Not a Pit worth rant but I’m still kind of steamed at this.
I was at home yesterday morning when my niece phoned. “Hey uncle Alpha, I’ve got a problem and I could really use your help. About four hours from now, can you pick me up at (town about three hours from Casa de Alpha)?” It turns out that niece had arranged to buy a used car from some family friends. She wanted me to drive to her home, pick her up and drive her back to her old hometown so that she could drive the new car back. She wants me to spend 7+ hours on the road to help her out - on virtually no notice.
At a bare minimum, she owes me gas money, a decent, non-drive through lunch and a sincerely offered “Thank you”. I got one out of three and I’m not so sure about that. [/vent]
How have your nearest and dearest pissed you off recently?
Haha. My brother has done similar things. He’d say ‘can you come with me to look at a used car, it’s only an hour away’. After I got in the car and we were on the road he’d let slip it was a four hour drive, not a one hour drive.
Needless to say I stopped going with him after that. He sold the car a month later anyway.
My sister decided she wanted to buy my house. Fantastic. We’ll save some money on the commissions, she’ll be right in the neighborhood with us and our folks. All good. She starts moving her things in before the sale closes, because she’s my sister. Fast forward 2 weeks - her husband announces he wants a house with a pool and they cancelled the purchase. They moved their stuff out and damaged the walls while they were doing it. I was a good sport and didn’t keep the earnest money. I’m still grumpy about it.
My kids are ten and eight. Sometimes they are an absolute joy and other time, I’m writing ads on Craig’s List to try to offload them.
For the OP, how old is your niece? I look back at myself in my 20s and cringe at how self-centered I was.
I have a sister “Carol” who manages does things like that all the time, and she’s in her 50s. Maybe she’s better now, but everyone just shakes their heads. Once I was visiting home, and the other sister “Betty” was in from Georgia. We went to lunch with Mom Carol and Carol’s partner. Mom didn’t even bother bringing her purse, she doesn’t put up the pretense of paying. Carol and her partner never pick up the tab, even with their friends, and just assume someone else is paying for it. Consequently, Betty and I split the bill.
I think I’m probably the one everybody talks about. My many sibs all live a fair piece from me. But they still manage to be all up in my business, all the freakin time. My kids hover and tsk-tsk me. My life is a joke.
My sister had a lifetime of under- and un-employment due to her habit of quitting jobs whenever it became clear that she was expected to work hard. In between the few jobs, my mom supported her, and sister became one of those “failure to launch” people. Then mom got Alzheimer’s, and sister starting hinting around that I and my husband should support her instead. We declined, and suddenly she became able to hold onto a job. She couldn’t blithely quit anymore because she’d become homeless if she did.
She did, however, stop working and go on Social Security about 1.5 seconds after she became eligible for it at age 62.
I could write a book on my MIL. UGH She annoys me so much that I can’t stand to be around her. My husband will now tell me ahead of time if she’s coming over so I can high-tail it out of there.
She’s negative about EVERYTHING, she has no compassion, no filter, not a sentimental bone in her body and no clue how to relate to kids. You can’t hold a conversation with her because she doesn’t pay any attention to current events nor does she know anything about pop culture. I have absolutely nothing to talk to her about. Whatever subject I bring up, she’ll have something negative to say about it.
She used to just drop in on a whim all the time but my husband finally put a stop to that. So now she drops in on her friends…at suppertime!! My husband told her that it was rude to do that. She said, “They don’t mind. We just have a little something to eat.” :eek::smack::dubious:
Every one of her “friends” (she told me she has 29 friends :dubious:) that I have spoken to make comments about her negativity and how sometimes they can hardly stand to be around her.
She gets very upset if her great-grandkids don’t give her the time of day. I wonder why? At one gathering she grabbed my 9 yo grandson and pulled him down on her lap and held him there. The poor kid just sat with his arms hanging down not sure what he was supposed to do. She had the biggest grin on her face - like look at me! The poor kid sat there for 15 minutes. I told my husband, so he called to our grandson so he could escape. One day we stopped by her house with 2 of the grandkids (4 & 5) so she couldn’t say she never gets to see them. I heard her say, “come on honey do you want to help me fold towels?” Then she asked, “do you want to go outside and pick up sticks with me?”
She is the only family member that drives me up a wall.
My mother is moving out of the house she’s lived in for the last 35 years. I was 15 when we moved there, so I don’t feel like I “grew up there”, but my brother and sister did. Neither sibling could be bothered to come out and help my mom move. Yes, they live in other states, but they both have good jobs that would have given them time off, and could afford to come out for a week or even a long weekend. They had plenty of notice. In addition to my mom is dealing all of her things, she’s having to deal with a bunch of their old stuff that they left there when they moved away.
My husband, my son and his friend, and I have been doing as much as we can. We live about an hour away, but have taken time off work to help her as much as we can. She has to be out by the end of the week. My son and his friend did a ton of work Sunday, after which my son came home and went to work (night audit at a hotel). I took yesterday off, husband is going up after work today, I’m going up again Wednesday, but have to be home by mid-afternoon to meet a repair guy. We would be spending more time, but it’s the busiest time of year for me, and my husband is stuck in mandatory training all week. Did I mention sister works for a college that is already out for the semester? Brother just basically never comes home.
It’s just always me and my family, doing everything all the time. I love my mother, and I love my sibs, but it’s frustrating to be the only one she can rely on.
For a second I thought maybe our spouses were siblings, but then I saw your location and realized we have different annoying MILs.
I have a cousin who was always a liar and a mooch. She called me once, the only time she’s ever called me, and asked if she could borrow some money to help with the expenses of her father-in-law’s funeral. The part about her father-in-law dying was actually true and I could afford to lose the money if she didn’t pay it back, so I decided to give her a chance. She, of course, never paid it back and she avoided me for several years after that. About ten years later, her oldest son came up to me at a family get-together and said that I had bet him $100 that he would not live to 18 and now he was 20 and he wanted to collect (he was half-joking, half-serious; I think he was just fishing to see if I would give him some money). I didn’t remember that, but he had been a rambunctious child and I was kind of a smartass, so it was possible that I had said it. I told him to get it from his mother and she could subtract it from what she owed me.
