This. If you don’t hunger to be a parent, if you don’t feel that there’s something missing from your life because you don’t have kids, then don’t do it.
After four years, the joy of being a dad hasn’t worn off for me, and I doubt it ever will. But like Eliahna says, you’re always a parent, there’s always stuff that needs doing for your kid, most of all just spending time being engaged with your kid, giving your child your full attention. It never goes away, so it’s got to be what you really want out of life.
Yes, unfortunately I’ve read that thread. Given proper treatment/meds/boundries/supervision, etc. I think it’s a better way to scratch the parenthood itch that the OP and his wife are feeling than becoming parents themselves. Do you disagree?
You know, pregnancy makes a person gain weight, and even afterwards, sometimes a woman will have a hard time losing it. So she’ll have an even BIGGER stomach! :eek:
Good god man. No. Unless your entire posting history has been an elaborate performance art this whole time, you should never ever have children with the women you’re currently married to or otherwise.
For me it was the computers. Seriously people without computers should not have kids because the other kids will make fun of them and that’s a cruel thing to do to a child.
Other people’s babies are not your baby. We are genetically wired to fall in love with our kids the moment we see them - it is a quite remarkable experience.
You are not ready for a vasectomy yet, you don’t want to cut off your opportunities. (I keed, I have one, it is great, but I had two kids when I got it.) My second kid was born when I was 35, don’t sweat that. When you are ready you will be ready. So, just relax.
indeed. I vividly remember that moment when my first daughter was born. As a scientist, there was a little corner of my brain sitting back and thinking, “Woah. I wish I had someone taking blood samples and brain scans right now, because this is phenomenal. I wonder what’s going on with my hormones right now.”
A few months later, I was talking to a doctor and my new-father status came up. He casually mentioned how hard it was for those first six months or so before you really form that bond, you know? “Nope,” I thought, “I have no idea what you’re talking about.”
Yes, it is in the best interest of society (and your best interest, and your wife’s best interest if you give a shit about her at all) if you do not have a child.
Again I agree with Guinastasia (And Guin… I promise I’m not stalking you). After all you said about your wife, I would have to say NO NO NO NO do not have children… ever!
I’m not talking about when the kid is a teenager! At the moment of birth I suspect this reaction is pretty dominant. The point was that I can understand a guy not feeling comfortable around other people’s babies - but that does not mean he’d be uncomfortable around his own.
