Whoever came up with that term to describe bisexuality?
Yeah, I swing that way. Fundie bigots call me a queer and beat me up…and many (not all, mind you, but a lot) of more militiant Gay Rights activists call me a traitor for dating girls as well as boys. More like the WORST of both worlds, by God.
Oh, I get the idea. Yeah, I can enjoy both genders, no problem. Okay, I can accept that “both worlds” phrase in that context. I just don’t like monosexuals telling me I need to choose one or the other. I don’t have to, and I’m not going to.
I made it up. I got it from that scene in the movie Terminator II, where the two Terminators are fighting in a steel mill, and one of them gets centerpunched by a big steel rail thrown by the other one. (Or something like that.)
Always seemed to me that being bisexual would indeed be a rough way to get through life.
<George Carlin>
Can you imagine wanting to fuck everyone you meet? Think of the phone numbers… It’d be easier to carry around the white pages instead of a little black book.
</George Carlin>
Or was that Bill Hicks? In any case, next time someone tells you you need to choose one or the other, remember that they’re just jealous… You’ve always got better odds at finding a date/getting laid than they do.
Well, I reckon you’re just a glutton…in the smorgasbord of life, you get all the best pickings. Can’t you just leave some of the prawns and crayfish for us ‘mono’s’??
“Everyone thinks that bisexuality is some kind of dating smorgasbord. It’s not! It just means I can go into any bar and come home alone.” - Michael Dane
Very good, matt. People often forget that it’s not about being indiscriminate in every sense of the word. xyzzy, this monosexual says, more power to you in living your life as a unique person, and not as some sort of archetype for what either side thinks about being bi.
And Hamish says my encyclopedic knowledge of Queer comedy isn’t useful for anything.
Anyway, another one is from Bob Smith who said, “Conan O’Brien once asked me, ‘As a heterosexual, there are some women I see who I’m not attracted to. Is it the same for gay men?’ I replied, ‘Definitely the same. Ernest Borgnine is not on my list.’”
I don’t see what’s such a big honking deal about this principle: bisexual people are attracted to some men and some women. They are not necessarily interested in your ugly ass.
(That was a generic “you,” not directed at anybody in particular, especially not Dopers, many of whom have perfectly attractive asses.)
I’m a hetero girl who could definitely DO a girl. I don’t think I could ever fall in love with a girl tho.
How about you? Do you think that one day you’ll fall in love and get into a monogamous relationship (or maybe the two aren’t even connected)? And if you ever do fall in love and get into a monogamous relationship, which sex do you think it’d be?
Remember, I can’t speak for all bi people, just me. That said, here goes:
Monogamy? Yes, I could. However, if I’m going to be monogamous, I expect the same from my partner. It’d have to be someone I truly love and care for, if it means I have to sacrifice half my sex life. Don’t get me wrong…if I love the person with all my heart, I’d have no problems being monogamous. But I would have to have a deep love. Frankly, I don’t see that happening soon for me, as I zealously guard my heart. Let’s face it…my heart’s been broken too many times for me to trust it with just anyone. I’ll keep it to myself for now.
Which gender would I fall in love with? Either one. What arouses me is not so much body parts. It’s more like connecting with the whole person. Touching, cuddling, caressing, and genital stimulation. (Believe it or not, my most sensitive erogenous(sp?) zones are the backs of my hands and underside of my forearms.) It’s just sharing passion and satisfying desires. Gender differences mean the sex has to proceed different ways…for example, I can’t vaginally penetrate a man or fellate a woman. That’s all it means.
Bisexuality in my case is more than being attracted to both genders. It means considering gender irrelevant and being sexually attracted to the whole person, not just body parts. It’s kind of tough for me to explain, but hopefully you get the general idea.
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