Exactly. The correct answer is, “Baby/darling/honey/beautiful, it’s perfect.”
Even if you think it looks like two pieces of roast beef around a bucket.
Remember, guys, this is an example of the several things he said. I’d love to hear the others.
Me too. I still don’t have a good idea of what he considers open, honest post-coital pillow talk.
Oh, this could be fun…
When I’m in you I feel nothing.
I couldn’t get past the smell of dead fish.
Is it supposed to look like that?
My Ex was much better.
I really like you when you aren’t talking.
Have you ever considered getting your teeth pulled? It doesn’t have to be all of them, I guess.
When women are really into sex, it’s incredibly attractive. Or so I thought until I met you.
Him: It was like waving a stick around in the Albert Hall
Her: It was like being pinned under a wardrobe with the key still in it
“I mean… your vagina is cavernous!”
To the OP: since you obviously have problems with communication, let me tell you why she didn’t like the “spacious” remark.
While it is true that none of us has control over the size of our genitals, for men it is a bit more of a pass. Well, he has a little dick, what are you gonna do? No, no, he is really average. I know some men put a lot of their self esteem and self worth on their dick size, but the average woman doesn’t care. If it’s big enough for penetration, we are good to go.
But if you say to a woman that her vagina is too loose, you are (in her mind) making statements about her moral status. It is slut shaming and nothing more. That’s how she will read it, and very likely how you meant it. And if you didn’t, then why mention it? Just as you can’t change the size of your penis, she can’t change the size of her vagina.
You know what I do in situations where the truth is hurtful? I find something to compliment. My friend gets a hideous hair cut? What good is it going to do to tell her? The hair is already cut. She can’t uncut it. If I really don’t like it, I’m not going to say that. I ask her if she likes it? Then I tell her I am happy she got a haircut she likes. Or ask where she got it done. She never notices I didn’t actually answer the question, and I didn’t lie.
Why hurt someone just to hurt them?
“You didn’t have to say it twice”
“I didn’t, that was the echo”.
Im still looking for my horse and cart
The crazy thing is that “your vagina is large” is not an objective truth. First of all, size is relative, and, second, it’s just an opinion. There’s no brutal truth that’s crying out to be told.
And even if there were, not every objective truth needs to be blurted out. How exactly is anything improved by telling someone they are physically deficient by your standards? (And during the afterglow. How fucking clueless can you get)
Can I get the OP to sleep with my EX?
I’d love someone (else) to tell her what a crazy ass bitch she was…
At first I thought maybe people were jumping to conclusions about the atrocity of the “honesty” in question, but it seems that the actual so-called “honesty” is even worse than I dreamed possible.
Giving people unsolicited negative information about themselves is not being honest–it’s being a jackass. Plus, this isn’t even something she can do anything about, so there is truly no potential positive purpose to vocalizing your judgment. You’ve also failed to take an objective perspective, as if your penis were larger, more of that “extra” space would be taken up.
It’s true though that you shouldn’t wait until after sex to be yourself. Somewhere, there could be someone who will appreciate this quality you have, so it’s best to give everyone else the opportunity to get out of the way as soon as possible.
I tend to get talkative after sex, but it’s about silly things. Not “hey, your fucking vag is enormous.”
I’m still laughing my ass off at the total cluelessness of saying something like that to a woman and then having to post a thread here to understand why she got upset. Why don’t you tell her she has a fat ass and how much you hate her mother while you are at it?
I also agree with others: honesty and constructive criticism, even at the times when they are appropriate should only be geared towards things which a person can improve upon.
I think this is BS.
Yeah, we can’t be buying this, can we?
Well, it is Stringbean. This OP is not that far off from other things he has written, and his later comment is also not that “out-of-character” for what he has written in the boards before.