I had a date with my guy yesterday afternoon. All went really well. Got an Im from him today, “last night was wonderful.” I wasn’t with him at night. I asked, and he says he was “reliving” the afternoon. Bullshit or not? Deal or No Deal?
What time in the afternoon? To me, once it hits after work time, I call it “night”. Probably a bad habit, but it’s just how I view “work is done” time.
Our date was from 1:30 to 4.
Was this a first date? It’s hard to tell since you called him “my guy.”
If it was, drop it. It’s not worth it.
If you’ve been out with him before, why are you being so critical?
Been seeing each other about 2 months.
How was the afternoonness of the date decided? Did you suggest an evening time, but then he said, “Baby, night time dates are so cliche. How about you and me go out in the afternoon; make it real special-like. We’ll go to the zoo, hold hands, get a milk shake. I’m gonna have to get you home before 5, cuz I gotta work tonight.”
If that’s how it went down, then likely he got you and Barb’s IMs mixed up.
hee hee. Barb. No, its because I was busy that night .
His “reliving the afternoon” line sounds like lying to me, I would be suspicious.
If he had said “oops, don’t know why I wrote that”, it would have seemed more like the truth.
From knowing a few chronic liars it seems like they say too much, explain too much or have an overly elaborate explaination when lying.
Deal or no deal? That depends on if you already have a no dating others agreement.
Maybe he had a date and didn’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you. That doesn’t mean he’s not into you, he could be into you the most and slowly getting rid of other romantic interests.
I had a guy use that line once. He meant it. He IM’d me at work and I responded we never see each other at night. He responded with “oh, I see you every night”. I believed him because I knew wasn’t actually getting any from his real girlfriend.
Oh, it just sounds like he stated it badly, and when you jumped on him he said something smoove to try to sound smoove. I think this is a minor minor thing to be suspicious about.
If one possible misstatement causes you to run to a message board of anonymous strangers for advice, I’d say you have bigger problems in your relationship than the exact timing of your last date. YMM, of course, V.
I’d cut him some slack. The point of “I had a great time with you last night” or thereabouts is that he had a great time with you, not that he’s trying to make sure you understand that your date occurred in the mid-to-late afternoon. “I had a great time with you yesterday afternoon” sounds stilted.
The message you should take away is, he had a great time with you. Enjoy it.
I frequently answer the phone at work with “good morning” even if it’s 3 in the afternoon. Those are just the words that come out some time. It doesn’t mean that I actually slept until noon, and just got into the office.
Maybe he phrased the first message with “night” in order to prompt you to ask about it, all so he could use the “reliving” line? I know guys who do stuff like that. Does he has a cheesy sense of humor?