Hello fellow Dopers,
Long time lurker (addict), first time poster here. I just wanted to save my guest time for something important so here it is. First though, I wanna thank everybody for making this my favorite message board. I have learnt a lot here. I don't know if this is the right topic for MPSIMS, much less SDMB. I will make it as short as possible. If you want more details, feel free to ask me.
About 4 years ago I was living the perfect life. Had a good job, a girlfriend who loved me, college almost over and was going to get married thereafter. One day, me and my girlfriend were woken up by a knock on the door at 3 am at my appartment. I opened the door to two INS agents who came in and questioned me about my immigration status and subsequently arrested me as I was without proper documents. They were nice about it though, giving me time to hug my girlfriend, dress up etc. I was jailed and tried and but since I didn't have any criminal record, they gave me the option of leaving U.S. on my own expence to avoid a deportation order which would have bared me from ever entering U.S. again. So, I did. Before I left I signed over my car title, a few blank checks (entire life savings, about 50K) to my girlfriend as it would have been too risky to bring cash and so she could hire a laywer for me, come get me etc. However it didn't work out this way and last year she broke up with me as she could not continue with a long distance relationship with no guarantee of ever meeting again (as its going to be almost impossible to get a visa now). I don't blame her at all and wish her the best. Earlier this year, I asked her if she could wire me my money and she agreed. We were on very good terms till now. She asked for a few weeks as she was busy with work and school. However its 5 months now and she has not sent the money. I'm broke. Moreover, when I call her, she gets angry and starts yelling at me for bugging her. She tells me to just wait till she has the time. I know it just takes an hour at the most, to wire money. I don't know why she is behaving like this. There is absolutely nothing which I may have done to make her mad at me. Im very confused. I know for sure that she loved me before and she is a very ethical person. I just don't understand why she is being so difficult when she knows I need her help.
So… Please give me your opinions, (especially female dopers)
What should I do?? What can I do? I know I don't have any legal recourse, (or do I ?) Should I try to contact her family? ( I just have their emails as they don't live in U.S.) Should I try to contact her friends? Work? ( Only have one friend's phone number) Should I just wait? I don't wanna do something stupid and give her a reason to be mad at me. I have lost all trust in my decision making skills (for starters) and thats why I want your opinion on this. Please don't judge me. I take full responsibility for the mess I am in, but I worked hard for that money.
Thanks for your time…