I noticed in the Congratulations Straight Supremacists thread that some folks here can not tolerate a disapproval of homosexuality. In particular, Debaser posted that he was against gay marriage because he thought it was evolutionarily unsound or against the purpose of life according to his beliefs (or something along those lines). He has said that he has not shown hatred towards gays, or any abuse towards them, that he considers it just another defect such as asthma or baldness or whatever. Whether or not this position is sound (and wolfstu sure put a dent in it) is not the issue here. What I have a problem with is the vitriol that was spewed at Debaser simply for having a different opinion on the correctness of homosexuality. I don’t really care to dig up the quotes (as they are evident in the linked thread, page 2-3), but he was called ‘human trash’ among other things.
Why?
Debaser said himself that he would treat his gay children just as compassionately as his straight ones, and that he even has a gay friend. If he disagrees with the concept along some ideological ground, and even opposes the concept of gay marriage, why abuse him so? Or if someone is morally opposed to marriage (for religious or whatever reasons), why does that person get so insanely vilified by some people?
Now, I personally support gay rights 100%, and am saddened that gay marriage is STILL not legal in the USA. However, just because someone thinks that homosexuality is a sin doesn’t make them a bad person. If they recognize the humanity in homosexuals and don’t mistreat them, why shouldn’t they be allowed their views? I mean, some people think eating meat is wrong. Why should the person who considers homosexuality to be immoral be condemned so much more than those who consider meat-eating to be immoral?
We all have our moral judgments on random things, and it doesn’t really matter where they come from, be it religion or something else entirely. The point is, we’re never going to agree on morals, but we can agree on tolerance and compassion. If someone does demonstrate tolerance and compassion, I think attacking them personally for their moral position on X is wrong.
I think the ideal situation for America would be for the government to stop letting religious morals enter into laws, which I believe is the guiding motivation for not allowing same-sex marriages. Many American Christians would probably think worshipping Bhudda is morally wrong, but don’t support the banning of it. If only that same separation of religious morals and secular laws could be applied to homosexuality as well!
Going back to Debaser, I guess there is one intolerant thing he said in his controversial post; he is not for legalizing same-sex marriage. But what I take issue with is not his ideological position, but his willingness to use this position to deny equal rights to others who do not share this view. And this, I think, is the crux of my half-hearted rant. Arguing against Debaser for not wanting equal marriage rights based on his ideology is perfectly fine. Heck, even arguing against his moral position is perfectly fine. However, attacking his worth as a human being for having a moral opinion different than your own is just plain stupid; it’s bullying. If Debaser had stopped showing human compassion to people because of his moral judgment, then yea, flame on. But Debaser has not, and the flames have been totally overboard.
I mean, let’s use the “Everyone in the World” test: If everyone in the world who considered homosexuality to be wrong fully supported gay rights and treated gays with the same compassion and tolerance as everyone else, isn’t that enough?
Yes, I do recognize that the refrain of “homosexuality is wrong” does hurt gays everywhere. However, it is not ever feasible to get everyone to agree with your moral position. For example, I have a friend who thinks I’m going to hell because I quit Christianity. She does try to convert me from time to time (usually quite humorous, as she tries to be so subtle), but never does she fail to treat me with respect, despite her view that I am living in sin. All we really expect from each other is tolerance and compassion, not moral conversion. And we’re very good friends for crying out loud. So why do some people expect everyone to be converted to their moral position (that homosexuality is moral)? Why not just aim your sights at getting equal rights under the law and the recognition of humanity from society? Why does there have to be such viciousness against those who think homosexuality is wrong?
NOTE: I suppose that some may say that moral relativism doesn’t really work; would I make the same argument for respecting someone’s belief that murder and rape were moral? The difference here is that those moral positions go against the very tolerance and compassion that exists in the society I want to live in. I really don’t want everyone to be clones of each other. Varying moral positions are OK, so long as they aren’t used to violate people’s humanity.