Suppose a bachelor party comes in, and there’s a couple of guys who are uncomfortable being in a strip club. What do you suggest those guys do? Sit in the back at the bar?
No, the law is that the tip of the nipple has to be covered. I can take a piece of a band aid the diameter of the top of a pencil eraser and stick that on my tit and it’s legal. You still see the entire breast and all but a tiny bit of the nipple. You are seeing women who are naked except for a thong, that is enticing to most men.
They should sit with their group and try to have a good time or not go at all. I can’t imagine why they would be so put-off that they couldn’t enjoy themselves for an hour or two. It is, after all, their friend’s bachelor party. Most of the time the group of guys know who is uncomfortable and go out of their way to embarass the chap.
Lol, I have taken many nervous guys to the back and given them a half-assed dance because they are unsure about the whole thing. Fine by me. Once the money is in my hand, they either come with me for the dance or I keep the cash as a tip. Never hand a stripper money and then ask for it back, it won’t happen.
Hmm. Well, here it’s the full Monty. And after the first dozen or so times when you’re 19 the novelty wears off.
I haven’t been to a strip club in years and years, but never felt that comfortable in them. I’m the kind who would rather look you in the eye than anywhere else. Am I an anomaly, or do you often see uncomfortable men who feel awkward?
So I guess asking for a receipt is out of the question, huh?
We always had to put liquid latex on our nipples. It dries clear so you just look like you have kinda shiny nipples. State law in AZ. It’s weird.
Indy: I stopped basically in December 1994, although in 2005 after I moved here to Atlanta I did go work for one weekend (3 nights) as a dancer at the only topless club here (everything else is nude). I just wanted to see if I could still do it, you know? My boyfriend considered coming in but then decided it would be too weird for him. It was kinda fun but different. Atlanta guys are more grabby than I liked. In AZ when I was dancing our manager would come over and talk to the guy if he so much as put his hand on your shoulder. In the winter of 2005-2006 I worked as a cocktail waitress at the Pink Pony (nude club in Atlanta) which was a little more cutthroat than I expected. I ended up quitting because the schedule didn’t work out for me with school and parenting and stuff.
When I first got hired as a dancer I had gone in to apply to be a waitress. The manager said “we aren’t hiring waitresses. Wanna dance?” At Lace in Arlington, TX I had to do a private audition dance for the manager (nothing creepy, not a table dance–he just wanted to make sure I could move) and at New Orleans Nights I had to dance in their amateur night competition to get hired. Just depends on the club.
Is there any other sense of satisfaction, aside from the money, in your work?
I always get receipts for my tax deductions. Uncompensated work-related expense, and all that. 
What differences are there between customers in different cities? Provinces/states? Countries? Does it very between cultures/ethnicities? Do you get the impression that most customers are from one culture or ethnicity?
What are the extras you talk about? The first time I went to a strip club this lady came out of nowhere (I didn’t see her before or after) and started giving me an unsolicited lap dance where she was clearly crossing the line (sticking her nipple in my mouth, telling me she wanted to get together after etc…). I assumed there was something fishy about it and my friends assumed I was an idiot for not doing anything about it (I still get made fun of over this). Is that how they operate?
Of course. The positive reinforcement is a very big ego boost. There is a validation in it that is hard to explain. Maybe it’s like guys who are lead guitarist in a band, they get off on the fact that girls want to do them and guys want to be them. It’s kinda like that. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think all women want to be strippers, but I do think all women wish they felt confident about their bodies like a lot of us do.
It feels very good to be the center of that kind of attention. And that’s part of why so many dancers keep at it for years after they really should. No other job will ever make me feel the way dancing makes me feel. I always felt nervous and unconfident at my office jobs, but with dancing I know I am the best and I do my job very well. It wouldn’t occur to me to feel badly about it.
Yeah, that’s the stuff I am talking about. Girls who do things that are clearly against their club rules and make extra money off of it and give the club the wrong kind of reputation. I have no problem with prostitution, but it isn’t appropriate in the SC.
I’m told I now live near the US city with the most strip clubs per capita, but where I’m from the only one was downtown by the railroad tracks where all the homeless lived and they could legally only serve juice - no alcohol. We called it the ‘Peppermint Gerbil’. 
I was tempted to try amateur night, but I’m so uncoordinated, because it seems so empowering. What will you miss most about it when you get your radiologist certification?
What I’m talking about here is the possibility that being able to do it in one place will increase the chances of it happening in another place, such as the grocery store. Do you find any merit at all in that position?
This is a very enlightening thread, Indygrrl. My only experiences with strip clubs were when I was stationed in OK in the ‘80s and the red light district in Amsterdam :eek:.
You’ve mentioned that you must wear a thong. If it was not a required garment, would you still dance? The club I went to in OK was all nude and some girls would do poses that belonged in Gynecology Monthly. They could also pick up tips without using their hands, if you know what I mean.
If a guy offers to buy you a drink, do you get a “virgin” drink or a regular one?
Do any of your co-workers do private parties (like bachelor parties)? How far are they willing to go in their performances?
You said your club doesn’t have a pole. Have you ever worked with one? If so, how long did it take for you to become proficient with it?
Finally, I would like to compliment you on being a beautiful woman, both inside and out. Your intelligence, will and humor are refreshing. Good luck to you.
PS. I second what DfrntBreign said. You could continue dancing for years to come. Wow!
I think it’s what the guys are used to. When I danced in Tucson, it was very strict. No touching, the girls weren’t even allowed to touch their OWN breasts/butts/etc. When I danced in Texas, on the other hand, you were expected to sit on the customers’ laps. So the way the guys behave has a lot to do with what the laws are in the areas they’re used to going to strip clubs in and stuff. The main cultural thing I saw was that when guys came up from Mexico (not just hispanic guys in general, but the ones who were actually from Mexico and used to clubs in Mexico) they assumed that all of the dancers were also prostitutes. They’d get really insistent, too. I remember one guy saying “I didn’t ask you if, I asked you how much”. Whatever, loser.
guppy: That dancer would have been fired instantly from the club I worked at in Tucson. (Also, we did not have private rooms there–your table dance was at your table and there were no “extras” allowed.)
Also, we weren’t allowed to drink at work. If we wanted a juice or a soda we had to drink it at the bar or in the dressing room–we couldn’t have anything to drink at a table with the customers. Contrast that with Texas where the management said you weren’t allowed to refused drinks bought by customers. :eek:
This thread is fascinating. I wish I had the nerve to get up on a stage like that.
Two questions:
What’s your experience with bachelor parties (and other big groups like that)? Are they a big time suck or are they a good source of money?
What are your VIP rooms like? I’ve only been in one stripclub, (and it was kind of a seedy one). There was a side room that contained a pool table and a couple of curtained off “booths” (very much like they have in hospital rooms). While I was playing pool, I saw lots of girls taking guys back behind curtains, which didn’t go all the way to the floor so you could see everyone’s feet and the legs of a chair. It struck me as being kind of unsexy-- but then, I’m not a guy. The rooms were very busy.
Do you find yourself doing stripper moves when dancing in situations you probably shouldn’t (i.e. weddings)? Or choreograph things in your head while listening to the radio?
Well, I’ve been eyeballed in a lot of different places. I don’t think strip clubs have anything to do with it. Where there is a hot girl, there are men trying to be sly and sneak a peek at her.
The rules where you’ve worked are obviously much stricter than they are here in the Great White North.
Local strip shows generally feature “dancers” shooting ping-pong balls out of their crotches, or smoking cigarettes with their crotches, or inserting the non-business end of a snake into their crotches (which got many local animal rights activists up in arms). I put “dancers” in quotes because I don’t believe any of these women do much dancing.
I think that this, in part, contributes to the atmosphere of the local clubs. Apparently, after a dance many girls will spread a towel or blanket on stage and sit with their legs spread as the men in the audience hurl loonies and toonies (1 and 2 dollar coins) at their girl bits. Some men will try to hurl the coins as hard as they can. To me, this seems very disrespectful and misogynistic - much more so than tucking a dollar bill into a garter belt.
Have you noticed, depending on the amount of raunchy-ness allowed by the establishment, that the customers’ behaviour gets worse or more disrespectful with the level of raunchy-ness? (If that makes sense.)
Further, I get the impression that if the rules here were the rules there, you wouldn’t have gotten into stripping? Yes? No?
Do you have any thoughts about the atmosphere that I’ve described?
Interestingly, locally, male strippers are required to have their entire butt (and front) covered - they’re not even allowed to wear thongs. Meanwhile, the women are landing ping-pong balls in customer’s drinks. Me thinks the law makers are boys…