I was thinking the same thing. At least wait until the ceremony is over.
As evidenced by the hate, bitterness, and constant insults.
Not Stockholmy so much as just really good at getting the most I can out of terrible experiences.
But on second thought, actually I still might be really pissed off about that. If my story raised eyebrows, fine - I still have a hard time keeping all that shit straight myself. I can deal with that. But anybody - especially a champion of women’s rights - ought to know that ‘‘Fuck you, I don’t believe you’’ is not the most tactful way to address a seeming contradiction in personal testimony about a traumatic history. It’s been well-established that half of the shit normal people remember is pretty much pulled out of their asses anyway, and when you have a history as fucked up as mine I’d say the odds are pretty high that things aren’t always going to come out right.
So fine, he didn’t know that, or care, whatever. Maybe he was convinced I was the biggest goddamn troll in all of existence. The part that bothers me is that I’ve been here for four years and he still doesn’t give a shit how much he hurt me. He won’t even acknowledge the obvious risk he was taking by fucking with someone who was possibly genuinely traumatized. To me that’s just inhuman.
But if he doesn’t care, he doesn’t care. I can grind my axe or I can just accept him for what he is. Or I can bring it up every time he’s Pitted. I’m still mulling my options.
Been burned by false promises too many times in my past to believe it until I see it. The proof is in the posting.
Definitely appreciated. Thanks!
Olives, can we get a link for that thread? It’s been referenced in many posts. Maybe I missed it.
Alright, I read that as the smell of the organ.
(Which makes sense if the Evangelical Church is Ted Haggard’s.)
The fun starts at post 93.
Warning: I’m pretty embarrassed by my behavior in this thread. I was not mentally well.
He’s stubborn as a mule with lockjaw, but I doubt he doesn’t care at all. Dio wouldn’t engender such controversy if he didn’t have a human side that people liked and cared about.
And even if he is a cruel, uncaring robot, you know which choice you should choose out of the three you mentioned.
“Fuck you, I don’t believe you”? That is some cold shit. Followed up with “I don’t believe in insincere apologies.” I don’t recall that stuff when it happened, but reading it now makes me view Dio’s pledge to try to change with much more skepticism. That was class A asshole behavior. I’m going to have to see a real change to believe it.
Robots are cool. Did you ever see that movie about robots?
I think it was called The Happening.
The truth is under the middle one.
I’m glad to hear you say this (or read you write this, but that sounds strange). I don’t particularly like posts that bleed lots of personal stuff all over. When they are accompanied by “fuck you if you think this is TMI,” well, there’s not much need to go any further.
Having said that, I like who you’ve become (in SDMB land) since that time.
I also loathe [HUGS] posts, but that’s just me, and that’s why I don’t really spend much time in places where such posts are more likely to be seen.
Thank you. It took me a while to learn how to establish personal boundaries, and I would say that thread was one of my greatest instructors in that regard.
That said, my natural threshold for TMI is quite a bit higher than it is for the average person. It’s the closed off people I have a really hard time dealing with. I consider apathy a form of cowardice.
I’m sure there are individual differences in tolerance for such, and that, among many other things, makes life interesting. There are also individual differences in emotional manipulation and excessive attention seeking. While not identical with over-sharing, they co-occur often enough that it raises my hackles when I encounter it.
Interesting. I’m having a hard time conceptualizing apathy in such a way as to include an affective component. At the same time, I’m having a hard time conceptualizing cowardice as to not include an affective component. I don’t think that chocolate is going with that peanut butter for me.
I wonder if it’s more a method of trying to increase one’s personal attack on others who actually don’t really care (or perhaps don’t care enough about our own personal difficulties)? You know, trying to put them on the defensive by calling them cowards, even though it doesn’t fit?
Some people are definitely aggressively apathetic, but in my opinion this tends to be an assumed or affected apathy, rather than actual apathy.
I just had a look, and the quotes you give were a response to similar remarks --worse and unprovoked-- directed at Dio.
…not that I want to reanimate that discussion.
I knew that sounded familiar.
I think the actions (or lack thereof) over the past months really speak for themselves.
Thanks - I think that was the post my admittedly vague memory was recalling. Second verse, same as the first.
Apparently Dio said this once:
“I think my problem is more with tone than with content.”
It’s both. The tone sucks. And there is no content when he is in Dio mode. And its repeated over and over just to really make it all extra special.
Many posters might do ONE of those three on any given bad day. But their bad days are few and far between and then fade into obscurity because it didn’t cause a trainwreck. Dio often does all three at the same time and with a decent and apparently increasing frequency.
Maybe this latest intervention and him supossedly seeing the light will work but I aint holding my breath.