I have searched both in the old threads in here and generally online and can’t find an answer to my question anywhere.
Mr. Twiddle snores, and I can’t sleep through it. I know that many folks here in the past have suggested to others all of the standard solutions: he should loose weight, should sleep on his side, should breathe through his nose, should get tested for sleep apnea and so on. We have tried all of the easy solutions, the ones that don’t involve consulting a health-care professional, but still most nights someone ends up sleeping on the couch.
So I’m thinking maybe the problem is me. If it didn’t bother me so much that he snores then we wouldn’t have an issue at all - he sleeps great, except when I am elbowing him to get him to shut up. It’s not a health concern we are sure as he doesn’t stop breathing. He breathes very regularly in fact. And loudly.
My question is how possible is it to recondition me to be able to sleep through his snoring? The snoring wakes me out of deep sleep, but perhaps there is a way to alter my sensitivity to this? Can it be done and what steps would it involve? We’ve only been married 3 months, and I hate to think we’ll have to sleep apart forever. Any ideas or pointers would be great, thanks! Oh and I’m new, so please forgive me if this would be better in MPSIMS.
We’ve only been married 3 months, and I hate to think we’ll have to sleep apart forever.
Does Mr. Twiddle helps you sleep in any other way? After all, all your life you slept witout him. Why to continue slepping sleepig apart is hateful to you?
I can second the suggestion of foam earplugs. My husband sometimes snores, especially if he has a cold or something. I keep a pair of earplugs in the nightstand in case it bothers me. I can even get to sleep by just wearing one earplug in the ear that’s not buried in the pillow. They don’t completely block out the sound, but they do take the edge off.
I think that a way to condition yourself to accept the snoring is to associate it with something good. Who knows? Maybe in a few years you will find it hard to sleep without the snoring.
When my boyfriend and I first moved in together 3 years ago, I thought the snoring would end our relationship. Seriously. I was missing a lot of sleep, and I began to think hostile things towards him while I tossed and turned and he just lay there happily snoring with his mouth open…
Eventually, I just got accustomed to it. I didn’t do anything different, or try positive association techniques. I just became less and less aware of it until it didn’t even matter anymore. Now when I hear him snore, it makes me smile. I think it’s cute.
Don’t worry. You’ll be okay with it in no time.
