What is with boys and their inability to hold their drink?
My boyfriend has now wet the bed (while i’m in it) on three separate occasions after a big night out.
When will it stop?
Will it stop?
Help me females what should i do? (Beside dump him?)
I hear this is common (but disgusting)
Anybody with any views? Or should I just make him sleep in the bath from now on when he is off his trolley?
[Milhouse]
And by waking up a little early and changing the sheets, no one’s the wiser. Tomorrow–disposing of the evidence!
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I vote for making him sleep on a rubber mat on the floor when he is drunk. If he is so drunk that he can’t control himself he probably won’t care where he sleeps.
I don’t know how common this is. I have only ever seen it when someone was falling-down-passed-out drunk.
Depends! 
Or you could make him sleep in the bathtub. Easy to clean up!
I’ve not heard of this in adult males, and I work in an industry renound for alcoholics. No it’s not homelessness.
I say get him Kylie Pants for the incontinent (don’t ask why I know) - snd no, they’re not hot-pants worn by a prince-sized pop queen.
oh, I misunderstood. I thought you were looking for someone to help you wet the bed! [sub] I’ll be over here at the bar if you change your mind! 
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I had two friends- a brother and a sister, who both routinely wet the bed when drinking. BOTH of them. It was very bizzare, but I would guess there was a physiological reason for it. It only ever happened when either of them drank. Their signifigant others had the same problems you’re having- waking up in a wet bed. I suggest trying to get him to either stop drinking, see a urologist, or put a plastic matress pad on the bed.
Zette
Got see a doctor.
I don’t want to diagnose, and I’m just asking, mind you, but don’t people with diabetes sometimes wet the bed?
They make very nice mattress pads lined with a soft vinyl now. I just bought one for my daughter (3 years). They don’t crinkle at all.
As far as his problem, you may want to make him go to the bathroom before he passes out so he doesn’t have such a full bladder. Maybe try to get him up in the middle of the night and guide him to the bathroom.
And, it could be worse. My mom’s friend’s husband pees in the closet. Evidently, in his intoxicated state he mistakes the small confined space for the bathroom. Apparently, he’s ruined hundreds of shoes.
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One time, in a drunken stupor in Italy, I came to my senses with a friend hollering at me in the dark. As he turned on the lights, I realized I was peeing in his dorm room trash can.
I took the trash out.
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See, for me I could never drink so much that I was in such a mindstate.
Plus, if REALLY drunk… I can’t even lie down until I sober up (which with my metobolism takes no longer than an hour, no matter how much I’ve had). I don’t mean stone sober, but just to the point where my feet don’t feet like they are rotating up over my head when I close my eyes… This has happened twice. Imagine being on a carnival ride that turns you slowly upsidedown while your eyes are closed… Now, imagine being hammered during that ride. Now, two beer is my limit at any given time.
But I digress…
A conversation you might consider have with him should be how maybe his drinking is a little excessive if he’s wetting himself, and how perhaps you don’t want to be spending your life with someone who has no control when it comes to self-abusive behavior. Seriously, if you drink so much that you can’t even get up to relieve yourself in the middle of the night, in my opinion there is a problem there. Maybe it’s medical, but it also might be a thing that AA could help instead? I don’t know… I’m just throwing out suggestions here. All I know is that a big night out shouldn’t end with you getting pissed on…
My apologies if my comments are out of line.
A female flatmate of an ex of mine used to do this, and years ago I knew one other person with the same problem.
IANAD, but I reckon you can be 99.9% sure that there is nothing physically wrong that would warrant a visit to a doctor or urologist, and equally sure it’s not diabetes or any serious medical or mental condition. Heavy alcohol affects different people in different ways. Some get hangovers. Some don’t get hangovers but suffer considerable memory loss (this used to happen to me). Some don’t get hangover or suffer great memory loss, but they find alcohol can befuddle the brain circuits enough to disrupt the signals that normally say “Need the bathroom! Wake up!”.
He needs to drink less, or drink differently (beers, wines and spirits have different effects).
Nothing wrong with the boy. I remember the first time I wet the bed. It certainly wasn’t my last. People pay psychiatrists thousands of dollars to find their “inner child,” and you sit there and shame your boyfriend for finding his.
Seriously tho, after the first time, it’s like your body just thinks that’s it’s OK to do that stuff again. Years of toilet training go out the window in a flash. What you need to do is retrain, and the process is similar to potty training dogs. ** You have to catch them in the act.** With puppies, you give them a whack with a rolled up newspaper. I would suggest you just keep a bat near your bed and sleep lightly.
I think I posted a similar problem years ago and wound up with a flood of people telling me to try AA. Aside frm being a good place to pick up drunk chicks, that wasn’t for me. I found instead that drinking more hard-A than beer helped. But that may not be advice you wanna give your boyfriend.
Boy, I was going to come in here with the shocking revelation that I wet the bed on and off until I was 11, and I was going to suggest that your child not drink anything after 5 or so in the evening, but this is, ahem, different.
Make sure he goes wee before bed, and then if you wake up in the night, wake him up at whatever time it is and make him tinkle again. Warn him that he can’t wear his big boy pants if he’s going to tinkle himself like a baby. Bribe him with potty candy. Tell him to stop drinking an hour before he leaves the pub.
Tie a knot in it…
or get him a catheter…
I posted a thread with an identical title on Fathom just yesterday! I got all confused when I came here and saw it! Mine regards my 6 year old son, however.
(anyone who has advice is welcome to participate in that thread, btw, which is here)
Thanks for all your advice people. I laugh softly @Spider.
I know i have a boy not yet a man (well 22) and it’s a problem I think it may be well due to the fact that he is from New zraland, the boys tend to go very hard, not sure what they are trying to prove but wettest sheets might be it.
I’m going to show him these replies and maybe he’ll be changing his ways…btw it’s snake bites that do it to him everytime, it’s a London thing half beer, half cider and a splash of rasberry cordial.
It’s still illegal in some pubs…so i’ll have to work at getting them off his menu…
Illegal? Why?
Dangerous I suppose, it’s a bad mixer and gets you very drunk and possibly a law was passed due to many annoyed girlfriends forever washing dirty linen…:mad:
It also must surely taste like piss - maybe that’s the connection.