Somebody please convince me this blog is some sort of childish satire.
It’s a twist on “game” (aka pickup theory) that is so smugly misogynistic - hell, misanthropic - that it’s like Dr. Dick Masterson without the laugh lines. The ethos is roughly as follows: alpha males are dominance robots, women are masochist fuckmeat, and sub-alpha males are human waste. And the comments are universally positive.
Not only do these sociopaths have no business coming within ten yards of a woman, I don’t even want them breathing up my air.
In about 40 seconds I encountered the term “beta male” misused twice. I don’t think I need to see any more of the site.
The author of this site seems to think that “beta male” means “omega male”. Based on that and your post, I’d extrapolate that it’s a misogynistic, pseudoscience-laced screed designed to appeal to embittered Nice Guys. Is that about right?
And he’s also misusing alpha male; it’s not a synonym for “bad boy”. Or a synonym for “insecure jerk who has to have women call him ‘master’ to feel comfortable”, for that matter.
This is the Dope, so no one can be merely average. Make that WBAFC to you, mack!
And the most crooked have all the money, the least moral the most adulation, people who do nothing for society get paid hundreds of millions to play children’s games, and the guys with the charisma get laid whenever they want. Life is hard, wear a helmet, and realize you don’t have to be a victim if you don’t want to be.
I used to have a few fraternity brothers who acted like that blog describes. All I gotta say is that I wasn’t a particularly promiscuous go-getter, and I was typically getting laid more than they were.
In my experience, while a “typical” girl will pick a jerky bad-boy over a milquetoast “Nice Guy” a lot of the time, the guys who get the best consistent results are the ones who project that “alpha” image WHILE being nice guys.
The sad thing is, there are A LOT of guys out there like this.
And they all end up coming to western China, where there are enough girls that have low self-esteem/inexperience/daddy issues/visa aspirations/whitey fever/sick parents that need some cash that their despicable actions do indeed translate into nearly infinite sex. The bad guys win. If you want to know why I’ve been so bitter lately, it’s because guys like this have become the only guys I know. Meanwhile I have to listen to my starry eyed students moon about their “handsome foreign teachers” while I know those same foreign teachers go directly home from class and and whack off to “www.crying-asian-college-girls-dominated.com” while their child-bride student girlfriends wash their undies.
These guys are out there. They succeed at what they do. They make me sick to my stomach and erode my faith in humanity.
Problem is, most women that say this aren’t out there fighting the good fight, aka laying milquetoast nice guys. So naturally, the bad boys keep winning. In these women’s perfect world, it wouldn’t be the bad guys getting laid, it’d be NO ONE getting laid. It’s a simple fact that when you’re mean to women, they want you. No one wants to ride the lamb, they want to ride the bull. If you really want to change that, go lay a geek. Frequently.
For what it’s worth, pretty much every guy I know is nice, in the sense of not being a jerk by nature (I mean, seriously, how many people are?), and pretty much every guy I know gets laid on a regular basis, as the majority of humanity do. This idea that being “nice” stunts your ability to find a girlfriend is ridiculous; to the extent that the trope about “girls don’t want nice guys” is legitimate, it’s for a notion of “nice guy” which isn’t actually about being nice, but about being off-puttingly pathetic in various ways. As noted above, the guys girls like the best (hell, the people people like the best) have niceness among their other attractive qualities.
It’s never about whether or not you’re nice. It’s about whether or not you’re confident. You just usually don’t see asshole behavior without accompanying confidence.
I don’t understand why people refuse to take responsibility for their own relationships.
If you find yourself frequently encountering a certain ‘‘type’’ of woman or man, it’s time to ask yourself: What about me is attracting this kind of person on such a routine basis?
If, rather than submitting yourself to some self-examination, you decide it’s not only the problem of the people who wronged you, but also the problem of an entire gender, then the answer to the former question is, ‘‘I’m an asshole.’’
And conversely to this: If you think that all women want jackasses, it’s only because you are seeking out the type of woman who gets turned on by jackasses.
Confidence is the key, really. FTR, my guy is kind of a geek. And a nice guy. But not a Nice Guy, because - go figure! He doesn’t do everything I want, he doesn’t bend over backwards to my will, he has a mind of his own. He knows where his towel is. And really that’s all there is to it.
Wishy-washy so-called “Nice Guys” are not attractive, really. I’ve said this before, but confidence/assertiveness is not the same as rudeness or assholishness, but they can be confused. And, some girls confuse it, especially young ones or ones with low self-esteem or whatever. That doesn’t mean that all women want bad boys, but as others have said, some men choose to believe this rather than look at their own behavior.