That was my response, pretty much. Sometimes if you’re in a crowded space, squeezing past, you don’t notice that much. It’s sort of the same as your bum brushing someone. But some of his descriptions are definitely a little more than that. Anyway, so long as he is not uncomfortable with it, it doesn’t bother me.
ETA: He actually made me sit in a desk chair and demonstrated what his boss does. It was especially funny as he obviously has no boobs and had to really lean in. Haha! But that pretty much made it clear that she is doing it on purpose…
Ya’ know, sometimes you ladies think women are hitting on your man when they really weren’t. (Yeah, I know, guys think that too.)
I can recall a handful of occassions where my (then) SO would say something to the effect of: “I can’t believe she was hitting on you right in front of me.”
When, in fact, there was no ‘hitting on’ anyone.
That said, I just start talking about my (at the time) GF when ever this happens. Usually tends to work.
When I was in my 20’s I had a couple of GFs that were into the whole threesome thing. But whenever that happened ,it was the GF’s job to set that deal up. If I tried to initiate that shit myself, I’d be in a heap of trouble.
True. OTOH, how many threads have we had where men have admitted they can’t tell when someone is interested in/flirting with/hitting on them? Lots. Sometimes it’s more obvious to an observer than to the hittee.
Women typically don’t just talk to random guys in a bar unless there is some level of interest.
The truth is a lot of men (at least on this board) appear to be socially clueless. That is to say, they don’t know how to read a situation, nor do they know how they should react to it.
The appropriate response is your SO should come over and make her presence known to you (the guy). You (the guy) should then introduce her as “this is my SO [whoever].” Then the two of you can politely excuse yourself if the situation is uncomfortible.
Or the guy can simply be like “excuse me, I have to talk to my SO”.
Being a gentleman does not mean he has to allow someone to “start acting brazenly inappropriate toward the guy, trying to exchange phone numbers, smirking at the girlfriend, etc. and continue ramping up the belligerence.”
This is disrespectful and I can’t see how anyone would tolerate it. You wouldn’t tolerate it if someone were directly insulting you, so why would you allow someone to openly smirk at your girlfriend? Being a gentleman does not mean that one passively allows others to be belligerent.
Both with this case and the other thread, it’s really easy for the person being approached to simply not respond and shoot them down.
Anyway, so long as he is not uncomfortable with it, it doesn’t bother me.