Went out with a guy two times. Both times were perfectly pleasant. He called me after the second date, seemed very enthusiastic about everything, said “Let’s talk about our next date tomorrow!” Texted him a “howdy” the following day, and his response was “you have to f*ck off now.”
So SOMETHING happened in ~12 hours, and I don’t really care what it was, but I was definitely taken aback by the… uh… abruptness of that response. Could you not just pleasantly decline to converse further?!?
I’m sure that’s it. He was cheating and she saw your text; or a very petty “friend” who wants more from him decided to chase you away. Either way, be glad to be rid of him quickly. The less time wasted, the better.
I bet his ex-girlfriend or someone similar got a hold of his phone. I would wait 6 hours and then text back a “WTF? Why the hostility?” to see if it was actually him.
Another possible explanation- since his message was “you have to fuck off NOW”, directly after you texted “howdy”… maybe he really liked you,but then you said howdy, and that was a deal breaker for him for some reason. Maybe he was beaten as a child while watching howdy doody, or maybe he doesn’t know what that word means and interpreted it as a racist slur or an insult to his penis size.
Wow, I say howdy all the fucking time. This is an outrage. In fact, it is my default “hello.” No I am not from the south, I just like it. It sounds friendly/happy/cheery.
I think you should text him back and ask him why he was so rude.
The issue isn’t the words you used (I do realize people are joking about that); the issue is that either he is a nutcase, or he has a nutcase in his life with access to his phone. I would give him one chance (maybe he didn’t realize his ex-girlfriend was messing with his phone while he was in the bathroom) and ask him for an explanation for the rude, abrupt email, and then go from there.
