It’s like you were there for my sophomore year of college. Except for the part where she realizes the Rules are sabotaging the relationship.
PUA types focus on creating this facade in order to appear to be “alpha” to strangers. It’s all an act engineered to manipulate people into thinking they are more than they are. As **olivesmarch4th **pointed out, it’s not about building lasting relationships. It’s about short-term conquests.
Enjoyable post. Thanks for sharing.
I think you, like any of us, have a choice whether you are going to transcend your conditioning or not. I was conditioned to believe all sorts of ideas about the way the world works and who I am - and I have consciously identified and rejected every single one of them because they do not serve me. Your fantasies can tell you a lot about what you value deep down inside. I’m not saying you have to move into the country (though you certainly can if you really want to), but you can use that vision as a guide for the decisions you make.
You are correct that some people do play games. I imagine if you do work at a law firm in a major city, you are surrounded by a culture of values that encourages that. It’s not the only world there is. There are a lot of people out there that don’t buy into it, that don’t look at every social interaction as a chance to show off.
Even if you have to pay lip service to that shit at your job doesn’t mean you have to put up with it in your personal life. It’s exhausting enough as a professional - do you really want to deal with that at home? Don’t you want a place where you can just be yourself and be vulnerable or happy or arrogant or sad or whatever it is you happen to be in that moment? Because if you try to attract a partner by denigrating and devaluing her, you’re going to end up with someone who resents you and plays games too, and you won’t feel safe in your own home. It will be a constant game of manipulation with no space to just exist. I cant imagine living life like that. It sounds like hell.
I think you are in the middle of this process, and I think you will work it out. Maybe you’ve lived most of your life as a doormat. Sometimes it’s necessary for us to swing to the opposite extreme before we can find our center. I just hope you realize you are operating at an extreme, here. You seem like a philosophical-minded person, so I will recommend to you my favorite movie, I Heart Huckabees. It’s a comedy about existentialism and has a little something for everyone. I think you might recognize yourself in one of the characters.
If I were you, and speaking as someone who read this book in a formal academic setting, I would work very hard to make sure you understand Will to Power in the full context of the rest of Nietzsche’s body of work. Also understand that it was unfinished at the time of his mental collapse in 1889 and heavily edited by his abusive anti-Semitic sister Elizabeth Forster-Nietzsche, who used the work as Nazi propaganda. There has been speculation that many sections of Will to Power weren’t even written by Nietzsche.
Also keep in mind that Nietzsche was not a happy person and never really was. He was almost certainly bipolar. And, as I mentioned earlier, he got no ass he didn’t pay for and died of syphilis. Which isn’t to say one can’t profit tremendously from his ideas – I certainly have. But take everything he says with a grain of salt, man. He wasn’t exactly a master of his own destiny.
If you want a more constructive look at the problem of suffering, try Viktor Frankl’s memoir* Man’s Search for Meaning.* He could tell you all about how badly men want to dominate and denigrate others; he lived through the Holocaust. He decided to use his experience in the service of others, working as a psychologist in the concentration camps and collecting data about how people survived the experience. The key had to do with your idea of narrative, particularly the construction of meaning. Ultimately he did achieve great professional success – not only because he survived with his soul intact, but because he used his experiences in the interest of the greater good. This is the true alpha male, and Frankl puts the lie to the myth (and it absolutely is a myth) that you have to play games to get ahead in life.
If you repeated the same thing ten times, I’d walk away from you in real life, or just stop responding to you and move on online. If you think that means you won the debate, you are more than welcome to think so. 
Well, if his game works, it works. Only he can tell us if it does or not.
If his game is making people stop interacting with him, it would work beautifully for me. Come to think of it, I would like people to go away sometimes - might have to incorporate some of his techniques.
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Precisely. 1 is almost certainly false. To win an argument, you have to get the audience to side with you. I’m just going to assert that as the definition of “winning”. If your strategy is to act like an obtuse, condescending jerk, then you’ll lose the audience. They’ll beg your opponent to lose his cool so that they can vicariously vent their outrage. Have you ever watched a presidential debate and wished you could jump through the TV, onto the stage, to call out the “other guy” on some lie? Don’t you instead with “your guy” would call him a stupid dolt to his face?
If you assume that making your opponent lose his cool will automatically win you the audience, you’re wrong. He can get pissed off once you’ve pissed off the audience and he’ll walk away with the win. You can wear a smug smirk and say you won if you want, but I guarantee you that you’ve just surrendered all power to the other guy.
I just don’t see how you can think that pissing off people and making them walk away from you makes for good politics.
And I bet it doesn’t work nearly so well at home. What of it?
Or, more likely, a side effect of being born with a penis.
I don’t follow what your actual goal is here. Real life is not a debating contest. Typically in our interactions with other people, we generally want something. A girls number, people’s companionship, a job offer, a potential client to give us his business, your subordinates to perform a task as well as they can. You don’t “win” anything by annoying them or inciting them to lose their cool or by being a selfish prick.
The way you “become alpha” is to present yourself to others in a way that implies the promise of fulfilling some need or desire - recognition, social acceptance, status, strong decisive direction, protection, solution to some problem they have, whatever.
They have some interesting realizations, some of which I feel described the human condition, other part not so much, but IMHO unfortunately much closer to the reality then what is commonly though of. Yes men in submission to others are basically sub human, not that they were intended to be, but that’s how they are treated, and they have limited access to others, which is limited access to love.
Be honest— you assemble all of your posts using those refrigerator magnets with words printed on them, don’t you?
That would explain a lot.
Is it simply that those guys go to Western China or is it that once there, a lot of guys realize that they can be assholes and still get infinite sex? I presume that the non-asshole westerners in western China also get nearly infinite sex if they want to.
Most women I know are going out with pretty decent guys. Here are a few rules for getting laid:
Figure out who you are. Nothing is more attractive in a young man than knowing who you are.
Be really good at something, anything and failing that be passionate about something.
Have a lot of friends of the same gender, it makes you seem more male.
Don’t let sex be the only reason you are talking to a woman, women can sense this and it puts them on the defensive.
Don’t be obnoxious but don’t be shy around women.
If a woman is little more than a life support system for a vagina to you, then you might as well be paying a prostitute because, you would get what you want without emotionally screwing up every woman you date.
When you are mean to SOME women, they want you. By their mid-twenties, most women don’t really want to date assholes unless they are rich assholes.
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Or, you can just find women who have better taste in men. The sort of women whose definition of “high status, desirable male” is something like “smart”, “devoted to me”, “polite”, or whatever qualities you have instead of being a thug. Personally, I don’t want some woman who’s looking for a man who pushes her around; I find women like that creepy.{/quote]
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Tissue?
You, too, seem to be confusing picking up women with dating. “Emotionally screwing up every woman you date”? “Don’t really want to date assholes”? Who said anything about dating?