Stella was approved by Ana to go a while ago, but only decided no AFTER she found out that Stella was good looking.
Ana is not necessarily being a bitch to stella, they havent met. Ana sees stella as competition and I expect Ana sees this night as mainly a way for her to get attention from guys at the club, despite being in a relationship. Because she is unhappy with her current relationship I expect she sees this as a night where she can get the attention she needs from random dudes which can not happen any other time.
Im confusing myself explaining this over and over. Ill check back after class in like 6 hours.
It doesn’t seem like much of a celebration of Anastasia’s birthday if Kristen is planning the whole thing around people she knows will make her happy.
So basically Kristen is dragging Anastasia out on the pretense of celebrating her birthday, then dumping her, along with stealing other guests “celebrating” the birthday. Are they going to leave her with the check, too?
Yeah, it would be great if Anastasia said “oh, a friend of yours is a friend of mine, bring her along!”. But to force someone to socialize with someone she doesn’t know and like on her birthday is no present. I’m not saying Anastasia couldn’t just shut up and suck it up, but it’s obvious to me that you aren’t planning this as an outing for her, but rather for yourself.
I read through the thread and tried to get interested enough to form an opinion, but I failed. Normally I wouldn’t even bother posting that, but in this case it makes my point. Unless you or your SO actually is A, K, or S*, my advice is to simply refuse to get sucked into this little drama at all.
*Upon re-reading the OP it seems possible that K is your SO. If so, this would be relevant information to anyone who might wish to provide their two cents. If not, see above.
K. should explain exactly that, in exactly those words. Followed by, “So. Still wanna go or would you rather go [insert some other fun thing to do]?”
Ana’s a twit.
FTR, a lot of people were sexually assaulted, raped, beaten, robbed, humilated, abused, and bullied. Most of us have a story or four. That doesn’t give anyone license to act like a Spoiled Little Snowflake Princess™. If I were K, I wouldn’t want to go anymore because, by virtue of being still invited, Ana is telling K. that Ana thinks she’s superior to K. in some way. As in, “Oh, well my ugly friends are still invited.”
I am not k’s so just a close friend. I think the above post about superiority is very coRrect and it was one of the first things that we noted.I didn’t clarify my new thoughts based on the informastion learned in my last post but I thnk a is being very silly to remove s based on looks alone after agreeing that she could come earlier. I don’t believe it should matter that a doesn’t know s, as k only invited s in an attempt to make the day more fun for everyone, a included.
This is on my phone so it may be a bit off, apologies.
Oh, I just figured out that her “best friend” and others are going to ditch the birthday girl at her own party? Who needs enemies with friends like K? :rolleyes:
The adult thing to do (if you can’t all pretend to get along) would be to just cancel the whole thing and do something else for A’s birthday.
I don’t know that you care, but I won’t be checking back with the thread anymore. You keep adding relevant information that wasn’t included in the OP, and just reading about the drama your circle deals in is giving me heartburn.
Also, tell Anastasia that I said birthday parties are for children. After the age of 16, the only social obligation friends have toward you is to say “Hey, happy birthday.” Everything else is gravy, and Ana should be thankful that anyone is even showing up to her party in the first place.
I know, right. Maybe someone could clap her on the back while wishing her happy birthday to get the “don’t stick your dick in me” sign on her back. Wait until just before you walk into the club.
Of course you’re not Katrina’s SO. You’re Stella’s SO…because if your name is Dave and the guys are doing their own thing, you’re not going to be there, ergo you have no other conceivable reason to be this invested in whether or not Stella comes or not.
It’s entirely the point. She’s disinviting a person because that person is “too attractive” and is going to take all the attention from the men she wants to lavish affection on her.
Just wait until her wedding, she’ll have the bridesmaids wearing burlap sacks and throw a makeup ruining fit if one of the guests smiles too long at her new hubby.
Yeah, she probably will. People can choose to either be in the wedding or not.
If it wasn’t her birthday I’d say screw what she thinks. But since this is her thing, dammit she should be able to invite/not invite whoever she wants, for whatever reason - even petty ones.
