Polycarp, you said:
"Finally, and reverting to the OP once more, while FriendofGod and Esprix may have resolved any conflicts they have had in their e-mail exchange, I have not yet seen FoG state on this board his response to Esprix’ question of whether he believes in the good faith of gay Christians. And others than Esprix have friends who were slammed by FoG’s assertion there. I’d very much like to drag that back out and get an answer, not to create problems but to resolve them. "
Thank you for your gracious way of bringing up this topic. I hadn’t planned on discussing this before because it was off the topic of the debate we were on before, but now that debate is long gone and over. I also wasn’t going to talk about it because I knew Esprix was upset about it, and I didn’t think it would be a good idea to discuss it while he felt that way. Via email, he has shown me that he pretty much still feels that way. I just emailed him and told him I would address the issue here in this post, primarily in response to you, Polycarp. I sense you genuinely want to know where I was coming from.
I do ask that you guys read through my entire comment before reacting one way or the other, or assuming anything.
Here we go . . .
First (point #1 of 3),
I believe it’s entirely possible for a genuine, born-again Christian to have homosexual tendencies. However, I will not single out homosexuality. It’s also possible for a genuine, born-again Christian to have tendencies toward sex outside of marriage, or sex with someone who isn’t their mate.
Throughout the ages, the tendency toward sexual sin has been one of the most vexing of all sins to Christians. And it involves so much more than sex … it involves the emotions. It involves heartfelt feelings. There are books written to Christian women about the dangers of “emotional adultery”, where you don’t commit the act, but the feelings are so strong.
It’s one of the most powerful traps a person can possible fall into. It can also be one of the most joyous blessings in a person’s life when they line it up with God’s plan.
I’ve mentioned before that a Christian has a heightened awareness of their own sins. If there are sexual sins or tendencies, they become aware of them and desperately want to rid themselves of them. Some are successful, some are not.
I’ve known genuine believers for years who have agonized over the sin in their life and have just not found the solution yet. Nonbelievers would scoff and say, “You’re just trying to get away with it.” No. Yes there’s enjoyment at first, but the bitter taste that sin leaves causes you to want no part of it.
So that’s one side of the coin. Believers can have tendencies and temptations toward all kinds of sexual sins, not just homosexual. (“If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives” - I Jn 1:10). Read Romans 7 for a description of the incredible agony a believer feels when he/she’s in sin.
Now, that was point 1 of 3. Hang with me.
Point #2: there is an entirely different kind of person out there as well . . . someone who doesn’t claim to be a Christian and who lives a LIFESTYLE of some brand of sin, be it adultery, sex outside of marriage, homosexuality, or some other thing.
To be honest, I have no problem whatsoever with someone in this category. If you aren’t a Christian, I ASSUME you will do whatever you want to do! That’s pretty much the definition of a nonChristian … someone who runs their life by their own rules. That’s what I expect, just like THEY would expect me to try to live my life by the Bible.
Believe it or not, the Bible makes a strong case for this in 1st Corinthians 5:9 -
“I have written you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people – NOT AT ALL meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world.”
So far we have the Bible making two things plain – a Christian shouldn’t be bothered or surprised at all by nonbelievers acting in an immoral way … and a believer can sometimes be caught up in a sin-habit that causes agony in their soul because they can’t seem to shake it.
Now, point #3. There’s one final side to this coin as well. Let me preface it with these verses:
“Why do you call me ‘Lord, Lord’ and do not do what I say?” (Lk 6:46)
“By their fruit you will recognize them . . . Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only he who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” (Mt 7:16a and 21)
There is a third category. People who claim to be born-again Christians, and yet they live in open, blatant sexual immorality as a lifestyle.
God loves people like this just as much as He loves anyone else. And because He loves them, He issues a command in the Bible that is, on it’s surface, shocking. But it’s goal is pure, deep love.
If God didn’t love people in this category, He would just mosey on and say “Oh well, they just don’t get it”. But no. He knows the ONLY way to get someone out of this deep deep deception is through drastic measures. Hence the following stunning scripture:
(continuing the passage started earlier …)
“But now I am writing you that you must not associate with anyone who CALLS HIMSELF A BROTHER but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or a slanderer, a drunkard or a swindler. With such a man, do not even eat.” (1 Cor 5:11)
Wow. That’s sobering just to type that out. The passage continues …
“What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside? God will judge those outside.” (I Cor 5:12-13a).
It seems the only way people in this category can be reached is to have a clear, unmistakable line drawn for them in the sand …
Follow Christ, or follow your lifestyle of sin … but you can’t do both. You have to choose.
I’ve known people who’ve had this line drawn for them by loving leaders in the church (in every case I know of, it was a male/female couple living in sexual immorality outside of marriage). Most of them were grateful that someone cared enough to break them out their deception. Some, sadly, got offended and left.
I had to do this only once in my life, and I pray I never have to again. It was one of the most gut-wrenching, awful experiences in my life, but what could I do? The Bible was pretty clear-cut. It literally brought me to tears. The brother I challenged didn’t respond well at first. Now, thankfully, several years have past and he is actually grateful I challenged him. He is married and walking solidly with Christ today.
The point is this, and I’m sorry but I cannot and will not tiptoe around it or apologize for it.
The Bible says plainly that you have a choice. You can choose to follow Jesus, or you can choose a life of immorality - be it sex outside of marriage, adultery, drunkenness, or homosexuality. But you CANNOT do both.
The Bible puts it this way in rather stark, and clear, terms:
“Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? DO NOT BE DECEIVED: neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor theives nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” (I Cor 6:9-10)
Another sobering verse. That “do not be deceived” seems pretty blatant and clear. A paraphrase would be, “Don’t even TRY to kid yourself”.
Thankfully, it doesn’t stop there.
“And that is what SOME OF YOU WERE. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.” (v 11)
So there it is. Probably not what anyone on this board wanted to hear or hoped to hear, but that’s the message of the Bible. Don’t kid yourself that you can run your life and do whatever you want and be right with God.
But at the same time, if you’re willing to SUBMIT your life to God, He can give you a deep, fulfilling joy that is deeper and greater than anything that sinful lifestyles can even dream of providing. The sin is the cheap counterfeit.
God provides true, fulfilling, LASTING joy and offers it to all who want it.