Ok. Yes, it felt good to insult You. But that was wasting of time, because You JUST DON’T GET IT.
Let me just TRY to explain this so that it should get through this thick skull of Yours. - It’s not about the meds! What the fuck have the Guinastasias meds got to do with catsix! Nothing! So there You go.
Well, unlike OP, I do not know catsix personally, hence I’m less qualified to make decisions about her. I did find Anal Scurvy’s joke gross and unfunny, but it seemed that he did not mean anything bad by it. I do not think the Pitting was very necessary, but unlike OP, I don’t know catsix personally. If a friend of mine said it was funny, I’d call them on that. So that may have been just it?
No, You’re not. But You’re supposed to argue with reason, not base Your attack on silly personal insults. You attacked the lowest way possible.
Then again, on your note, Cnote, such attacks say more about the attacker, than the attackee.
Chris, that was the part that I had an issue with. Attack someone’s behavior, attack their position, or even their ideals, but attack them for something they can’t control? That’s … tacky.
That’s what others were calling you a jerk for. Not so much that you disagreed with Guin but that you expressed it snarkily.
I also found these statements ironic in the same post:
The thread linked at the start of this thread is my only exposure to catsix so far. That being the case, I’ve got to agree with John Carter Of Mars. catsix sounded quite reasonable and some others not so much.
I’m not by any means without my flaws, and won’t claim to be. I just think the reaction I got in the other thread, and the starting of this thread were out of proportion to what I said over there.
Have any of your favorite comedians made jokes about beating a woman for the purpose of causing an abortion?
Have you ever found jokes about the following subjects humorous: the Holocaust? the killing fields? famine? rape? child abuse? race?
If you have never heard jokes on these subjects, is it still possible that you would find these subjects humorous and good material for a joke?
I fully agree that you have a right to express your opinions on what is funny. And I also support the idea that in the Pit, people have a right to express their opinions of you and the things that you say.
It is our Mod-given right.
When I hear jokes on any of the above topics, I always speak up. I don’t want anyone to feel comfortable around me to the point that they will make light of any of the subjects I mentioned. Jokes on these things dehumanize the people who have suffered. That makes it easier for the next person to dehumanize them in other ways. I want no part of that.
You are obviously intelligent and express yourself well. And I don’t know you personally. Like you, I love dark humor, black comedy and a sense of the absurd. But your finding humor in an act of cruelty that is actually common leaves me shaking my head.
Is there, by any chance, a little light on you forehead that says TILT?
Damn, apologies, apparently I stutter. Take Well, unlike OP, I do not know catsix personally, hence I’m less qualified to make decisions about her. off of my former post, and it’ll make more sense. :o
But to do so far to avoid children by making sure that even long time friends never show or introduce you to their children seems… shall we say… creepy. (Or as another poster put it, pathological)
So you don’t avoid things that cause you frustration and headaches?
My friends don’t arrange situations where we hang out with the kids around, but it’s not like I’m a nasty bitch if I see them with one of their kids at a grocery store or something.
It’s more or less like just not bothering to invite me on the kid’s trip to the zoo, or asking me to come hang out for a couple hours at a birthday party consisting of 6 year olds.
Yep, that’s all it was. Those who reflexively bash the motives and actions of the administration of this message board would do well to note that she’s still posting.
We’ve been friends for years. Then you announce that you’re going to marry, say a lawyer. I know I dislike lawyers and in my experience they are all annoying and talk too much.
So I tell you, “well, we can still hang out, as long as I never have to meet that husband of yours.” Incredibly rude, no?
No, what I would do is invite the two of you over for dinner, sometime have a backyard BBQ together. Even if he is really as annoying as I suspect, he is your husband and you love him. Part of being friends is accepting people who are an important part of the other’s person’s life.
We can still do things, just you and me alone. But to expect (or demand) that I never be exposed to someone who is an integral part of your life, would be incredibly selfish. Not to mention close-minded.
If any of my dear old friends had asked me to “make sure they never meet or see my kids”… well I can’t even imagine being friends with anyone who would be that rude.
jar, you and I have certainly had our differences, but you nailed it.
As did hardygrrl and monstro.
It’s not that she found it funny. Really. It’s her attitude towards those that were offended:
I’ve seen her do the same damn thing. In a Pit thread about painful periods, she scoffed at those who called into work sick, saying that SHE is so tough she’ll go to work puking and feverish, because otherwise it’s just being lazy and weak. Oh, and whining over your period is SO stupid! Because it’s NOT THAT BAD. And you better not let your kids be on the same airplane as she..
In other words-if she’s offended, she’ll scream and whine and moan, but the rest of us are wimps if we’re offended by something she isn’t. At least, that’s impression I get. I may be wrong, catsix, but it’s how you come off.
As for Anal Scurvy, I didn’t find his joke funny, although I can understand if he and his girlfriend did.
HOWEVER, the mods tend to not like jokes about rape and domestic violence and things like that. (Remember that guy who was banned for telling a rape victim “Obviously you weren’t on top?”)
As for Cnote, he didn’t hurt me. His choosing to attack my OCD in a totally unrelated topic shows his true colors. It says way more about him than it does me.
It just seemed a bit harshly phrased considering that I didn’t make any statements about posting gallows humor in protest of the rule.
I never said I wouldn’t abide by the rules, just that I disagreed with it.
At work we have this outdoor patio. Half of it is the smoking area, and half of it is the non-smoking area. Considering that it’s completely outdoors, and there’s nothing more than a painted line to distinguish one side from the other, it often seems to me and to a lot of the students to be a silly rule. Despite the fact that I think it’s a silly rule, I as an employee, have to enforce it, and I do.
Same thing here, where I may not agree with a rule, but never said I couldn’t live by them. So manhattan’s post seemed unnecessarily harsh due to his wording. Absent inflection and facial expression, it seemed like an accusation that I was about to ‘step out of bounds’, and that bothered me.
I just don’t think that what I said warranted the tone I received.
