Butthurt, making emberassing assholic idiotic mistakes.

[taskmgr.exe]

@VinylTurnip

I suggest you identify the processes that are causing these problems and end them. Sometimes we take on too many tasks, and they end up using all our resources. In the end, it’s all about performance. If you haven’t already, try networking— it’s really important to make good connections. Just remember that help is always available, and it’s OK if you need a little downtime. Just don’t minimize yourself, and try to always stay on top.

You’re the man. Made my day.

@control-z

Don’t worry taskmgr.exe, at least you have a cool user name. Hope you’re not a virus though!

Control-Z

Plagiarism is bad.

@samclem

So, how did you come by the term “butthurt?”

Since English isn’t your first language and all. Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm?

I don’t think you seriously asked this. Therefore I will not answer. In case of seriousness, I have sent my skype adress to you via PM, Come and see me. :rolleyes:

@Mrs.Cake

I’m 50, which means I got through my teens and twenties with no internet upon which to post all my excrutiatingly embarassing views, mistakes, pictures, screeds, etc. I feel like I dodged a bullet there. I’m really glad that only a small handful of people know what I believed about myself and the world at say, age 22. In spite of that I still have plenty of those 3am thoughts about that horribly humiliating thing I did/said when I was 8/18/28. I can actually tell I’m blushing about stuff that everyone else forgot (please god) two days after it happened.

BTW, even at my advanced age, when in my wisdom and learning I never, ever make mistakes (hah!) I delete about 2 out of three posts composed on message boards. Wait 5 minutes, re-read, and if you still think it is a good idea, hit reply. Yeah, you get ninja’d a lot but oh well.

Did you ever share your 3 AM thoughts with other people? Won’t you give it a try to share with us?

@Soylent_Juicy

Better still, go join the Etiquette Hell boards for a while. Those people will rip you apart if you post something that could be even remotely contrived as “rude”. You’ll have an automatic brain-to-typing filter in no time.

Seriously, this is a clever answer. Demonstrates the true quality of this community.

@Marley23

Correcting people’s spelling and grammar is not a good way to win friends online, and on that note the third word in the thread title is spelled “embarrassing.” In other words … chill.

It’s a common thing in language forums such as WordReference. I explained why it’s important to correct a non-native speaker’s mistakes in my previous posts. But, I have decided not to do it in this forum.

@Soylent_Juicy

I used to get all upset about things that were said on a message board that I frequented before I discovered the joy of The Dope. Finally I thought to myself: “Those people don’t know me. They could walk right past me on the street and have no clue. Random people on message boards don’t give a flying fuck about me or my life, so why should I waste precious brain power worrying about what they think of me, based on things I post in an anonymous forum?” …and then the stress melted away.

I think you’re totally right. But … ->

@Soylent_Juicy

Step away from the monitor and go for a walk. Sit in a coffee shop, sip a nice latte, and watch the world go by for a bit.

… cashiers are assholes in this city as far as I have experimented. So, forget it.

Read that my story, you’ll get it:

@taskmgr.exe

Today, a cashier gave me a dirty coin. At the first place I didn’t realize it was very dirty. The dirty covered almost all over the places. So, now I can’t give it to anyone without cleaning it. I am sure no one will accept it. Anyway! The reason why she gave it to me had a lot of things to do with weakness. Let me explain. I am on abroad. She realized I was stranger/foreigner/whatever-hell. So, even if I had realized, there wouldn’t have been any change. She knew I wouldn’t be able to confront her. People not only despise or demonize weak, they also exploit the weak.

After the realization of dirty coin, I went back to there. I felt so sorry about myself* that I couldn’t confront her, couldn’t say anything to her. I sat down. Just watched her how she treated other costumers. She was greeting other costumers with a big smile. 100% of other costumers get the same big smile. Because none of them were stranger/foreigner as I am. I got a dirty 2€ and and no greeting.

Just a silly example from real life. Choice to believe my story is yours.

*to be honest, I sometimes over-dramatize myself. I actually laughed at what I wrote when proof-reading. But it’s completely true I felt so sorry about myself. The realization of the fact that everyone was trying to find a way to fuck me up, exploit me… devastating.
*

@Shark_Sandwich

Meh. You’ve only been on the board for two weeks (not sure how long you’ve been lurking), so you may have not had a chance to pick up on everyone’s back stories and posting styles. Then you called out a charter member of the board. That’s the SDMB equivalent of taking a swing at a cop - you’re going to get piled on.

Hey, but at least you’re acknowledging your screw-up. Knowing is like, one third the battle.

Yes, you’re right. Where are you from?

@phouka

Task, (may I call you Task?), how old are you? Because what you’re experiencing is what a lot of intelligent, knowledgeable, but have-difficulty-socializing people experience in their early to mid twenties. You know a lot of stuff, you’re used to being smarter than most of the people around you, and you’re not picking up the signals that tell you when it’s appropriate and when it’s not appropriate to do something like correct someone else’s grammar.

Did you make a mistake? Yes. Did you come off as arrogant, pompous, yet ignorant? Well . . . unfortunately, yes. Do people see your name and think “oh, it’s that jerk who thinks he knows all about English?” No.

You see, it was a mistake, not a pattern of mistakes repeated over and over. You listened to the others, and you changed your behavior. Good for you!

The whole agonizing over past mistakes so much that it disrupts your life is not healthy. It could be indicative of either depression or a social anxiety. It’s crucial that you find a way around or past this, or you’re going to have a lot of unhappiness over something that really isn’t that important.

May I make a suggestion? Come join us over in the MPSIMS MMP. There’s a new one every Monday, and it’s primarily a socializing thread where people talk about life events or completely unimportant things. The pressure will be a lot less, and the people there are very accepting. Give it a try.

Oh I am 19 by the way.

@Scumpup

Have you ever heard of Gunkid? He was a notorious and prolific troll who threw a lot of discussion boards that centered around guns or survival into turmoil. More than a few actually ended up folding when too many members left rather than put up with the endless flaming.
You can learn something from anybody, though, including Gunkid. There was a time, when I first ventured on line that I was a delicate little flower who allowed myself to get upset by things people posted. Then, at one board after another, I watched Gunkid be the target of intense hatred and the most vitriolic posts imaginable. He kept on with his trolling, though, complete uncaring and unaffected by any of it.
I realized that if it didn’t matter that numerous whole boards hated Gunkid and their vituperation in the end meant nothing, that it didn’t matter if a few people said nasty things about me now and again.
I’m not recommending that you be a troll, mind you. I’m just saying that even if everybody at this whole board hated you, it wouldn’t matter.

Well, if I was a troll, surely I’d buy into Haters gonna hate attitude. But, because I am inherently and essentially a nice person, I’d never ever troll this beautiful community. Please behold the beautiful post below I quoted. How on the earth can you troll such generosity?

@AnaMen

I don’t think you deserved to be treated as harshly as you were, because it seems you posted your “correction” with a genuine desire to help, not to be mean.
On a forum like this, people absolutely do NOT appreciate having their spelling, grammar, etc. corrected. You may be the exception, because you are trying to learn English, but most people feel that it detracts from the discussion of the topic at hand and is rude and unnecessary, at best. You may see particularly illiterate posters taken to task for their poor spelling/grammar/style, etc. when these things get in the way of understanding what they are trying to say or when they seem to be saying something particularly stupid. Pointing out a typo or occasional error however is not seen in the same light.
In general, people do not like to have their errors pointed out to them. Before pointing out someone’s mistake, don’t think “would I want this pointed out to me?,” but rather “do I have any reason to believe that THIS person would want it pointed out?” If not, proceed with caution.
Now if someone starts spouting off some “facts” that are not true, you don’t have to sit back quietly necessarily, but you should address the issue tactfully. It’s not your job to correct every error you see or hear, but if you choose to correct something, be gentle and be aware that your correction may be perceived as annoying, even if you are right. People like to feel smart and well-informed, and may prefer to avoid those that make them feel stupid or picked on.

As simple as that

@PatriotGrrrl

Posting this near my computer has saved me a great deal of time and energy.

@Drunky_Smurf

Since you like bing corrected.

I am serious.

@Drunky_Smurf

Some of the on the forums" is that supposed to be “them”?

Exactly.

@Drunky_Smurf

“But I feel the equal strenght of pain.” Strength is spelled strength.

You don’t say?

@Drunky_Smurf

“Even tough I have been” is that supposed to be “though”?

“Even tough” is more emphatic than only “tough”

@Drunky_Smurf

“participating forums” shouldn’t there be an “in” or an “on” in their?

Yes.

@Drunky_Smurf

Ok, I’m done correcting you.*

Why? One might have to pay a native English teacher pretty much money to have his writings proofread and corrected. If you enjoy it, keep going. I genuinely appreciate.

@Drunky_Smurf

“I am still offended on the internet. That’s ridiculous. Perhaps, not ridiculous. Even if I stop using internet forums, I’ll remain butthurt until the end of my life.”

Seriously dude you need to chill out. You are taking this shit WAY too sriously. The only one who can control your emotions is you. The internet should not have this much control over you. If it does you need to step back and figure out the underlying source of why you let it have this much control over your emotions.

*sriously *should have been spelled as seriously. Plus, thank you for the advice.

@Drunky_Smurf

The internet is a tool for finding information, entertainment and friends. If it’s not making you happy then you are using the tool wong.

*wong *should have been spelled as wrong.

@Drunky_Smurf

*And if I’ve made any mistakes then someone better come in and correct me. And they should probably make fun of me as well.

I am saying again and again, please correct my mistakes.

@Drunky_Smurf

EDIT: Aslo what Scumpup said. He/she is very wise.

*Aslo *should have been spelled as Also. Yes, she’s very wise.

Truly appreciated corrections.

@Mangetout

When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging.

It’s really easy to get argued into a corner - sometimes, in disagreeing with someone who disagreed with you, you can find yourself accidentally occupying a position that you never would have considered sensible at the outset.

It’s nearly always OK to pause for a while and check if that’s what is happening. And few people will disrespect you if you reconsider your position and gracefully back down. Nobody is always right.

Yet another brilliant post. Much obliged. (:

@Rachellelogram

Something fairly unique about the Dope (and its offshoots) compared to many other forums is how *very *hard it is to bullshit your way around. I know from personal experience how far bluster and a handful of five-dollar words can get you in a lot of online communities. Here, it will get you nowhere. Period. And for people who don’t possess anything of substance to bring to the board–whether it’s wit, insight, quirky niche knowledge, or a fun/interesting personality–then you’ve got to learn to fake at *least *one of those things convincingly. If you don’t have/can’t fake any of that, you aren’t likely to enjoy your time here.

Ah, but I have a colorful personality! We’ll enjoy, no worries