Yeah, but that can (and will) be accomplished through her decorating ideas (and the fact that she’s paying half the mortgage…I assume you put her on the mortgage).
You would think so, but we are dealing with a woman here, the rules are not quite the same.
Also when you discuss this, I think it goes something like (in her mind):
She - I want to put the biggest darn photo of our wedding in the most prominate place in this house, this way everyone who comes here will know that this house, you and I are together.
You - Well I don’t like the idea (again how she hears it)
she - Why (you are now on a no win situaton)
You - (you say about tackyness, but she hears) I don’t love you enough, I don’t want us diplayed on the wall, you might be able to decorate some of my rooms to make you feel importaint, but lets be real here, I have veto power and that picture is an afront to it.
Just my take on it, and have no idea if this is really happening.
But I really think that photo to her is tieing you, her and the home together in her mind.
Did you forget a smiley here?
I don’t have anything new to add, but I just HAVE to help drive home the point that that is tacky, ugly, slightly narcissistic, tacky, obnoxious, and a waste of money to get a print that big. A Kinkade would be a better choice (and, brother, I fear for you, because for some reason I suspect that someone who wants to hang a giant wedding picture in their living room just might be drawn to Kinkades one day, too).
I don’t think doing it for 1 or 2 years is fine.
It’s not ART. It’s a wedding picture. Think about your guests. They’re going to come over your house and be looking at a great big picture of you guys hanging over the room. I don’t know hwo you could even be considering this.
You gotta start being honest with her NOW.
If you must have a HUGE wedding picture in your house (and really consider the necessity of such a thing), please put it in the bedroom. Because clearly your wife wants to look at it, and it should be dawning on you that NO ONE else wants to look at it.
And, I don’t think a smaller one, with a montage of other wedding photos and guests is any better. It’s not crap for the living room. It’s crap that goes into a wedding album that you pull out to show people when the time is right.
There is no smiley that conveys this realization by itself. It would have to be a combination of shock at the concept :eek: , embarrassment at the notion that she’s heart attack serious about wanting this :o , the realization she does not have good taste :smack: and there’s little he can do about it 
. If a wife wants something on the living room wall, it’s going on the wall.
There is something that a Kinkade is a better choice than, but it sure as hell ain’t a giant wedding portrait. Maybe smearing elephant shit on the wall.
What IS an apporpriate size for a wedding photo, then? We have our inviation framed with a 4X6 picture under it on our living room wall by the fireplace. You can’t even really tell what it is from a distance. Is that ok, or do you consider it tacky to have one at all? (Not that we are taking it down, but I just wonder what part makes it tacky. I do agree that the one the size in the OP seems like too much.)
Nooo… sorry friedo, apparently art that uses elephant shit as a “textural element” is still higher on the food chain than a Kinkade.
An art exhibit depicting the Virgin Mary in Elephant Dung - The Holy Virgin Mary
we have an 8x10 around a side wall in the living room. You would need to walk into the living room, and turn around to look at it and its not where you would see it if you were looking at others in the room, or the TV.
It’s very casual too. it’s full-body and I’m drinking a beer and the wind is blowing my wife’s hair in her face.
I think getting any bigger than that is pushing it but it depends on the environs.
We have a nice one in our bedroom. It’s 8x10.
Why don’t you agree to put up the picture, but stipulate that it must come down as soon as both of your wedding day hairstyles go out of fashion? That only takes what, two or three years, tops? 
Well, I think it all depends on how good looking you guys are. If y’all are a couple of hotties then go for it. Just make sure the ol’ lady shows off some cleavage.
BOTOH, if y’all look like a couple of trolls that should be living under a bridge; then please for the love of God, spare your prospective house guest the displeasure. 
Now, that I think about it you should post a link of said picture so we can give you a more well informed opinion.
Seriously though, wedding pictures are cool, but one THAT big does seem a little extreme…
Spend a year’s salary on having a top-name designer hand-sew her dress. Have a hand-tailored tuxedo or military dress uniform for yourself. Hire the archbishop of Canterbury to perform the service, then have it at Westminster Abbey. Have a photo blown up to 4 feet by 8 feet. Put the photo in an enormous gold-gilt roccoco frame that’s 12 feet tall.
Put that in your living room and to hell with everyone!
I married someone with no taste. I have a picture (with burnt edges, mounted on plywood) of Clint Fucking Eastwood. It used to be in the living room, but I finally put it in the fireplace room where no one actually goes. I mean, he likes Clint (what’s not to like?) but do we have to have his “Spaghetti Western” pose plastered on the wall? I think not. However, as long as no one sees it, I’m cool with it.
Personally, I think a smaller picture (8 by 10ish or less) in your living room is fine, especially if you have been married less than 3 years. (Number arbitrary). Huge picture seems somewhat me-oriented. My brother and his wife have two very large enlargments of scenery from their honeymoon (in the Grand Tetons, so they are mountain scenes) prominently located in the living room. Another option, to me, would be to have a picture taken with you two in it on the honeymoon and blown-up. Of course, where you go on the honeymoon can be a factor. And if she is saying “It won’t feel like MY home without a HUGE wedding picture of us” I’m not sure this is a fight you can win. She may also decide that looking at the picture gets tiring and be willing to compromise later. Moving house is an excellent time to rethink what hangs on the walls.
Imo, a picture of yourself that’s that big (whether it’s a wedding portrait, graduation portrait, or a snapshot of you picking your nose with one hand and your ass with the other) is tasteless. It smacks of that ridiculous portrait of Trump at Maralago (if you’ve not seen it, check out TWoP’s recap and threads re: The Price is Height.) Do you really want people to think of you the way they think of the Donald?
As a solo portrait, 11X14 is really about as big as you can tastefully go. If you’re going for a collage effect, you can get an 18x24, then surround it with smaller (5x7 or 8x10) framed pictures of attendants, guests, family, scenery, etc. The simple fact of the matter is that she’s not going to be happy without the picture put up someplace pretty obvious, and you’re not going to be happy with your 20x30 face staring at everybody all the time. I really think your best bet is to go the collage route.
Another option is to get collage frames (frames with all sorts of openings for pictures of varying sizes and orientations), fill them with wedding photos, and sprinkle them through the house. If there are wedding pictures all over the place, she might feel comfortable enough to give up the huge portrait idea.
I agree with those who say, “tacky, tacky”. 8 x 10 fine. Giant. ick.
I shudder to think about what goes on the wall after they have children. Especially the first child… I’m thinking of a giant 4’ by 6’ of a drooling bald baby.
Of course, that will be excellent payback humiliation when the child becomes a teenager.
I think you both need to compromise. If she wants that hanging on the wall then she’ll have to compromise and allow you to hang a velvet Elvis to the right of it and “Dogs Playing Poker” to the left of it. And yours don’t come down until hers does!
I’m female and I think that’s absurd. 30" x 40"??? Right front and center in the room as the dominant focal point? I would die of embarassment. My family would die of embarassment. And my friends would be weirded out trying to visit, with me on sitting on the counch and the “other me” floating overhead.
I usally see wedding photos framed in dining room, master bedroom, or on the “wall of pictures” where there are other photos etc. I have a framed photo of my grandparents’ wedding (in the dining room), and I would gladly give a copy to my relatives, but I do not need to see a giant picture of myself or my spouse everyday.
Another thought, do you (or does she) have any idea how much it would cost to get such a big picture framed? I know my brother and his wife paid a pretty penny (with help from my folks) for their pictures. Obviously, a statement such as “$300 for a big picture after everything else we are spending on this wedding” will not go over well. (How can you put a value on her feelings?) but, if she’s never thought about it, and you do investigate, she may decide that a smaller picture would be acceptable.
Of course, this idea may make my prior one (picture of scenic view from honeymoon) difficult as a compromise since it will likely be costly as well, but it might be worth considering.
Personally, I’ve never understood people who would want any pictures of themselves hanging in their homes. Loved ones? definitely. Me? ick.
I guess a wedding pictures is more marking an event than just showing off your own mug, but what she proposes is just a mite big and ostentatious.