Is it possible for someone to disagree with homosexuality (and not be afraid to kindly say so, if asked) but still be considered a nice, admirable, or commendable person? Or does disagreeing with homosexuality automatically take one off the list of Nice Human Beings?
What about if the person has the attitude “by my religious beliefs I consider homosexuality a sin; however I don’t expect people of different faiths to follow what my religion says is a sin”? I would think such a person was a Nice Human Being, so long as they thought homosexuality should be tolerated.
It certainly counts against them in my book, but it is entirely possible for someone to have so many other good qualities that, in the final calculation, they are a Nice Human Being.
If we make being a Nice Human Being dependant on one’s stance on one issue such as this, we risk condemning nearly all human beings who lived during certain epochs to Not-Nice Human Beinghood. That’s rather like the position of some Christians who believe that all people who dead before Jesus was born died unsaved and therefore were shut out of heaven.
I have come to the conclusion that somebody who opposes equal rights of marriage to all loving adult couples commits the deadly sin of wrath, (or the equivalent non-religious formulation).
So I’m wondering, is it possible for someone to “disagree” with homosexuality - “believe” that homosexuality is wrong - without being guilty of wrath? Can somebody be guilty of wrath and still be an (otherwise) nice, admirable, or commendable person? I’m not sure…
I think it can be said, for the most part, that nearly all heterosexuals “disagree” with homosexuality. Conversely, it can be said that nearly all homosexuals disagree with heterosexuality.
I personally find the idea of a gay relationship unappealing, as I would expect most gays to find my orientation unappealing.
If you judge one’s character simply by what goes on in their bedroom, and nothing else, you’ve got problems. If you tell a gay person that you disagree with their lifestyle, in a nice and polite way, that makes you an asshole. Conversely, if a gay tells a straight that he disagrees with their orientation, that makes them an asshole as well.
So what is it exactly that you mean by Disagree? Does it mean that such behavior should be abolished? I don’t embrace homosexuality, but I would lose some pretty good friends if I told them that I disagreed with what they do in private. When would the opportunity to tell a gay person you disagree with their lifestyle ever come up in a friendly, polite conversation anyway?
I’m friendly with many people who are uncomfortable with homosexuality. My wife’s family, for instance, never actually mention the fact that Uncle ______ and his roommate are a gay couple.
For me it has to do more with actions than with feelings. Personally, I feel gay sex is gross. Sorry, I just find it gross. ( Unless of course they are leeeeeeeeesssssbians! ) But that’s JMO and I realize gays don’t share it. They push it on me and I don’t push my opinion on them. If a person disapproves of homosexuality privately or politely then fine. If they try to force this opinion on others such as by trying to get the government to discriminate against homosexuals then they have crossed the line.
Sure. I used to be against homosexuality and I was just as lovable back then as I am now. Of course I never believed it was ok to hurt homosexuals or blamed them for AIDs or anything. I suppose it was mostly just an ick factor that I eventually grew out of.
I think so. I have a friend here in town who is a fundamentalist Christian, and she thinks homosexuality is a sin. She and I have discussed this, and we have agreed to disagree on the subject. We agree about so many other things, that, for me, this isn’t a deal breaker.
Also, she’s very active in the community, in a good way. She’s been the coordinator of our neighborhood’s Crime Watch for seven years; she’s done many favors for many people, including myself. And I believe that she would do anything she could to help a gay person, too. IOW, I don’t think her “Christian Charity” is predicated on the recipient living a lifestyle she feels is acceptable.
I also don’t believe she would say anything cruel or hurtful/disrespectful to a gay person. But if asked how she felt about it, she would tell you, in the most tactful way possible, that she thinks it’s wrong.
I asked her once if she thinks gay people will go to hell, and she said who goes to heaven isn’t up to her, it’s up to God, and she tries never to think about who will go to hell, and who will make it to heaven.