freedom. They can drink, smoke, cuss, stare at and objectify women and be unashamed, all of those things that are taboo for them in other places.

Do you think this is a good thing (and I don’t mean for each guy personally, but from a larger perspective)? Should there be a place where men can be pigs?

Second question: Do you find any merit at all in feminist criticisms of strip clubs?

[Quartz]

Is it good money?

[Ichbin_Dubist]

When you meet someone new, do you tell them flat out what you do? Do you have a “cover story,” so to speak? Or do you just feel the person out whether you tell them or not?

I ask because a good friend of mine in LA worked as an editor for a porn website for a number of years (taking a money-earning-and-health-coverage break from freelance work on Hollywood films). He loved telling earnest liberal Californians that he met at parties, “Me? I’m a pornographer.” He got a wide variety of reactions.

[Kilvert_s_Pagan]

@Indygrrl

As for pics, I have posted on here before with them, and I don’t have anything recent, but here is one that is two-years-old:
http://i21.photobucket.com/albums/b260/Andygirl1974/chrispic2.jpg

and one where my body look ok, but I have lost weight and gotten in better shape since then:
http://i21.photobucket.com/albums/b260/Andygirl1974/schoolgirl3.jpg

Woof! And up until now I’d only admired you for your posts! :smack:

Have you ever had someone you know, that didn’t know you do this for a living, show up at the club? An unintended mini-high school reunion, for instance?

[Rebo]

How long do you think you’ll continue to do this kind of work? Will you go back to your former career?

(I did a short stint as a dancer - about 6 months - when I was 18. I can appreciate how hard you work!)

[Alice_The_Goon]

Does the pole get disinfected between uses?

[Indygrrl]

@Boyo Jim

What’s your favorite stripper movie?

I like *Dancing at the Blue Iguana * and Showgirls (for campy cheese factor).

[Indygrrl]

@ForumBot

Do customers ever recognize you on the street? If so, how’s the conversation go?

Ever had customers turn into friends you would see outside work?

Rarely have I seen a customer who recognized me. I look pretty different when I go to work. I did see this really old guy taking his granddaughter to swimming lessons at the Y. I just kind of nodded and then when he was in the club the next time he said he had seen me, but wasn’t sure whether or not to say hi. Actually, there was one other customer I used to see at the Y also. He was cute and spent a lot of money, so I didn’t mind too much.

I have only one customer turn into a friend and he and I are going on about nine years of friendship now.

[Indygrrl]

@Autolycus

I’ve only been to a strip club once, and only had a lap dance once. The women who danced on my lap put her bosom in my face and then battered me with her breasts. This would normally be very arousing, except for the fact that her breasts were as hard as rocks!

I guess the questions I could ask are: Is that behavior normal, how common are breast implants, and why were hers rock solid?

Yeah, that’s obnoxious.

Implants are very common, but I don’t know percentages. Maybe 25% in my club, it’s hard to say. Sometimes they get hard because of capsular contracture or other things that go wrong with the implants. I know a few girls who have terrible BA’s and I don’t understand why they don’t get them fixed.

[Indygrrl]

@Omniscient

Couple of questions:

Which nights (events, days of the week) are the best nights, generally? Both for you as a worker, and for the customers?

What is the story with “amateur nights”, I see them advertised but have never been. I suspect the volunteers are almost all strippers from other clubs looking to make a couple quick bucks or plans from within the club to keep the customers. What’s the straight dope?

My best nights are Monday and Wednesday. People think we make all of our money on busy nights like Saturday, but it’s usually so busy that I can’t make heads or tails of what’s going on. It’s hard to talk to people and hard to sell dances. A lot of guys want just one dance, and that’s a long night. You might leave with $700 but you worked for every $20 of it.

Your intuition is right about amateur nights, it is always a lot of girls who are obviously already dancers. But at my club there are at least two or three real amateurs who compete, and they are the ones who always win, no matter how bad a dancer they are. So, it doesn’t always work in the professional’s favor, unless she can amateur it up (wear the totally wrong outfit and shoes, dance awkwardly, act nervous) a little bit.

[Indygrrl]

@Omniscient

Do you see the interaction between the customers a cat-and-mouse game of how much money you can get for how little you have to do to arouse them? Is a good lapdance always the best paying one?

No, I don’t see it that way. And I’ll answer that one along with this one

In general what do you think of your customers? Does it ever get weird performing such an intimate act with people you don’t really know and–at least sometimes–don’t even really like?

I think most of them are pretty decent guys. Very rarely do I meet someone who truly creeps me out. As for “intimate act,” well, it’s not that intimate to me. When I’m close-up with someone I feel like I am completely covered in hard plastic or something, that’s the only way I can explain it. I am completely and totally desensitized to the whole process. It gets weird when they start telling you odd stories or you get the feeling they have bodies in their crawlspace, but overall, it’s no biggie and actually kind of fun.

Have you ever been especially aroused while doing a dance?

No. Minimally aroused a few times (like two), but overall I don’t get at all aroused doing private dances. I guess I kind of turn myself on sometimes on stage, but that’s another story.

[Indygrrl]

@Hometownboy

I’m most curious about how you approach the dancing. Do you have full-fledged routine that you practice to specific music (I’m thinking Olympic ice dancing here), or do you have a general plan of action with room for improvisation (as in a jazz combo) or do you just move as you feel?

Also, how often do you vary your music?

Thanks

I don’t ever have a specific routine because we don’t choose our own music. My club runs three stages most of the time and the dj will try to play what we like, but it is hard to make everyone happy. I definitely have my signature moves that I do, and it’s hard not to repeat the same things over and over. Our stages are very small, so it limits what you can do.

When it comes to normal streetclothes I always found artfully concealing outfits to be a lot more alluring than the really revealing clothing. In your experience, is the same true for dancing? Or does it just depend on how the dancer sells the routine regardless of their costume?

It does depend on how the dancer sells it, but I have the best luck in two-piece numbers that show off belly, butt, and cleavage. I have never been interested in trying to cover anything up because I don’t have anything to hide. But some girls who have stretch marks and stuff will wear belly-concealing outfits and it doesn’t seem to hinder them at all. However, even though I am fine taking it off on stage it all goes right back on as soon as I am done up there. If anyone wants to see it they have to pay to come and have a dance because I don’t show anything for free. Some girls walk around topless, and I don’t think they are helping themselves at all by doing that.

[Indygrrl]

@BobLibDem

1. Do detectives ever frequent your club to get clues to solve a murder?

Lol, not that I know of, but it is possible.

2. Do you smoke? Personally, I never met a stripper that didn’t.

No, but you are right, most of them do.

3. What do you let the guys get away with touching? What’s off limits?

They can touch outer thigh and outer butt cheek, arms, and back. They cannot touch breasts or anything down below. Again, that differs from girl-to-girl.

4. Why is it that some strippers will sit in groups with other strippers and ignore the men who might pay them for a dance?

Some are just dumbasses who don’t know how to hustle. They are focused on other things, and that is why they are the ones complaining in the dressing room that they’ve only made 50 bucks while I’m over there organizing piles of money.

5. Why do some strippers sit with a guy and chat for 2 or 3 songs without asking for a lap dance, then with other guys they won’t sit down without asking for a lap dance?

Those are two different girls right? One doesn’t know how to ask, the other is a moneymaker. Some girls are just shy about it, I guess. I am of the latter category.

[pullin]

Were you scared your very first night at work? It seems like the first time on stage would be frightening.

Thanks for the thread btw, it is really interesting.

[Indygrrl]

@Priceguy

Two related questions.Do you think this is a good thing (and I don’t mean for each guy personally, but from a larger perspective)? Should there be a place where men can be pigs?

Second question: Do you find any merit at all in feminist criticisms of strip clubs?

Just because men are acting as they would without women around doesn’t necessarily mean they are acting like pigs. Pig behavior doesn’t fly with me. But I do like it when guys feel that they are free to do the things they can’t do in other places. It helps the money flow and makes them stay longer. It makes the strip club more tantalizing to them.

I don’t care about the feminist criticisms. I know why I dance, and I know what I get out of it. If anyone wants to criticize that, they are more than welcome to kiss my ass. And I consider myself a feminist, just not that kind of feminist.