Hi guys. I have decided to take a break from this message board for several reasons…
I just got a promotion yesterday (someone left and although I started about 7 weeks ago, I have lots of store knowledge and whatnot). I will be making more money but also working 10-15 hours more a week. If I want to still spend time with friends and family, this MB must be cut out.
Recently, after a bad experiance in the Pit, I realized that I am caring way too much about what people I have not and will never meet think about me. This is not usual for me and it is bothersome. I don’t care what folks IRL think about me and I am not about to change that aspect of my life because I definitely appreciate it.
I have been feeling lately as though some of the people here are overly sensitive, ignorant, careless instigators. This is in reference to my thread in the Pit to an extent, but also to many others. It is sad to read “Why I hate so-and-so” - I am not about that meaningless negetivity. My rule is: If I wouldn’t say it in real life, I won’t say it OL. Some posters don’t have such consideration.
I have shared plenty of personal information on the board. I have been upfront about myself. But most of you I will never meet, and I don’t enjoy people whom I will never meet judging me by something I mentioned in passing.
I don’t want this post to sound trite or picky. I have been thinking about items #2-4 for a while, and my thread in the Pit only exacerbated my feelings about these issues. #1 simply forced me to make a decision.
I have loved being part of this bored. I hate to go out like this, but I need to cut off this board because I don’t want it to be such a huge part of my life.
Thanks for all the laughs, the conversations, the compliments, the memories. I am grateful that I had such fun for a little while and hope you all continue to enjoy this board as I once did.
Nacho, I really liked reading your post; you’re one of the cool people whose user name I identify with a posting style. And I loved your support on the Fat thread a month or so ago. Sad to see you go. Hope you’ll be back!!
Sarah, I’m really sorry to see you go as well. You will be missed, even though we really didn’t have much personal interaction, your presence will be very obvious.
It’s a shame to see you go, Sarah. I for one will miss your wit, humor, and sassy attitude. Take care, and I hope you come back again, at least now and then. It was good to get to know you here.
You’ll be missed Sarah. Neither of us have been here for long but I always read your posts and enjoyed your observations. Your honesty and wit was always welcome.
I for one would never judge you - just accept you. Heck I don’t get paid enough to judge…
All the very best for whatever life has in store for you. Remember that we’ll always be here for you when you return.
Live so that your friends can defend you, but never have to.
Sorry that you leave the board with such a bad taste in your mouth. I have really enjoyed your posts. You sure got spunk, gal. We need more like you. Please come back soon.
Once again, the nice people lose out because the annoying poeple have chased out another interesting person. feh. Good luck, Sarah, check in via the boards or e-mail sometime!
Sara - Damn, I was already bummed that you weren’t able to join us at the DC/Balt get-together a week ago. Now I won’t see you on the boards either. Bummer!
If you’re talking about the “Men!” Pit thread–first, it seemed to me that most of it took place in the wee hours. God preserve us all from being responsible for what we say at 2:00 in the morning. Take that into account, please. Second, I thought it was one of the most just plain interesting threads I’ve read in a long time. Well-stated OP, not too much heat, plenty of light, people stating opinions and defending them, not just random flames, but enough flames to be interesting. A good thread that repaid slogging through all 3 pages (which is something I don’t usually bother to do.)
You have a place on this board. You have an ecological niche, that of the shoot-from-the-hip poster who actually has something to say and isn’t afraid to defend herself. A distressingly large number of shoot-from-the-hip posters don’t really have anything to say in the first place, and an even larger number of them shoot off their mouths all over the board, but then can’t really defend themselves, so they end up looking lame. I have yet to see anything you’ve posted that looks lame.
You handled yourself very well during the whole Johnny Harvard thing, I thought. Considering it was, what, like your second day here, and you walked into a Great Debates/Pit firestorm, I was frankly surprised you didn’t pack it in right then, and go back to marthastewart.com or something easy like that. But you pulled it off, earning valuable Doper points in the process, so now I’m surprised to see you walk away from this little squib of a firecracker. Geez, babe, this is nuthin. So a couple people flamed ya in the Pit, so what? So a Pit thread you started suddenly got out of hand? Happens to all of us.
Here’s a tip for next time (because I know there’s gonna be a next time, I’m tellin ya, ya got a niche here, you FIT IN). The tip: it’s not necessary to respond to every single post that somebody posts to your Pit thread. You can just post your OP (“Britney Spears can suck my big floppy donkey dick!”) and let the thread unroll, maybe posting occasional comments to show that you’re still here, or to acknowledge something particularly interesting or funny or outrageous that someone says. But the important thing to remember, I think, is that a Pit thread is not a GD thread–nobody expects a serious discussion. It’s fine to post a rant and walk away.
Nacho, I really liked reading your post; you’re one of the cool people whose user name I identify with a posting style. And I loved your support on the Fat thread a month or so ago. Sad to see you go. Hope you’ll be back!!