I responded to this post because I come here to The Dope to mainly read the threads and post on rare occasion. I feel the info on this site is informative and for the most part the posters here seem to care about accuracy and fighting ignorance, and I felt that demonizing someone for things they neither said nor did is such an unDoper thing to do.
I have, admittedly, become fascinated with the polarizing effect on American women that this one particular celebrity divorce seems to have caused, and it is still something people get into heated arguments about even five years later. It is my opinion that the tabloid press exploits this because they know the idea of an evil dark-haired beauty sells. So really, I cannot blame tabloids for doing what tabloids do, but I feel there is really a double standard when it comes to Ms. Jolie and she has been unfairly cast in this role. There are celebs who do and get away with far worse, but they get a free pass. I will attempt to address some of your arguments below, and I am not sure how to do the quotes, so I apologize in advance I this post comes out all wonky.
Posted by MitzeKatze:
The hate- which is really too strong of a word I think- is easy to understand. It is the way that she and Brad got together.
Did you know that Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward were both married to other people when they met on a movie set and fell in love? They both quickly got divorced and married each other ASAP. I don’t think anyone held that against them for years after the fact. I don’t feel one person can be stolen from another, like a toy. If anything, Brad has hinted in a Charlie Rose interview and again in Esquire magazine that he and Jen were guilty of staying in the marriage too long. He said it had “run its course” and it was “at a deadend”. Yet, the public is quick to blame Angelina. Sounds like Brad and Jen had issues they should have dealt with but chose not to.
Posted by MitzeKatze:
The family that shouldn’t have formed.
Wow, that’s pretty harsh. The truth is, Angelina already had her own ideas about how she wanted to adopt her children, and years before Brad said she didn’t want to have children biologically. She already had Maddox, and had already started the process to adopt the child that would turn out to be Zahara before she and Brad got together. Brad, who said way back in the 90s that he wanted 6-8 children, was not trapped into this family. He wanted it as much as she did, and in a Reader’s Digest interview Angelina said that Brad is the one who changed her mind about bio kids, that he talked her into it. She said she discovered there was nothing in the world like being pregnant with the child of the man you love. Sure, Angie’s done some wild stuff, but she admits to all of it, has talked freely about it, and credits her family for the positive influence in her life. So I can’t agree this family shouldn’t have formed.
Posted by MitzeKatze:
Is he? Did he tell you that the last time y’all had lunch together or what? And does it matter? These are two people who put themselves and their relationship into the limelight.
We (those posting here at least) are just having fun speculating and gossiping. Nothing we say or believe is going to change a thing and won’t matter one whit to either Brad or Angelina. More importantly none of this has any effect at all on the children whose parents forced them into lives of public speculation as well.
No, he didn’t tell me that the last time we had lunch together, but he did say so on Charlie Rose, Oprah, and Larry King while doing press for Inglorious Basterds and Benjamin Button. If he says he’s happy, I guess he’s happy.
As for them putting their relationship in the spotlight, I would have to say no to that as well. They don’t give many interviews, and even then it is only when they have a movie to promote, and that is part of their jobs. Their kids are probably out in public less than any other celeb couple, but everytime they are, here come the bloggers talking about them “pimping” their kids, like they are supposed to dig a hole and live in it. The kids of Jen Garner, Halle Berry, Nicole Ritchie, Gwen Stefani, and J-lo are probably photographed much more. The only exception would be Suri Cruise probably gets about as much press and mean speculation. And oh, I know people want to rag on them for selling the baby pics to People mag, but the truth is ALL celebs sell their baby pics. The difference is they pocket money. J-lo got something like 6 million for her People cover of her twins, but she kept that money. Somehow, just because Brad and Angelina got more money and donated it, that is somehow evil. It baffles me.
Even worse are these horrible women on gossip sites who post the most vile and racist things about the Jolie-Pitt children. They call themselves fans of Jennifer Aniston, but I think she would be horrified if she knew about how they wish for Angie to crash her plane and die, for her children to be born deformed, and other things like that. There’s this British web site called Female First that is the worst of the lot as far as that kinda stuff goes. According to them Angelina is the Antichrist and responsible for all the evil in the world.
Posted by MitzeKatze:
She lost a husband who she was still in love with. That deserves sympathy in my book. Angelina (admittedly) contrived to seduce Brad and lure him away from the woman he vowed to love forever, that is a good reason to dislike her in my book. Jennifer Aniston did not just “get divorced” she was dumped hard and publicly. That does not happen to millions of other women, at least not on the same scale that it happened to her.
Well, if you go and read some of Jennifer’s old interviews from when she was married to Brad, she didn’t seem all that enamored of him, really. She complained about how she didn’t like his motorcycles, she belittled his interest in architecture, she was not supportive of his career, she disliked his taste in art and furniture, and said that if you could come and be her for a day, you would be the “most pissed-off person ever”. Brad has said that he went into therapy during their first year of marriage, and they hardly spent any time together. They seemed like two very mismatched people. Jen was/is very career oriented, and he wanted a big family. Angie has never said she “contrived to seduce Brad and lure him”. She did say she couldn’t wait to get to work every day, and they have both admitted they “fell in love” on the set, but all persons involved, including Jen A, have said there was no physical affair until after the separation, and by then Jen had already hooked up with Vince Vaughn. Doug Limon and cast and crew have all said they were always professional. So yes, you could say they are guilty of an emotional affair, but falling in love does not equate to “stealing” someone away from another. If the marriage was good, he wouldn’t have been attracted, and from what I can tell, it appears that Brad was the one who did the chasing…yet the public perceives it to all be Angelina’s fault, like Brad bears no responsibility in it. Anytime a marriage fails, two people are to blame, the two people in the marriage, so Jen is not blameless either, even though her publicist would like you to think so. Even Jen herself has said that she is neurotic, needy, and insecure. I can be happy for the “cheaters” because hey, Brad went from a girl who hated bikes to one who will jump on one and go riding with him, which I happen to think is cool.