I don’t know, I’ve never danced nude in a club, but I have done an event called Nudes-a-Poppin’. It was fun, but I don’t think I’d like trying to do private dances while nude. Everyone has their limits, I guess.
I get whatever I order. It would be illegal for me to order a vodka and cranberry and them only serve me the cranberry. I rarely ever drink at work, not even one. I don’t get a lot of flack for it. If a guy offers to buy me a drink I get a bottle of water or a diet Coke.
None that I know of in my club, but it wouldn’t surprise me. I’m sure some are willing to go as far as you’d want them to, and others would be more conservative. Back when I used to do them I was pretty conservative about the whole thing. I only danced and I had a bouncer who came with me. No one touched me.
I like poles, but I’ve really never been inclined to practice and try to be good at doing tricks on them. I tried a long time ago and got bruises up and down my thighs. It wasn’t very fun.
They can be fun, but mostly they are a lot of work and not a lot of money. They always want you to get the bachelor up on stage and give him the treatment. That includes taking his shirt off, ripping his underwear band and tying it around his head, whipping him with his own belt, and riding him around like a horse. Yes, it is as stupid as it sounds. And we only get $20 for it, so I’m not really into it. Sometimes it works out where they all like you and get dances. That’s good.
We just have one VIP area, it is a basic room with little booths that are arranged in a circle. You can see what is going on next to you, so it’s not that private (thank god). There are a couple of tables in there and that’s about it. Rumor has it that my club is getting a half a million dollar overhaul soon. We are owned by a huge chain and it is possible that they might do that. If they do I will definitely stick around a little longer than planned.
It was at a table in the middle of the place (there were no VIP rooms that I was aware of) and I was just having a beer talking with my buddy (we had gotten some lap dances earlier however) when she plops down on my lap without asking. That’s what made it so weird.
Right, I figured from what you said. I was just adding that we had no VIP rooms to show that that kind of behavior wasn’t gonna be allowed anywhere.
alice_in_wonderland: Wow, that’s nasty. I certainly wouldn’t work in a place like that, and how gross is it to have something out of a stranger’s crotch land in your drink? EWW!!
I’m repeating this question in case you missed it. I hope you weren’t offended by it, I’m genuinely curious. I’ve only been in strip clubs twice. Once I was so drunk I barely remember it–a friends batchelor party. The other time I was completely sober, accompanying a friend and his girlfriend to help GF get a job as a waitress. The whole thing just made me feel very strange. It makes me feel weird to have someone pretend to be sexually interested in me when she clearly isn’t. I was really curious what was going on in those girl’s heads. Boredom? Contempt?
I’m not being moralistic. Oddly, I have no problem with porn, probably because no one’s pretending they’re interested in me. I’m just curious.
I visited a SC for only the third time in my life just a few months ago, in a suburb of LA. I noticed a number of, er, gentlemen, crumple up their tips and quite literally throw them at the dancer, who was generally writhing on the floor in some fashion. I walked away feeling like this was extraordinary disrespectful, but the dancers seemed to tolerate it without issue, if not outright encourage it. To both Indygrrl and OpalCat – was/is this normal in your experience? Apologies if this has already been asked.
My comment is just that I once had a friend who did her post-doctoral thesis on SC dancers and their lives inside and outside of the club. She discovered that there are many, many very intelligent women within the profession who simply enjoy what they do, so it is no surprise to me to hear Indygrrl’s commentary about the other dancers on the website she frequents. And of course, what more evidence do we need than the fact that there are Dopers on that scene?
I never had anyone throw crumpled money at me. They would come to the stage and I’d walk over, and they’d put the money in my garter or tucked into my thong at the hip (never the front or the back, and I’d be the one to hold it out–they never touched me or my clothing)
Yeah I’d consider it rude to have someone throw money at me. I didn’t see that behavior at the places I worked.
And somehow we men are trained that to look at and appreciate a woman is shameful. Thus the sneaking.
Although I can think of a lot of cases where said ‘appreciation’ is shameful: when we disrespect the woman. The stereotypical construction-worker wolf-whistle comes to mind.
This is actually kind of complicated. I grew up somehow thinking that expressing any appreciation of a woman was shameful, and it was a great surprise when I encountered a situation where I could express my desire and say what I really wanted to say, and the woman I was speaking to welcomed it.
A lot of it seems to do with the man actually perceiving the woman as a person, seeing beyond the idealised representation and fantasy (with its attendant agenda and plans) in one’s head, seeing to the actual person in front of him. This is NOT what the wolf-whistlers are doing.
Someone earlier was wondering: do strip clubs, as a place where we men can look at women as objects without having to hide it, make it more likely that we will objectify women elsewhere? I’m not sure. I don’t think so; I think we would do it wherever we are. The hard part was breaking through the objectification and seeing the real person beyond.
I worked as a bouncer at a sc here in phoenix for about 4 years. It was great, I made a lot of money and met and became friends with a lot of interesting and great people. Met my fair share of really crappy people also. One thin that I found is the girls seemed to be dating the bouncers and what they said was that we were there protection and they had time to get to know us and we dident judge them. What is your opinion on this?
As a sort of poll for my favorite band… have you ever stripped to Firewoman by The Cult?
And related to that question… do you choose your own playlist of songs, and if so, what is your favorite song to grind to? Do you have a build up and balance in your playist? I’ve noticed that some strippers are more primal, some are more sensual, and it realtes to their choice of music. Which are you?
