Inspired by that other thread and true events!
Suppose a guy and his girlfriend are attending a wedding, and a drunk female guest (imagine a Rielle Hunter wannabe) starts acting brazenly inappropriate toward the guy, trying to exchange phone numbers, smirking at the girlfriend, etc. and continues ramping up the belligerence. Obviously the guy needs to laugh it off and be a gentleman, but that can only go so far. Should the girlfriend also step in and tell the pest to get lost?
Girlfriend takes drunk woman out during bouquet toss.
Would I step in? Never. Any women is more than welcome to flirt it up, with my man. Pour it on, give it your best shot, any time. I’m not the least concerned. I know this man, that’s not going to work. I have no doubt.
I am male, but in that situation I think the concern should be less “will he be tempted because he likes women who slur their words” and more “who is the crazy drunk chick and why is my girlfriend hanging back and not volunteering us for flower arrangement or anything’s better than this.”
Good thing is that drunk often equals needs to pee soon, and you two can make your escape. Failing that, get more strict. Also, Hollywood has taught me that there are no repercussions if you tackle her into the cake.
Yes, you should say something.
I’ve had this happen a million times and I never say anything. I just go cuddle up to him. Men love women “fighting” over them (yeah, yeah, all of your men don’t…well mine do!) and I’m sure as hell not going to give them that.
Yes, say something. To the guy, afterwards.
The boyfriend needs to respect his girlfriend enough to not play along with someone who is over the top in her attack, at least in front of the girlfriend.
This is somewhat different than the other thread, in which is was either stated outright or implied that the girlfriend was unhappy about being approached.
Best reaction? My GF says, “He’s mine…but I share.” 
I rather like this approach: http://notalwaysright.com/when-toxic-personalities-become-intoxicated/25871 
My poor BF would be looking at me with fear in his eyes because he has no idea what I’ll do. If I’d had a drink or two, I’d probably start hitting on her just as obnoxiously as she’s hitting on him. I’m screwed if she’s bi, though. 
Murder suicide pact.
I’d beat everyone at the reception to death with the guestbook, drink all the sterno from the chaffing dish warmers, and try to explode myself before the police arrive.
I’d wait for the cake reveal first, though. Hope it’s not fondant!
Paired with “…but I’m sorry, you’re really not my type or his” would probably work.
I’m married to my SO, but when we were dating, he had to deal with this on a semi-regular basis. “Ooooooh, you’re cute-- can I sleep with you?” type reactions would occur, and he was pretty good at defending his own space. Personally, I don’t care if he flirts as long as he and I agree on what’s appropriate beyond that.
If she is my GF’s type it might get interesting.
Ha, happens all the time. My SO works in primary education and is surrounded by women. He has a grand total of 1 male colleague. All his female colleagues are in love with him (duh, he’s hot ) He honestly once had to ask me if women feel it when they rub their boobs against someone’s back when they squeeze past, because women do that all the time. His boss does it when she stands behind him to look at his screen! I told him if it bothers him he should definitely say something, if needs be to someone else, but he just laughs about it.
I think it’s hilarious. Everyone flirts with him. Gay men always flirt with him too. It’s fine, why would I mind? If they’re annoying him he’ll walk away and come for a cuddle with me! When he tells me I always joke that I’ll come to work with him and beat them all up to defend his honour, but really, why would he need that?
If she’s smirking at me, then this is no longer between her and him. That’s profoundly different than the other thread, where the dude hitting on the woman was aparently unaware of the boyfriend’s existence, much less his relationship with the woman.
Since she wants to provoke a reaction from me, she won’t get a direct one, but I will step between the two of them and suggest to him, loudly, that we find an elsewhere to be. Not because she’s starting shit with him, but because she’s starting shit with me.
If she wasn’t aware of me or smirking at me, then my answer is the same as in the other thread. Let him take care of himself, introduce myself, refer to him by an endearment and put myself in a physical place where he can make affectionate contact to drive the point home, if that’s how he wants to handle it.
I think we discussed this here before, but I never notice if my boobs brush against someone in a crowd situation. Someone would have to come at me palms open or tweak a nipple before I’d notice the difference between backpacks, jackets, books, or body parts.
But I was listening to a group of boys at college a couple years ago discuss how much they enjoy the increase in enrollment because they get lots more boob on the elevators and in the stairwells. I was surprised to hear that they a) made a game of touching as much surreptitious boob as possible between classes and sharing the details including targeting certain busty or “good” girls leaving the Bible classes and b) were certain the girls were in on it and “getting off” on the contact.
I’m pretty sure I can refrain from resting my breasts on a colleage’s shoulder as he works, though. Sheesh. That’s pretty forward…
That was great.
I would immediately dump any girlfriend that did this. Just because a girl hits on me doesn’t mean I was asking for it. Nothing in the OP implies that he is “playing along”. It just states that the guy should be a gentleman about the situation.
The best reactions that I have seen from my exes all involve them directly engaging the girl in conversation. Nothing particularly confrontational but it makes a point and the other girl always backs down. This happens after I drop a few not so subtle mentions of “my girlfriend” comments into the conversation.
If its making you uncomfortable. Leave. If its making him uncomfortable, ask him to go with you. If neither of you is uncomfortable, there isn’t a problem.
At a wedding or party, this might be a walk outside, a dance, a trip to the bar, a “oh, I haven’t had a chance to talk to Great Aunt Margaret” At a bar, just go to a different bar.