At least 3 of my boyfriends were balding. Did not bother me.
Mr Lunasea’s hairline is receding slowly. Do I care? Hell no. He is a serious hottie. sigh
Wow, Zette, I’m a straight guy, and I’ll admit you’re hooked to a hunk. The Village People leather vest is a bit much, but there you are.
And FWIW, re the OP, I’ve always understood the hair gene goes down through the maternal line, and I have to admit I’m pleased that my mother’s father is in his mid-80’s and still has a full head of slate-grey hair. If I do get a bald spot or whatever, I swear to God, I’ll trim it short, but I suspect I’m in the never-lose-your-hair minority.
I got married at the age of 28. It was when I saw video footage taken from a balcony of my bride and I dancing that I realized that MY SCALP WAS SHOWING THROUGH MY HAIR ON TOP! I was horrified by this–my hair was leaving some 15 years earlier than my father’s had. This really bothered me for awhile, but then I got over it.
(And I still have most of my hair, so if nothing else it outlasted my marriage.)
I’m like Strainger (or what I assume he’s trying to convey with that “not in my opinion” stuff)–I don’t have a bald spot, I have a thinning spot on the top and back. It’s thinning in front, too (an “incipient Nixonhead” my sister’s ex-boyfriend once termed it), though this isn’t immediately obvious due to the way I comb it. (Which is not done to hide anything–I’ve been combing it this way since I was 16 or so.)
I’ve been known to make cracks about getting that spray-on hair…in blonde. (I have brown hair.) I have no intention of getting Rogain, or especially Propecia. (Yeah, sure, I’m gonna ingest what apparently amounts to toxic waste in order to grow hair.) I have considered shaving my head, but I doubt I’ll do that any time soon–I’d have to reshape my beard into a goatee or something, too, and then I’d probably look like a gone-to-seed Hell’s Angel.
I married a bald guy, so I guess it wasn’t that much a problem for me.
I’ve known that I was going bald, just by looking at my family. My father was bald, both grandfathers were bald, all my great grandfathers were bald. I can’t escape, and knowing that makes it lots easier to deal with. (I’m now at the ‘Gallagher in the early eighties’ stage… not much on top, shoulder length everywhere else)
I used to wear long hair and a beard. Looked a bit like Jesus. Then I cut my hair when I was 30. Not real short, but no one would call it long. Then my hairline started to receed. and I mean quickly, and I noticed this cowlick thing on the back of my head. Made it look like a bald spot. I hated it.
Last week I got tired of. I went to the salon and told the lady that cowlick tuft of hair has got to go. If shaving my head id required, I’ll do that. The stylist used no.3 clippers on most of my head, and no.2 clippers to get that tuft of a cowlick thingy. So my hair is short short. I mean military induction buzzcut short.
It feels great. No maintenance at all. I’ve never been happier with a cut before. But the weird thing is this:
I LOOK EXACTLY LIKE ZETTE’S HUSBAND!!! We could be twins!
Crevaise- you said:
Which, by the way, made me crack right up out loud. He was on a cross country motorcycle trip- does that give him an excuse for the vest? He doesn’t walk around like that most days. ::snicker::
I can’t wait to say that to him next time he has it on…
Zette
spooj- you look just like my husband? Then you must be needing to beat off women with a stick!
Well…modesty forbids…
It sure does.I remember those good old days when my barber used to wonder if i had coir for hair(coconut cover for those unfamiliar with the word!;))I tried forgetting about it and kidding myself that i still looked good(male ego;)without it.Alas…can someone help me with a viagra for balding men.
PS-I’m sorry to hijack your conversation folks.Its my first time and so,pls excusez moi.
Zette, your man is YUMMY YUMMY!
So spooje…can we get a pic? mmmmmmm… 
Guinevere:
I’ve been shaving my head for three and a half years, and this happens to me all the time! Once I was in a theater lobby and a woman put both her hands on my head and started rubbing. She closed her eyes and a look of hypnotic bliss crossed her face.
Finally, utterly amused, I asked, “Do I know you?”
Her eyes popped open, she withdrew her hands and said, “Oh, sorry! I just couldn’t help myself!”
I’ve been losing my hair since I was 25 (I’m 34 now). It put me in denial for the first couple of years and depression for the next few. Not only did it symbolize my growing older, but I couldn’t find a haircut that looked good with my particular balding pattern either.
Finally I decided to take my destiny into my own hands and shave it all off. It looks good, I look younger, and I’ve been very happy ever since. I’d recommend head-shaving to any man, and even to some women.
I prefer red wine, Guinevere, and dinner and a movie is always a nice first date.
“This man has so much sex appeal, it knocks me down every time I walk in the house.”
—That must make grocery shopping very difficult…
Only if there’s celery in my grocery bag! (See Weird Earl’s)
Har!
Cervaise:
I’m pretty sure that’s just a myth about the hair coming through the maternal side, Cervaise. The tendency to baldness is not sex-linked.
But even if it were, what difference would it make what your mother’s father looks like? If it were passed down maternally, your mother would get her hair from her mother. You’d have to look at maternal uncles to get any clue about your own genotype.
If it were true. And again, I’m pretty sure it’s not.
I’ve been cursed with a high forehead (tack, morfar!) so it looked like I was going bald even when I wasn’t.
As it is, I used to have a widow’s peak, and there are survivors there to testify it once existed. Not sure what to do with it, for a while tried shaving it off but the stubble looked even worse. Thinning a bit on the back as well, right at the crown. Fortunately not combover material yet! Once that time comes I’ll see what kind of drastic decisions I have to make. I just pray Mrs. O won’t let me become like the fellow I saw the other day, whose CO literally reached up from the nape of his neck. shudder
Ah. A couple things bother me a little about my hair loss. First, I have been losing it gradually since about sixteen. What once was a widow’s peak is now an island. My “tuft” as I call it, is now seperate from the rest of my hair, and is taking too long to just go away. Second, I have always parted my hair on the side. I am rapidly approaching the level of thinness on top where doing this will resemble the idiotic combover. That means I will actually have to expend thought on developing a new hairstyle. (I have already been thinking about getting it cut very short, but my wife says she’ll get hers cut if I do, and I am fond of her long hair.)
Those are relatively minor concerns though. What really gets to me is that my father has all his hair! How can he be so insensitive?
Ptahlis - that tuft probably won’t go away for a very very long time. In your pattern of baldness the tuft is like a barnacle. It just keeps hangin’ on - often forever. I suggest the REALLY REALLY short haircut. It always looks best. Tell your wife to wait and see you with your new do before she does anything drastic. Most of all, don’t worry about it. I’m sure you’re fabulous and sexy as is - as long as you avoid that combover!!!
Hubby has lots of hair, so no worries. But my brother is another story. Before the military, he wore it long & had plenty of it, though he, my dad and I all have a funky semi-widows-peak-thing going where the top of the sides goes way back.
So, as a Ranger he shaves his head pretty regularly, especially while in jungles (it’s a bug thing). He dreams of the day he will get out, so he can grow his hair back to it’s former glory. Imagine his horror when he discovers that he is going bald in a hurry! Only 30, BTW. Hair is disappearing from several angles.
Now I always thought that shaving your head would make your hair grow back thicker, but not in his case.
Also, stay away from the Propecia, guys. Is erectile dysfunction worth a full head of hair? I mean, you complain you can’t get laid 'cause you’re balding, then you have hair but can’t get it up. I think we’d all rather you be happy with whatever hair you have!
I for one think hair is overrated, other things are much more important.