I’m not trying to be a dick, I’m just confused as to why there are two of them.
Like he/him or she/her. Is one based on your biological identity and the other based on your cognitive identity? Like is a male who feels like a female referred to as he/she, is a woman who identifies both biologically and cognitively as a woman she/her? I am just curious how the terms work. I’m from an older generation and I’m trying to look it up online but I’m still confused.
Also why are some terms singular vs plural, and some terms are 1st person vs 3rd person?
Is they/them a term for someone who feels non-binary?
For some people, pronoun sets don’t match. A non binary person may go for example by she/them. A woman (cis or trans) would go by she/her. ‘Cognitive Identity’ enters into it. ‘biological identity’, whatever that is, does not.
I think you are a bit confused here- it’s not that there is one for biology and one for how you identify. The difference between he and him and she and her is their function in a sentence. He and she are subject pronouns and him and her are object pronouns. You would never say “Him went to work” or " That’s she car" unless you were a child still learning to speak. There are also possessive pronouns.
Singular they/them is used by anyone who chooses to and also when a person’s pronouns are unknown especially if they are unknown because a specific person is not being spoken of - for example, “Someone left their book on the desk”
Are there terms for trans people whose biological and cognitive identity do not line up, or do they generally prefer to be referred to as the pronouns of their cognitive identity? So a biological man with a woman’s identity would be she/her?
What are the plural terms for? Are those for people who do not feel binary?
Each person uses the pronouns that they feel are most appropriate - the fact that I am a cis-woman doesn’t mean my pronouns cannot be they/them/theirs.
If you mean they/them/theirs , they are used when speaking about more than one person, when speaking about an indeterminate person and when speaking about a person who uses those pronouns and may identify as male/female/non-binary/agender or anything I’ve missed.
Which is why the repetition of the same pronoun gender in redundant subjective and objective forms has always seemed a bit pointless to me. If I tell you my preferred pronoun is “she”, and you are fluent in English, then you know right away that I also prefer the pronoun “her” in the objective case and “hers” as the corresponding possessive pronoun.
IAN transgender or non-binary so can’t speak with authority on that, but I think the “plural” pronouns are actually the gender-neutral singular “they” and “them” pronouns. IME, such pronouns are often used by non-binary people but also by many people who just don’t particularly care about, or for some reason are avoiding, asserting their gender identification via pronouns.
I think it’s because when people first started sharing pronouns, they often shared novel pronouns, like e, em, ers, and they really did need to give all the forms. Now that the singular “they” has pretty much won, it’s superfluous, but maybe it is because “John Smith, he” sounds funny. But honestly, when I give people a checkbox for pronouns, it looks like:
other (please tell me, so I can add it to the list)
(and I let people click multiple boxes if they use both “they” and “he”, for instance.)
Some people use more than one set of pronouns, and they will list something like “he, they”. As I indicated above, I think listing both the 1st and 2nd person of the same pronoun is kinda a holdover.
It can be. It’s also used by people who feel masculine or feminine, but are striking a blow for gender-neutral pronouns.
Fwiw, i just made 45 name tags, most of which have gender pronouns (it was an option) and not one was of the form “he/them”. I have a “she/they”, and a “they/he”, and all the rest are just different forms of one of the standard pronouns, he, she, or they.