In sexual situations, do you enjoy dirty talk, or do you find it a turn-off? Or do you enjoy it up to a point, but get turned off if it’s too graphic and/or effusive? I’ve dated women across the spectrum - some who initiated it and were porn-star level verbal, some who enjoyed hearing it but were too shy to engage in it much themselves, and some who didn’t care for it at all. I’m sure men run the gamut, as well. So, what do you say?
I like it up to a point, but get turned off the second I am insulted or it gets too graphic. You do not want to call me names when my teeth are that close to your dick.
I’ve gotten to become a real fan of it–my last GF was gifted at it, saying exactly the sort of encouraging sounds (sometimes as little as “Oh, yeah, I like that”) and she had a very fetching way of grunting rhythmically that I really liked. Before her, it was semi-comical stuff I used to hear that turned me on as it turned me off, but it’s nice to be with a woman who’s enjoying it and lets me know what she’s enjoying.
I am pretty verbal during sex, especially when I kind of go into the “zone” and the words start coming out. Basically, I’m just saying whatever I’m thinking - not really obscene, but mostly “words of encouragement” that are kind of breathless, kind of sexy, that let him know that he’s doing a good job, keep doing that, that feels great, etc.
I like hearing it too, if a guy’s talking sexy to me during sex about how much he’s enjoying it, how sexy I am, that sort of thing, it helps me along to an orgasm. As long as he doesn’t say something like, “You mean the panties your mother laid out for you?”
On seeing the question, I immediately flashed to the SouthPark movie, when Saddam and Satan are having sex and one says to the other “Oh yeah, you like that, don’t you bitch” or something to that effect. I’d be like, “No, no I don’t, and get offa me right now!”
Edit: Also, see above. And another thing, while a certain amount of male dominance is a huge turn-on, please remember this is real life, and not internet porn. Do not slap me in the face with your dick. Thanks.
I don’t mind instructions, it’s after all about both of us… and I don’t mind talking… I’ve had actual conversations during sex. But the “dirty” talk thing is just hilarious.
I usually do my best not to laugh… it’s just when someone does the whole “let’s explain to the blind viewers what’s happening in graphic detail”-thing that I usually crack up. you know the stuff, straight from low budget porn, “I love how your huge…blah blah”. Not blind me, and most of the time I do actually know what’s happening without the narrative.
Now, if submission happens to be her kink, I’ll make her beg for sex… and beg me to stop. But there’s no way I’m doing the dirty talk thing; I’ll pull her hair, I’ll even make her bleed… but it’s sex, it’s not fucking amateur dinner theater. If I want to wear mask and spew “dirty” words, I’ll audition for a hellraiser sequel.
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Hmm… I do the same thing with fighting… I don’t posture, or threaten people. I see no point in pushing people. If you want a piece of me, step up and let’s get it going. I guess I’m just task oriented by nature.
Sure, most of the time, but as has been mentioned just the wrong word can make me laugh, or wince (and not in a good way). This isn’t just offensive stuff that’s clearly from a shitty porn – bad grammar can turn me off.