Does this creep anyone else out something fierce? I think I may have seen it once or twice in real life, you see it a lot in movies. In Mosquito Coast the wife of Harrison Ford’s character is similar to him in age but he calls her mother even when they are alone “well mother what do you think of this?”:eek: I just keep imagining them having sex and it is creepy “oh yea you like that don’t you mother” :eek:
Same deal for women calling their lover/husband daddy, christ that is creepy!
Or am I crazy, because trust me I’m not one of those people that freaks out about age differences in relationships. But this…this creeps me out!
Since we get called Mommy and Daddy all day by our children, my wife and I sometimes refer to each other and address each other as Mommy and Daddy when our kids are around.
When they are not around, we call each other by nicknames or pet names. In fact, my wife has said that she knows that I am angry or stressed when I call her by her actual name.
My husband has tried to call me mommy. Now, it’s one thing when he’s talking to our daughter about me, and refers to me as Mama, as that’s her name for me. But he tried calling me mommy before I got pregnant. Nope, I am NOT his mother. He tries it every now and then, and I remind him that his mother used to break broomsticks over his head, and does he want me to do that, too?
This is the norm in Japan, rather than the exception. There are a few variations, among parents of kids our through at least the lower elementary school grades “mama” and “papa” from English is the most popular.
When the kids get older “Otoosan” (father) in Japanese is common although using one of the many forms for “you” is also common.
Nothing funnier than to hear a woman call out to her husband “Otoosan” to catch his attention and 90% of the businessmen turn around.
I am 20 years older than my partner. He can sometimes call me “Daddy” when we’re being intimate, or otherwise when my age is showing and I’m being out of touch with anything post-1969. He also gives me amusing little Fathers’ Day gifts.
It’s also common in Korea - usually people get called “Sam’s Dad/Mom” if Sam is their eldest child. Spouses will address each other in this way as well. There is also this odd custom of relatives calling women by their daughter’s name - to use someone’s given name is considered extremely familiar, so this is one way of getting around the problem, I guess.
My boyfriend occasionally refers to himself as Daddy (“Come sit on Daddy’s knee” ) but I would never call him that. If he ever called me Mommy I would freak out.
It creeps me the hell out. We don’t have kids yet so it hasn’t happened to us, and I plan on keeping it that way.
It’s one thing to have my husband tell our (future) kids to “ask Mommy”, or to address me as Mommy in their presence, but I’d be really weirded out by him calling me anything other than my name or a pet name while we’re alone together.
I apologize. My father is 80, but he is still Daddy to me. I try to call him Dad, but when I’m talking to him in public, I always end up saying Daddy, and then hoping no one heard me. Mainly I just feel lucky that after almost 50 years, I still have a Daddy who is worthy of the title.
From my own personal experience, I’ve had a couple of GFs refer to me as “Daddy”. I always figured it was short for “Sugar Daddy”. As they certainly were high maintenance GFs and they did do quite a number on my wallet. (Not that I’m complaining.)
Parents are a completely different story. It seems obvious to me that we do it for the benefit of the children. Or when talking about our children, as in: “Mom, you gonna put the kids to bed?”
After our son was born and my wife was still lactating I once made a breast feeding comment half joking when we were laying down after putting him to sleep.
Yea apparently that crossed her creepy line and she was like WHOA don’t…just don’t mention that in that context again.
I’ve tried calling my dad various forms of “dad” in our language. Most sound too formal, so papi (daddy equivalent) is the winner. I do not call him by his first name because I was raised as a youngster to not call him by that, so it sounds “weird” to me. I introduce him (in English) as “This is my dad, HisName.”
My parents, at least in my presence, do call each other mami and papi (and mamá and papá (mom and dad) and madre and padre (father and mother)), but I don’t know (nor I want to know) if they started that before or after I was born. And it seems that they do, in fact, call each other that way when I’m not around, at least part of the time.
I have not called any of my lovers any form of daddy or dad-related term, but the opposite has happened (I’ve been called mami). Doesn’t creep me out. But in my experience it has been VERY nationality-specific.
OTOH, since I was older when I saw and read the word daddy, then that word for me carries the scent of sex,sex-related, and adult stuff, instead of the original, familiar, innocent term for a father.
) but I would never call him that. If he ever called me Mommy I would freak out.
