I asked a girl that I worked with out to Homecoming for senior year (back in 1996). She actually, genuinely liked me (she told my best friend so) and she was the first really, really pretty girl that ever felt that way about me.
But then her dad told her that she couldn’t date someone from work. But instead of telling me face to face, she had another co-worker tell me. Over the phone. I was mad at her for weeks. So, girls can be poopyheads, too. We would have been totally incompatible, anyway. (She wore Grateful Dead t-shirts! Ick!)
She seems like she has priorities that will pay off in the long run, but I’m sure that does nothing for her right now. She’ll chalk it up to experience soon enough though.
She’ll still have fun at the dance with her friends - I’m sure of that. And they plan to go to IHOP afterwards. Maybe I’ll get her a flower, just for the heck of it!
I had forgotten about the girl from church who who asked me to some high school dance or other. I suck at dancing and had no feelings for her. I agreed at first, but couldn’t go through with it. I found out later that she’d bought the tickets already. That hadn’t occurred to me. Ick.
Is this one of those things that will be replayed on the big screen on Judgement Day?
Not to be judgemental, but yes, you will be called on the carpet for that one. Just as The Perfect Child’s[sup]TM[/sup] erstwhile beau will be.
Holy crap, FCM, that sucks. And you can tell TPC I said so. Of course, for both of my proms, I wound up spending almost all evening with someone other than my date (their choice, not mine). Actually, to be honest, for the first one (junior prom), the company was three male friends (not that way, you pervs! :)); for the second one (senior prom), the company was my date from my junior prom.
Why yes, my romantic life has been complicated. Why do you ask?
And yes, it has been my observation that this sort of situation is generally worse for girls than for guys. Just oversharing, as usual.
I don’t think any whacking will be necessary, but thanks for your concern! The kid is handling it very well. In fact, she’s getting a bit angry with her friends who are badmouthing PHB - she’s very forgiving. What a sweetie! Takes after her mom, of course!
I was told by a girl I’d met about 5 hours earlier that she wasn’t going to go to her Prom, and that she didn’t have a date. I said, well, I like you, you seem sane and nice, if you don’t have date by June ( this was December ), I’ll go !
I went, we dated for a year. AND, I was a year younger. Most guys are poopyheads. I proclaim myself to be a poopyhead free male !!!
I didn’t do homecoming, I was too artsy fartsy ( nyeah nyeah, **FCM ** !!! ). I was the guy doing the musicals that you didn’t want your daughter to bring home…
FairyChatMom, I also have a daughter “Princess Without A Country(the trademark thingy)” and had many similar experiences. She’s nearly 23 now but I remember patting her hands and saying "Honey, it won’t be that many years before you won’t remember his name (it was almost like poopyhead) or what he looked like.
I dunno. I had intelligence, humor, hygiene and common sense as a teen. I was also, then as now, duller than dust on a flat black wall on a cloudy day.
(In a discussion of the romantic nature of SO’s, Deb once remarked that she married me because I was steady.)
The kid is handling it very well. In fact, she’s getting a bit angry with her friends who are badmouthing PHB - she’s very forgiving. What a sweetie! Takes after her mom, of course!