My cousin is getting married in June, and I am his best man. So, I’m gettign started planning his bachelor party and wanted to hear from dopers to see what y’all did for yours. Mine was pretty tame. 12 of us played a round of golf (and drank some beer), then bar-b-q’d (and drank some beer), then went to a Chinese resteraunt (???) (and drank some beer), then went to a strip club (and drank some beer), then went to the beach at the end of the street I grew up on and drank some beer. A good time was had by all.
But my cousin doesn’t golf. We were thinking about going to Foxwoods, but he’s not sure - he wants to please all of the people going, which include his step father, new father-in-law, and new brothers-in-law. He’s tossed paint ball out there as a possibility, but I’d like to present him with some options. It’s his second time around, his fiance’s first. The first time he got married, he eloped, so I want this to be special for him and memorable.
Rent the Tom Hanks movie, Bachelor Party. Then don’t do any of that stuff.
Seriously, he should be older and more mature this time around. Go out, have a good dinner in a nice restaurant, drink, talk, smoke a cigar after if you want to. Maybe do some paintball the next day with folks who are interested, if that’s something he’d like to do. That way the older generation can be involved then politely decline on the more physical stuff if they choose.
Boy, yours was a riot of orgiastic debauchery compared to the bachelor parties I’ve been to.
When my friend got married out in Salt Lake, we all went to the 49th Styreet Galleria (an indoor arcade and amusement park) to play miniature golf. Later we went to a Private Club for dinner and – horrors! – alcohol (you have to go to a Private Club for that in Utah, unless it’s at a private home). No strippers ensued.
For my own party (in New Jersey), we went to my Sister’s house and had a barbecue. It was strictly stag, since the women were at Pepper Mill’s bridal shower. There was one female who got naked, but that’s only because my one year old neice needed changing.
I’m 45, on my second marriage, have never had a bachelor party thrown for me, and have only been to one bachelor party in the mid-80s. It was more of a Plan A type - the guy getting married owned a bar, and we closed it down for the party one Friday.
For my buddy’s bachelor party, we played Whirlyball, which is basically a sport wherein you drive a bumper-car-like conveyance with one hand while, and at the same time, holding a “basket” in your other hand, with which you throw, catch, pass, and shoot a whiffle ball. It was hellafun, and no one had to be superbly fit or get painfully smacked by paintballs.
In my youngish days, a trip to the nekkid dancer place the night before the wedding was the thing. But hungover grooms don’t go too well.
By the time I got married, a poker game (a week before the wedding) was the way to go. (Although I cleared the room with an inexplicably foul SBD fart.)
My husband is just yay on his second time around too.
The first time he’s played football that day and so was completely depleted and apparently had too much to drink by 8pm and had to be taken home.
This time around, they went to the races, and then to a karaoke pub. He said it was a great night, even though he doesn’t do karaoke (that’s me!!), but that it was a group of around 20 of them having a real laugh together.
Being a girl type, I have nothing to add to this, except to say it’s nice to see you’re wanting to present him with some options to pick from, rather than deciding what’s best for him.
[Drew Carey]
We went out and got drunk. Then bought a bunch of cigars and went to the firing range. And I’d like to thank the department of Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms for the suggestion.[/Drew Carey]
A licensed pool hall for an evening of billiards is good.
The older I get the less interested I am in drinking $7 beer and watching women take off clothing. Maybe that’s just me. Also, being able to talk to one another is a bonus.
