We were told this in sex ed way back when, but the guy the brought in to teach it was…odd.
He said that you would train your brain to only respond to hand stimulation, and so be unable to get an erection otherwise.
I was thinking about this today (one of my friends had an unfortunate experience, asked me for advice, and I had to tell him I knew nothing, but AFAIK there is no cure bar maybe pills) and I was thinking that while obviously it can’t be true for teenagers, if a man kept going till he was …40/50, then met the love of his life (assume he never snapped and went to a prostitute), then would he be able to have sex?
I’ve heard that some men have problems if they practice a “death grip” style masturbation; they have trouble responding to anything subtler. But supposedly such people can retrain themselves. And heck, women have hands too if it comes to that.
Men masturbate or penetrate *after *they achieve an erection don’t they? So unless these men possess psychic penises that know in advance where they are going, how could this possibly be true?
Are there large numbers of men out there who masturbate/penterate in order to obtain an erection?
If specific genre porn is always used as a stimulant I would think that it might get one conditioned to not respond to anything else. That also could be reversed or untrained.
Even in masturbation variety is the key both in stimulation and technique.
Hm, masturbating to get a hard on is pretty common if you’re not a teenager anymore (or to go from half mast to fully raised). Penetrating to get an erection, that’s rarer, but I guess people with some slight erectile problems (like most men after fifty, or chronic smokers, or…list goes on) might do it.
Ya, I think you hit the nail on the head, so to speak. As one gets older, it takes more to start your engine (push-start or pull-start) and those with a warped point of view to push claim the decline in performance was caused by bad behaviour.
There are lots of reasons, physical and psychological, for occasional or continued inability to perform, with our without various assistance, solo and in concert, so to speak. The commercials are always easy targets to make fun of, but seriously, if ED strikes for no obvious reason, especially regularly no matter what the stimulus, it may be an indicator of deeper medical issues. If it’s just the situation - well, nervousness is not restricted to teenagers. They are just more likely to have a physical reaction that happens despite performance anxiety.
They say the average teen boy has a very active sex life - it just does not often involve anyone else…
This is what I’ve heard (not to mention encountered it once); quite a few of callers/writers to Dan Savage’s Savage Love column have asked about it. Dan recommends using nothing but a light touch and switching up routines/hands/etc. until the guy trains himself out of only being able to get off via the death-grip method.
I am pretty sure penises, or, at least, the brains that (joking aside) actually control them, do usually know where they are going. That is why an erection will occur* in anticipation* of meeting a vagina.
Erections don’t happen randomly, by the penis’s own volition, and then you, or circumstances, get to decide whether to fuck or wank.
It is possible to get too accustomed to one type of stimulation, and make other types of sexual stimulation less… stimulating. It’s not a death sentence, you just have to put some effort into retraining yourself away from the feeling of masturbation.
Of course, you can always masturbate yourself to attention and then stick it in. Yippee! You’re having sex!
I can see there being some truth in masturbating a lot making it harder to orgasm through other stimulation. After spanking the monkey throughout my teens (and during periods where I’m single) it is a lot easier to come from selfstimulation. I’m single now, but when I know there is a chance of sex happening I’ll usually cut out the masturbating a few days beforehand (did the same when seeing someone, as in not maturbating anymore). If I don’t there is a good chance that I’ll have trouble coming by having (safe) sex.
A friend of mine who absolutely hates Limp Bizkit once sent me a link to Fred Durst’s sextape. Whenever I think of half hard guy trying to get it raised while penetrating I think of this.
