Over the weekend, I saw an obituary for a 13-year-old girl in a nearby town who “died at home” (i.e. she committed suicide). Usually, when a young person dies, there are oodles of online condolences, and that’s just not the case here - just a few notes for her parents, and one of them is from the parents of one of her teachers. None of them mention the girl or even her brother - only condolences aimed at her parents.
I can understand a lack of response for an adult, but a child? Obviously, it looks like something else was going on here.
‘Died at home’ is **not **a euphemism for ‘committed suicide’, where on earth did you get that idea?
More likely this child suffered from a long term condition or disability, so whilst she was able to attend ‘school’ on some basis, may not have been able to engage fully with her peers for whatever reason. Hence why no messages of condolence…she may not have had any friends.
I saw something similar. A kid was 14yo, he took some kind of illicit drug and had a seizure and slipped into a coma. He eventually came home in a vegetative state. He lived a few years. When he died they didnt even have a funeral. He was cremated and that was it. I felt sorry for his parents. I slightly knew one of his aunts. She’s never mentioned it, to me. Yeah, it’s sad.
No, her list of activities and interests indicated a child of most likely above-average intelligence who attended public school. People who want private condolences would most likely request that the message board be turned off IMHO. It’s always possible that she had a brief illness, but this doesn’t look like it.
My local newspaper does not give the cause of death unless the family or friends request that they do so. However, I have seen “suicide”, “drug overdose”, “complications of alcoholism”, etc. listed as causes of death.
I’m not posting a link to the obit, or the online condolence board, out of respect for the privacy of this youngster’s family.
We’re discussing this story more extensively on another board, and it just occurred to me that her death may not have been suicide - that she may have been murdered, most likely by her brother, and this information hasn’t been released yet but family and friends know it, and this is why so few people have signed her e-condolence book. Or she may have been an extremely dangerous or troubled child in her own right, and there’s a lot of between-the-lines thinking that this was for the best in the long run.
I knew I’d posted a thread with this topic, but didn’t realize it was that long ago. Anyway, my local newspaper also posted an obituary today for a 40-ish woman who was pregnant, having married the love of her life last year, and since neither the cause of death nor his name was used, I wasn’t surprised when a cursory Google search revealed that it was a spousal murder/suicide. She lived in another state, but had been born and raised where I live now.
Her Facebook page has wedding pictures all over the place, although the comments have been turned off. His Facebook page had pictures of her, prior to their marriage because he hadn’t posted since about 2018.
Anyway, I’m mentioning this, because NONE of the links associated with her have ANY messages posted to them! I understand people not knowing what to say, but one would think that someone had to have cared enough about her to say “Sorry for your loss,” that kind of thing.
Back in my grocery-store pharmacy days, I saw in the paper that an 80-something customer had “died suddenly at home.” We all assumed it was a stroke or heart attack, but it was neither; he had been out mowing his acreage, and the tractor tipped over and crushed him.
