This is completely hypothetical (as far as I’m concerned), but the SDMB seems like a great place to get hypotheticals like this answered.
Suppose I’m at a bar, shooting pool with my girlfriend. I walk away to use the restroom, and return to some guy (let’s assume all three ‘players’ are of similar ages - in their 30’s/40’s), standing all up in her space, talking quietly to her, etc.
And since this is hypothetical, let’s please ignore the “well, maybe she’s encouraging it, doesn’t mind it, maybe she’s cheating on you”, etc. Let’s assume she does mind it, and it’s now up to me (the boyfriend) to take control of the situation.
I suppose there’s three options to this scenario: 1) boyfriend goes apeshit and starts a knock-down drag-out right there by the corner pocket, 2) boyfriend ignores what’s going on and feels like a complete pussy as he walks away to put another dollar in the jukebox, and 3) somewhere in between.
Me personally, I’m pretty non-confrontational by nature (and I’m probably in the ‘30th-percentile’ in a bar fight - as in I’m likely getting my ass kicked 70% of the time). Never been in a bar fight myself, but I’m just guessing.
I’d probably walk up to the guy and make it clear that he’s not welcome, but I have no idea exactly what the words would be that would come out of my mouth. Buying the guy a beer to encourage him to “slow his roll and go sit back down at the bar” seems a little unnecessary, but I also can’t imagine myself just walking away and ignoring the situation.
Ladies, what would your “ideal reaction” by the boyfriend be in this scenario?
Personal anecdotes/stories welcome :). And this is sort of a difficult topic to search on - if this scenario has already been discussed, then by all means point me that direction.