Busty Ladies! Help me with this Lingerie Conundrum

In My Humble Opinion
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I have…um…ample breasts. 38 DD. In fact, my buxomness leads to all sorts of lingerie-related frustrations. There’s a 13 inch difference between my waist and bust measurement, so anytime I try to buy lingerie, it’s a living nightmare. I’d rather just go naked, but sometimes occasion merits frillyness with maribou trim and lace.

I’d specifically like a nice babydoll with a fitting bra up top for support, with the little fluttery skirt attached. Every time I try to buy one, though I can either get one that fits in the boobs, but the skirt droops down to my mid-thigh and the matching panties are too big OR I can get one with panties that fit and a proper skirt, but my breasts overflow the whole thing and threaten to suffocate me.

I need to find a lingerie store (online, please) that will sell cutesy stuff by bra size instead of S-M-L-XL.  It'd be nice if they sold the panties separate, too, so I could get a set that fits instead of buying two sets to cobble into one little number that fits.  These boobs call for something up in the "X" category, but then no other part of it fits!

Take pity on me. Is there anywhere I can get what I want? Or am I doomed to wander the earth in poorly fitting frillies?

FB

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Howdy, FaerieBeth.

I can’t remember the name of the brand that immediately comes to mind…

However, I recommend posting something on the message boards here. This is a message board for women who are getting a breast reduction/augmentation and other breast-related issues. Now, I know that’s not what you’re looking for, but, trust me, I spent a lot of time there before my reduction, and if someone there can’t answer your question they’ll know someone who can!

Good luck (and I feel your pain! Er, at least I used to!).

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Thanks, niblet_head. I’ve registered there, and they have some links to great sites for Bras…pretty ones, too. I plan on shopping for some soon, but no lingerie other than a few Merry Widows :: sigh ::

I suppose I am doomed. Unless I get them sucked down to normal. I’m afraid to do that, though. (Is actually a great big chicken “bawk, bawk”)
FB

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Let me be the first (or so) to say: how you doin’?

and: my natural skepticism demands satisfaction. Please provide a link to a photo of yourself in lingerie so that I can fully visualize the problem you are having.

:wink:

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Ah a fellow Monroe-esque type girl. I hate this problem, I’m a 34 DDD (32 if I weren’t so fat at the moment), also with a 13 inch diff between waist and hips.

I once had to buy a size 0 skirt, because the waists on the other sizes were too big. The hip part of the skirt flared out, so that part wasn’t an issue.

At any rate, some lingerie places will allow you to “mix and match”. Otherwise, you may have to learn to sew.

Or, you can take in the waist. That’s what I have to do with bras. Rarely does a triple D come in smaller than a size 38 band.

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There are couple things you should do.
First, make sure you have the right bra size. Look for a store that specializes in fitting mastectomy survivors. They almost always also carry large cup size bras.
You can find your real cup size by measuring your chest size just above where your breasts begin to rise, then, witha bra on, measure directly over the nipple. Subtract the smaller from the larger. (If the second is the smaller, you’re in the wrong thread.) The difference will indicate you cup size. I’ll go find the breakdown, but the sales people at the titty store will measure the same way.
When I was in a size 3 pants I wore a 32 DDD, and always spilled. I had occasion to help a friend through her “refit” after mastectomy.
We when to Catherine’s in Ballard (Seattle) While she was having her fitting, I told another sales person my painful tale.
She measured and fit me and I left with a size 32 LL! :eek: It was the first bra I’d ever worn that didn’t ride up, cut in or otherwise torture me! I wore it to tatters. The large cup sizes are quite expensive, but worth every penny!

Then Check Frederick’s of Hollywood for some frilly little somethings. They carry sizes for us; the Rubensque beauties we are.
Good Luck :wink:

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If you are a true DDD Nordstrom’s has always carried DDD down to 32. Not many, but they will also special order.

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Oh, yeah, sorry I forgot to mention, I’m allergic to paying 60 bucks for ONE bra :D, and that I used to live in Anchorage, Alaska. Not a great lingerie selection in the stores there. Not even the specialty stores.

We had a Nordstrom, but it was mega expensive. About 60 for the bra, and yeah, they DID charge for the ordering and shipping too.

Since I’ve moved to the states, I’ve managed to find a great outlet store for Bali (my fave, the most supportive and comfy, and they occasionally manage to make pretty ones too), they DO occasionally carry the 34 DDDs and I just buy a bunch when they’re in stock. But to just walk in to a normal lingerie store, especially to find pretty and reasonably priced bras, it’s pretty rare.

Unless as you say, you special order. And that’s big bucks.

Once, when on a trip to New Orleans, I tried on a merry widow. Once that sales lady had me laced up and I mean UP. I turned to face the mirror, and almost passed out from shock. I looked like the prow of the QEII!!! I said “Oh my God, no WAY”

To which the sales lady replied “oh, it’s just that you’re not used to seeing yourself this way”.

I replied “no, I’m not used to looking like the front end of a 1949 Buick!”.

Needless to say, I didn’t buy the garment. Sad too, because they DO make your waist look so tiny and cool. :frowning:

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This was a site I bookmarked eons ago: I spotted it in a thread here, acutally.

http://www.bravissimo.com/home.html

I have yet to order from them, but so far as I know you can order most (if not all) of the sets seperate.

They always seem to have a very good array of sizes (they have a 28F for crying out loud!), and they’re now carrying shirts that are supposed be more tailored for us ahem amply endowed sorts. However, I have yet to see a baby-doll style on their site.

<< Now that the deadline’s past, can I please have the spec? >

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Well, I’ve been to Frederick’s and Bravissimo. They both have some nice stuff! I’ve still not found the “perfect” babydoll, but (BUT!) I think I can make one! Yes, that’s right. CanvasShoes’ comment about sewing reminded me that I do have a machine with thread and needles! I can buy a pretty bra…and then buy some matching panties, and sew a cutesy little frilly split-skirt around the bottom of the bra. Add bows and lace. Voilà!

I may actually go back to Frederick’s tonight! They had the nicest red satin sleeping chemise. All fluttery and RED…maybe with some red marabou trimmed slippers, white stockings…

Anyway, yes, we Rubenesque ( I so like that-even better than voluptuous) ladies need to band together and overthrow the commercial lingerie industry. I tire of hitching up my breasts under backless evening gowns with clear packing tape. I’m surprised Draelin hasn’t shown up to commiserate. In the past, we have often plotted such and overthrow.

I ramble. Apologies.
FB

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Oh, and Rufus, if I were just a little more brazen, I would :wink:

FB

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Speaking as a male, I don’t see the problem with that option. Does your SO get a vote, or are you looking simply for a private-frilly-moment garment?

-lv

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Any chance you have a friend that has the opposite dilemma? If so maybe a split on the cost would work?

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Frederick’s of Hollywood sometimes has items for the busty woman.
Personally, I prefer true babydoll pajamas which do not have fitted bra cups.

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I can’t find the post, but we had/have a doper here that is a bra fitting specialist who did the " Ask the Bra Fitter" thread awhile ago. I cannot remember her name, becdaue in mymind I refered to her as Hello titty.:smiley:

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However, I feel it would be innapropriate for me to feel your pain until I know you much better.

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I think it should be clear by now that her SO (that would be the luck I) does not get a vote. I am very content to see her in anything (or nothing)…she often browbeats me over what she feels is an unflattering choice on my part for her body type. Thus, I stick to buying sexy shoes and stockings. Can’t really go wrong there, and satisfies my particular fetish.

And Rufus- we could probably work something out, but then I’d have to gouge your eyes out and cut off your tongue. Though, to be fair, it would be worth it. She’s magnificent.

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This strikes me as hilarious, but I don’t know why. Seriously, I don’t know that I have anyone in my circle of friends with whom I would feel comfortable doing this. Plus, I don’t know anyone who would be a match for the description- Really, really ample rear and small/average breasts.

He’s get a vote on final purchases, he’s just notoriously bad at picking something that would flatter my body type. That flimsy, filmy mesh stuff as a bra cup? Nun-uh. I would completely pop the seams on that. Honestly it just about takes laces and steel boning to keep them under control, and while those are nice, I prefer not to dress like a cinched up dominatrix all the time.

I see your point, LordVor. If I’m dressing for him, why should it matter as long as he’s happy? I just can’t let go of my body image, I guess. Fluffy boobs bursting from the seams may be attractive to some men, but in my mind I still have the initial gut reaction of “I’m too fluffy! Yuk!”

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My wife just had breast reduction surgery. She is thrilled with the results.

Unfortunately it was expensive because insurance didn’t cover as much as I would’ve liked.

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Oh, well, as long as it’s worth it…you may gouge and cut at will. Might as well burn off my ears with a blowtorch, too. May I be dipped in molten glass, as well? :wink:

Of course I feel like an utter slimeball for flirting, I don’t know what came over me. I’m a happily married man with two kids, for Og’s sake! There’s just something about Rubenesque women that gets my attention…I can’t quite put my finger on it…Anyway, I’ve always wanted to be the first dweeb to post a ‘how you doin’? in a thread that was just asking for one. Now I can die a happy man (albeit an eyeless, tongueless and earless one).

And just so this thread isn’t completely hijacked, my wife is a 36 DD with a 26-inch waist who has major problems finding lingerie that fits her well, although we did find a couple of nice things at Victoria’s Secret, of all places!